She should live her life the best way she knows how. If she isnt ashamed to show “how low she can go” then neither should we. People need to pick better times to mind there on damn business. We can watch little kids play in a crowded street and would do anything. Some chick shake her ass now everybody has something to say.

As far as my woman reflecting on me. Personally I dont care I would love her for her for better or worse. I dont live my life for people outside of my circle.

And for the record WHO DAT SAY THEY GON BEAT DEM SAINTS!

roflmfao. ay yi yi. well first and foremost she is a grown ass woman and can do as she pleases. she knew what the deal was by doing what she did even if she didn’t think she’d be taped, people TALK so it would have gotten out either way. if she was my mother it wouldn’t faze me…what about all the mothers to be that have graced the GIRLS GONE WILD infomercials? shit nowadays there’s dirt online about e v e r y b o d y so i see no sense in crucifying her.

as for your partner representing you, i do agree to an extent however this situation is diff because she’s the baby mama NOT wife or girlfriend so i don’t think she gives two shits about his image. maybe this was payback for his becky ;]

Everything she did in that video is probably what attracted Dwight Howard in the first place.

I don’t think the video was that bad, seemed like she’s just a young lady having fun who got caught up in the moment.

I’ve never heard anything about her abusing or neglecting her kids so I’ll give her a pass. Not that she should give a damn about what I think anyway.

SMDH…only because I can’t do that, lol.

She didn’t do anything all that scandalous. If she had a bunch of men up on her grindin’ with her and holding her in very compromising positions like she was a porn star while she did some very questionable things with her head/hands/boobs/etc. that would be a different story. But really, she shook her booty for a competition (OK, hearing the grand prize makes me think she’s vaguely foolish, or at the very least was craving attention, but that’s beside the point), and really when you see how covered up she remains in comparison to the woman she was going up against, it makes her look pretty darned decent, IMO

While I do think that people in a relationship do need to mind themselves and their behaviour when it comes to things that can be considered scandalous because you are representing someone else each and every day, she isn’t somebody’s mate, she is somebody’s baby moms, so she doesn’t need to worry about anyone other than herself and her child. On that level, while I think there are things that she could do while in the public eye to look trashy or incompetent, I don’t think dancing in broad daylight while her child is well taken care of by a babysitter while she gets to let loose for once is one of those things.

And not for anything, but if I could do what either of those women could do I would SO be all over it, showing off where ever I go (as long as the situation is appropriate…no breaking out the bikini to shake my ass at dinner with the boyfriends parents or anything!! LOL)!! I’d be winning competitions all over North America!! LOL

Ho-ish is as ho-ish does. Period.

I’m too old for that mess. And any woman who is a mother is as well. Sorry. I don’t care about who her baby daddy is but for the sake of her motherhood she should act like one.

Humans. Some simply shouldn’t procreate.

*smh*

Wish I can do that. I swear ! T-T

Anyways, I don’t think it’s really up to us to be all judgmental and dictate what she should or should not do. Let God do HIS job.

With that being said, if she was my mother then, it’d be hard for me to accept it. But she isn’t my mother, nor is she my wife/my gf and even if she was my best friend, I still won’t mind.

And yeah, a partner’s action does reflect badly on us, it just shows how skewed our judgments are but honestly speaking though, won’t you already know that by the time you went out with him/her ?

You are your own person, your actions should be dictated by you and done for you and only you. This is, if you’re not married or not in a serious relationship.

But even if you’re married/serious relationship, there still should be that sense of individuality maintained by yourself to not lose your identity.

I love to dance wildly in clubs, although not to the extent like the lady above, I’d go up on podiums and just dance crazily. It’s just who I am. It’s my way of having fun. Now if I was single, then whatever.

But if I’m taken, I’d just set some boundaries for me and my bf. That’s just how it is in a relationship. And if neither party can tolerate and accept each other, then what’s the point of being in a relationship ?

Aha!! There it is.
Anywho, like everyone said it is not our place to judge. Moreover, she only represents herself and her child…she would not act that way if she was with Dwight or anyone else for that matter. She just gave folks ammunition to stereotype her (and yes you can say, “da#$ what people say, but the reality of things is you really can’t). Women should try to have some respect for themselves, don’t go doing stuff like this and getting offended when a man treats or steps to you in a messed up way. If you portray yourself with some decorum, you receive respect…its just that simple.

How old is she? If she is younger than 25, she gets a pass cause having a baby doesn’t make everyone change for the better.

The girlfriend is a reflection of her man & vice versa.

I’m with GG – I WISH I could do that. Although I would not do it in public.

It is a shame though that so many people are judging her based on the fact that she is a mother. So what? Being a mother does not mean her life ended or she can’t have fun. It was NOT a kiddie party and her kids were NOT there. The only thing is that some a** put it on YT. At least her clothes were on (in the beginning anyway). If that is who she was BEFORE her pregnancy then why should she change now? It does not make her a crappy mom or mean that she is unfit.

How is she any different from Beyonce and others who are constantly flashing their crotches on the award shows and in concert? Does the fact that they are getting paid $MM for it make it more acceptable? SMDH at this one.

“People need to pick better times to mind there on damn business. We can watch little kids play in a crowded street and would do anything. Some chick shake her ass now everybody has something to say.” Da Throne

^^^^ Someone Applaud this man!!..lol

I dont see what the big deal is about her “dropping it low”.. it actually made me laugh the way they started competing & then actually dancing with each other. For a second I thought it was gonna turn into a fight..lol.
I googled her and she is a damn Dancer, so give her a friggin break, this is what she does. Its not like she was giving lap dances to Luda and his people or simulating sex act wit the dudes”! This was definetly one of the cleanest Ive seen cuz some chicks be WILD’in for REAL!

Her 15 minutes, oops make that 15 seconds is about up!!

Ok I am not judging at all just stating how I feel.
I feel like once you become a mother no matter who the father is there are just somethings you don’t do. You are not only representing you but you are representing your children. Were are your children when you are out there grinding and dropin it on other females. I am not saying once you have a child that you cant have any fun and go out. But damn I just think she was taking it to far.

I’m unable to watch the clip on my PC so went through the painful process of uploading to my phone. I personally don’t understand what all the fuss is about. As a woman whose family is from the islands you’d see this and more at any pas pas on a Saturday night.

She’s a dancer and probably felt like this was her thing and had this contest in the bag. I don’t even think it was about the tickets. If Dwight Howard were grinding up on various women in a similar contest, I doubt anyone would be talking about it or labeling him as a bad father or an embarrassment. I feel this is another example of women being held to a different standard and find the over reaction to be extremely sexist.

She was not being too over the top or inappropriate in my view. The contest was held at an adult party pool party and she had more clothes on than some of the attendees. What amazes me is that we are all subjected to over sexualized commercials, shows, videos, etc and THIS is an issue. I didn’t hear all this rah rah about Nelly sliding a credit card down some skeets assets or when Halle Berry basically did soft porn for an Oscar. We never ask does this action represent this model, actress/ actors spouse or significant other. So, why ask now?

I also believe she got him by popping and locking so he wouldn’t be surprised. If he felt she may not have been a good mother figure at the time , he probably should have saran wrapped it * Kanye shrug*

She’s gonna do her…but this should be a hint for the fellas be careful who you have kids with. That could be your baby moms.

I agree with da ThRONe and melody. Who cares and it could be MUCH MUCH worse
Do you think that Reed did anything wrong?
-Nope. Apparently she did something right to have folk bumping there gums about it. Most of the haters/people that are bothered by it are females that can’t do it. lmao Should she be mindful of how her actions may affect Dwight Howard’s public image since he’s a celebrity? Or is she a grown ass woman and is free to do what she wants—even booty poppin’? Dwight Howard is responsible for his own public image. If she was his wife, or even his gf, then maybe it’d be different but HE chose to knock her up and now he’s not with her. He should of thought of his public image before he laid pipe. Shortie can do what she wanna do. And as many celebrities that have been caught out there and dragged through the mud. He should have waited until he was married to have children if he was really concerned about what a baby mama might do. Should Dwight be upset at Reed’s actions? Who cares? Do you think Reed’s booty poppin’ was becoming of a mother? Um, it’s really not my place to say what a “mother” should do. As a mother, I do what I want and I take care of my daughter. I work a 9-5 but when she was younger and I was trying to finish college. One of my three jobs was dancing. If anyone wants to pay for some school uniforms, braces, sneakers, books, food, clothes, etc…Then I’ll happily follow your advice on what a mother should and shouldn’t do but if not—KICK ROCKS! The only thing that bothered me about this video was the fact that the prize was some basketball tickets. How embarrassed would you be if this was your mother? I’d probably be embarrassed if I was a kid and my friends saw my mom dancing like this but it’s not that serious. At least she’s not naked. Do you feel that your partner’s actions can ever reflect badly on you? Of course, but in this case, she’s not his partner in anything but raising the child and again, HE CHOSE THAT. How would you feel if this was your baby mama/daughter/mother/sister? I’d be mad as hell that all she got was some basketball tickets.

Perhaps because there has been so much press about Ms. Royce is the reason for all the blasting her for being who she is. Honestly so long as she provides for her child as a mother should then really it is none of my business. I might raise an eyebrow if she were to get pregnant again by another player from any sport; but hey its easy to judge and something I’d rather not do.

IMO if I were in her situation (which I would not want to be) I would live my life the way I should, with class and dignity. But that’s just me!

I totally agree with you Tasha.

My question to Royce Reed’s line of thinking is:

Should your son (of sound mind) view this clip of his mother anytime from now and/or in the future, how can you explain to him that these actions he viewed can reflect in the woman he chooses to stand by his side in his adult life?

and by “actions he viewed” I am referring to what is done on and off camera, readily available to him by media or word of mouth!

Just exited Miami a few hours ago, and…Unfortunently alot of people’s mothers were don’t way more, for likely way less.. She was a cheerleader, and dude fell for a classic line.. She knew dude just came out of H.S. so he wasn’t used to the “professional talent”.. One of the many reason’s HS. kids should go to college.. sex ed.

It’s a shame what money has done to our culture, but to be fair, there were a bunch of “Barbies with silicon upgrades” taking there share of the action, I’m sure someone will release a SoBE Gone Wild DVD featuriing some the shennagins I saw..

What she did was not that bad. She might embarrass her kids, but they will get over it. She is not with the BABY DADDY, so she should be able to do what she wants. Plus, she didn’t get naked.

I believe the biggest problem with this is the fact that, even if some dont realize it, she is a mother.. Now take her having a son out the picture (she could still have been with D.H), watch it again, and you see a girl dancing.. THATS IT. I believe the stigma around it is that “mothers” shouldnt act like this or that.. She is still a young woman and still able to have fun and let loose.. Our society has trained us to almost take a “mother” being sexy or sexual out of the equation when in fact she is still a woman, she still wants to feel wanted, sexy and beautiful.. I dont know if THIS was the best route to take for it but its the truth.. If she was doing that in the club everybody would be around her chantiin (or lookin at her sideways) but it would not be that big of a deal..

I dont see anything wrong with what she did.. I mean, I dont know if ME, MYSELF, would be droppin it and poppin it all like that just for some courtside seats, but she is a GROWN WOMAN.. She is dancing!! Im sorry but I have seen chicks do worse than that in the club!!

I think Dwight Howard is doing his own thing and let her do hers..

First off, it’s not right to judge, but if a woman walks out the restroom with her skirt inside her stockings, would we just let her be, or would we tell her? Mom always told me that if you know better, you should do better. End of story. Hell, I wish I could do that too, but it is definitely not for everyone to see unless that’s your profession.

To all the fellas that seem to have no problem with how Royce “does” Miami or Dwight, so be it. But I honestly believe if this were someone you truly cared for, you would have yanked her ass right off that platform(as she should have been) and saved her and you further embarrassment.

Dwight looked to be unfazed by her reinactment of “This is how we do it”, but I guaran dam tee you, after he gets haggled by his boys, teammates, the media, and everyone else, she’ll get a call from him askin her, “WTF were you thinking?”

She will ALWAYS be a reflection of Dwight as we all are of our counterparts.

Our actions reach much further than we could ever imagine.

People, let’s not praise stupidity. She should have known better, and her girls should have told her better.

Last words. Bettye Wright said it best,”…be a Lady in the streets…freaky in da bedroom!”

Oh let me clarify my first line

Meant to say that the biggest problem some may have with it, even if they dont realize, is because she is a mother

If I were her, I’d care less… better yet TWO PHUCKS about Dwight’s image, and I am a “Baby mama”, “ex wife” “estranged” whatever you want to call it. NOW I would be concerned about the effects it would have on my children. Once you have children, the person you are doesnt automatically change (even though it should the minute your baby arrives or upon conception)…Its a decision you have to make for yourself and your kids not for your “baby daddy” or his Publicists… Now if their still together, thats a different story! You are a representation of your mate and vice versa.

Anybody who knows me know my philosophy is “If your doing the same exact things you did before you became a parent you are a bad parent”. But the notion that you have to become some prude is ridiculous. She’s still young and as long as her child is well taking care of she can do whatever she wants(provided its legal and/or doesnt put her and/or her child at harms way). So what if her child sees this in the future? He/she probably will be a lil embarrassed(maybe) and will move on with their life. He/she life isnt going magically come to an end because mom was shaking her ass as a young mother.

There is nothing wrong with wanting attention. Most of us do even if we’re not willing to go to that length(then most cant do what she did). Now if I found out she left her child in the car to go shake her ass. I would be sharpening the pitchforks and lighting the torches!

Scratch Dwight being unfazed. The Man Child looks hurt. Concentrate on him and not her. He tried to play it off, but,”It’s written all over your face. You don’t have to say a word.”

lol….Yeah, it’s NOT our place to judge–but lets not let THAT little fact stop us this time either. We judge things and ppl ALL day long, so anyone expressing that line of thinkin probably shouldn’t be participating in a blog. Anyways, ol’girl is NOT DH’s lady anymore. She is a grown azz young lookin woman and just bcuz she’s a mom, doesn’t mean her life is over. Moms should be able to get their freak on too, right? The funny thing is: how come you don’t see dad’s doing this type of thing? How come say Mary “J” and one of the female basketball players weren’t having a contest with men dancers? How come sexiest shyt ALWAYS (90 % of the time) involves women? So yeah, baby mommas can go buck wild, but there is no “Guys Gone Wild” dvd and no guy’s dancin nasty as they wanna to get tickets to a b-ball game. Kinda funny how that works. Even though women have become so well paid in their careers and jobs, y’alll STILL are the ones that are defined as sex objects. It’s a good thing almost everyone is willing to be progressive and understanding about a woman’s right to act skanky………huh, whoda thunk-it!

depending on how old she is, she would get a pass. if she was say older than 25, she should know better and act accordingly.

as far as being tied to dwight howard, she was her own person before she had his baby and she is her own person now. the only thing that has changed is now they share a child together. granted i wouldn’t want the mother of my children up there doing that (if we were together).

now i can’t dance and would never do that if i could. but i don’t see a problem with that. why are men hypocrites that’s probably what got her with her baby daddy in the first place and if the condom broke or he didn’t use one at all his bad… but i mean i’m sure every man would have loved to be at that show and would have been drooling. so i mean now that she someone famous baby mama she ain’t human, she’s supposed to mold to that bull. i’m sure she was doing it before him and will be doing it after. if it wasn’t for females like that men across the world would have no need to go to strip clubs and kappa beach partys and all that jazz. i applaude her cause she can have it i don’t want that title.

I certainly agree with the philosophy that anyone shouldn’t have to become a prude once they enter parenthood and that her child’s life by all means should not come to an abrupt end due to his Mother’s actions. With that being said…

I most agree that ass shaking of that nature should be kept private.

Perhaps we should take a poll on how many/and to what degree people would be embarrassed by viewing their Mothers in this fashion. If it was mine (after tossing my cookies) I would start sharpening my pitchforks and lighting my torches headed for her!

You’re always suppose to be a lady in the streets and save the freak for the bedroom.

i call BS all up and through these comments. first, why are we acting like the fact that this was being videotaped doesn’t matter? this isn’t strictly about her dancing in a competition- this is about her showing poor decision-making skills by doing it with cameras present (and for Clippers tickets. really, ma’am? CLIPPERS tickets? eww). and yes, we DO expect mothers and fathers to have good decision-making skills since THEY ARE IN CHARGE OF A LIFE and teaching those same skills to their children.

and all these “it’s not our place to judge”- you’re right; however, we judge every damn day and our judgment creates social norms and sanctions that give your world order and that you enjoy the privilege of and benefit from every day so let’s kill this nonsense. otherwise, there would be women dancing like this on the metro and p-popping in your face- i mean, they’re not hurting anyone and it’s not your place to judge so just sit there and enjoy. yea, right. you’re judging people for their comments of judgment. GTFOH with that. you definitely understand where people are coming from so stop it. it’s not like people are judging her for home-schooling her kid or practicing an uncommon religion. people are judging her for doing ho shit on camera- this judgment is not a moral tragedy.

as far as her presenting him, that man wasn’t worried about how lady-like or how good of a mother she would be while he was running through her. the same dances she was doing on that stage are DEFINITELY the same dances she did to get him. he clearly has terrible judgment as well. i weep for that child with two dumbass parents and whole bunch of dummies surrounding them talking about “don’t judge ‘em.” lawd.

ha. Respect to Ans on “maybe im a secret sexist” bit. Least you can be open about that possibility.

I say yes unfortunately its double standard discussion again. Ey. home girl’s doing her thing. A little scandalous? maybe. But its a party, and that’s what the party was about. Im sure Taco Meat doesnt love being a mess but ey that’s what the party was about no? heh heh respect tho.

I don’t think she deserves extra scrutiny because of her association with ol boy. I think it goes to the discussion of what each of us as an individual would think about OUR mate doing it. Me? nah son. keep that at home…but i also understand…well, if im dating a dancer/cheerleader i knew what i was getting involved with.

Trust, people that are hating are either: A) prudes B) mad they cant do the same or C) jealous of ol boy and his girl. Its a party. Period. Sadly in the age where everyone has a camera phone, many people feel the need to Big Brother everyone else to a fault.

Damn Sassy. That was SASSY! Is there no place for “to each his own?”

Yes she is a grown
ass woman, what she eat doesn’t make either of us shit. But here is the thing, forget Dwight & his image what about the kid? If we can be honest with ourselves for a second, how will you feel if you do come across a vintage footage of your mother (I’m assuming we all have one lol) putting up a heck of a show like this. Hey, she is a grown ass woman right? Shoot! I will enjoy that a footage of any woman with that talent as long as it ain’t mom dukes. C’mon shouldn’t our perception towards anything in life change a little once we procreate? Maybe I’m just crazy

To the issue of What if it was your mom?… so your mom couldn’t have had wild out moments like everyone else?

Granted i dont wanna see it but if it DOES come to light she broke it down like this at a party…you gonna love her less? Respect her less? Cmon…Mama?

I dunno maybe im too liberal but ive had my share of embarrasing moments and i love and appreciate the people around me that have allowed me to live them down. Id be salty if my own child caught wind of this and tried to judge ME on it. (lil punk ass kids)
People need to get off their high horse.

I dont think it matters at all that she is Dwight Howard’s baby mama i do think it she should check herself and her judgement because she is simply a mom. No child wants to see their mom out there shakin her ass for the whole world to see. Keep it at home. She can party and have fun but dang can we be classy!!!! It just shows poor judgement she is not worried about how her actions will effect her child as she should be.

I gotta put my crown back on for this blog!

Once again do I wanna see Big D in a full spread in playboy magazine? Hell to-the-no! But like Potato pointed out and I already said at first there’s gonna be some embarrassment. But after it went away I would understand based off of all the off the wall stuff I have done in my 29 years.

And I have said this IMO there is a diffence between having an opinion or first impression of something then judging another person. Judging IMO is when you are telling some based on your opinion what they should or shouldnt be doing. This is clearly an opinion situation.

I understand everyones comments… hmmm… yea shes a mother, but this is the 21st century ppl! smh…

Cameras are EVERYWHERE… Im sure alot of you are thankful ur past acts were not caught on tape! lol!

Besides I know the tickets were not the only reason… shes a dancer and she had to DANCE! And those chicks was trying to out do her! lol!
I understand!

Either way we can’t judge…
and for her ‘u live and u learn!’

The only thing that should be judged from this video is “How Low Can She Go”, not her capability as a mother.

No one on this earth is perfect (except for me J/K, no seriously), so stop judging. We (not me) are all jacked up in some form or fashion, so if you are going to judge, begin with the person in the mirrior.

She was just dancing! It was a contest to see who was the best dancer, not about the prize! When I was younger and partying, I saw worse than this in competitions! The only difference today is that we have You Tube for the whole world to see what only a few ppl used to see back in the day! BTW, she may clown like this at home with her child, so they wouldn’t be surprised by how much Mom likes to dance. All of us have done crazy moves at home or at parties just for the attention, get over this!

Let’s talk about them Saints! Who dat? We did dat! Congratulations, it’s been a long time coming!

P.S MIDWEST 4EVA!!!
Heart and Soul belonged to the Colts…
All the “Saints” had was Kim’s fake booty!

am i the only one who was mesmerized by the other girls booty? go go gadget ass clap

@b.collins

That was nothing. Come to a New Orleans block party and you will yarn at that video!

Just like to point out, at every account you said your baby’s mother, never once saying your wife or woman which ties in to the whole issue of, what she does then has nothing to do with the father of her children because he is not her husband nor her committed.
The fact of the matter is if we all thought harder and longer, and took the steps to be in bonafied relationships or be with someone worth even creating a life with, questions like these wouldn’t have a place in our mouths.
If we were as selective with integrity, morals, intelligence, etc. as we are with looks, money and intangible things, we wouldn’t have so many issues and problems down the line.

But she did her thing, and the problem is she’s blamed based on her acts and her actions, more so because she’s a woman.

No one is questioning Ludacris for having such a contest that demoralizes the image of women, nor for giving out such a shitty prize, Basketball tickets? he gets a #fail on that one

@ Da ThRone at your response to b.collins, my point exactly!

If you think that is scandalous stay away from Mardi Gras b/c this is so-o-o-tame compared to what children and adults witness in NOLA even at some of our house parties! OK!?

Her antics were not that bad.

SHE’S A MOTHER! It’s not about Dwight or even her. It’s about the children… I’d never do ANYTHING that has potential to negatively affect my kids… I can “drop it low” with the best of them but I reserve that for my bedroom, Or wherever else we choose that night lol… I gave that stuff up when I had my FIRST child… Somebody needs to tell her to keep her behind at home… I don’t understand how women with children have so much time to party. Who is raising the kids? Nannies?

No we cant judge and not every woman is fit to be a wife. But…. better him than me. Any in-the-picture, responsible man/father who says he could handle the mother of his children dropping it in front of his work peers like that – in front of a camera – is secure (and perhaps lying) in ways this secure man is not. More progressive power to you brothers! I salute you!

im from a white northeast suburb. there’s no block parties w/ bootie clapping and whatnot. the smallest twitch of an ass and i start seeing that swirling twilight zone circle repeatedly

@Momof3

I will agree that the only potential issue here is who’s with the baby while shes “getting low” and how often she’s leaving the baby with them to go party. BUT since we dont have this info(atleast I dont) we need to mind our own business.

Thats great you were willing to switch to “Boring Mom” over night ,but this isnt you this is her. This will most likely be a none issue well before that child will ever be old enough to know and care what happened. Im just glad it not her baby shaking on the video.

So what she’s a mother! Everyone has the right to whatever and whomever they want; kids or not!

@GG

Ofcourse as long as it doesnt put her and/or her child in harms way and it’s legal.

She is obviously not doing anything illeagal and her child is not in danger.

I watch the video and i have to say that after viewing people’s comments, I am very disappointed. This is a site that openly talks about sex but yet a lot of responses and even the writer seems close minded. It sounds kind of contradicting to me. All they were doing was dancing, the same kind of dance in fact I have done since middle school. With the exception of dancing on another girl, in the Midwest, we danced like this. It was a battle of who could do it better. In fact, I know there is a video of me dancing in the club just like this. Now it was before I had my child, but it could still pop up and my child could end up seeing it. If that happens I would just explain it was dancing. For the people who stated that she is a mother that does not mean she can’t have fun. In fact, lil mama was tearing it up, putting ole girl to shame. I have been in Miami during Memorial Weekend where just about everyone has their booty out and are popping in the middle of the street on bikes in broad daylight. And I know some of these same people have kids and there are cameras going at all times. I also just seen them doing the same booty popping dance on Americas Best Dance Crew. I havn’t seen anyone up in arms about that. The only reason people are even talking about it is because she has a child from someone that is in the limelight. It just seems like people have their panties in a bunch over nothing.

@ FLOWERCHILD and daThRONe… I so agree with you guys 100%, and I just wanted to add that if I found footage of my mother like this…I would DIE laughing. When I was younger…I would have DIED even faster from lack of oxygen from laughing too hard. And then I would have shown everyone in my entire family so they could all laugh too. There was nothing nasty, degrading, or scandalous about this video…perhaps because I was not raised to think that type of dancing was raunchy or disgusting as long you keep yourself in check, which I think she did. And if I ever found footage of my mother being young and ridiculous I honestly wouldn’t be phased….I would be amazed, but not upset

?? If we didn’t know who she was would there be any comments? I mean can people do anything these days without being judged. When I looked at the video I thought damn, thats probably how she got his attention but I would rather her dance like that in public than to see her sextape floating around online!!!! It was a contest and she won!!

Yeah you all are right she is grown and should be able to do what she wants to do. But at the end of the day she is a mother and if I am not mistaken she has a son. I have two teenage boys and I make it my business respect myself in their presence. Now dont get me wrong, I am not a prude by any means. But their is a little thing called discretion. I would not want my boys to see me doing some shit like that on camera. Hell they dont even know that I date!!!!

Yall are a trip! This is all about opinions… I gave mine…

It is Miami, it doesn’t count. Her only fail in my opinion is doing all that for some nba tickets. I would think if she was a nba player’s baby momma, she should already have the hook up for game tickets. FAIL FAIL FAIL.

If you think that once someone is your wife, or has your child that they should turn into some nun, or prude…you have the wrong perception.

maybe im missing the point but what was negative about the video? excuse me if im wrong but didnt she make it as a cheerleader or something? that doesn’t even matter… why are people bugging off this? just because its embarrassing to “you” does not make it embarrassing…. ok so moms can drop it like its hot? shes a MILF then… even when her child gets older, sees the video and may or may not be embarrassed doesn’t make it wrong…. we’ve all had a parent, step parent, relative, or idol do something off hand… they are human… PEOPLE REALLY NEED TO STOP BEING SO JUDGEMENTAL…. i respect opinions but at the same time people need to understand that their thoughts and way they live their life is not the rule….

oh and fyi? has anyone ever thought she was just doing it for the competition? sometimes is the thrill of competing and not the prize that draws contestants…. just a thought…shaking your ass at a pool party in a swimming suit isnt a bad thing either…. but watch….. someone up here will say its not ladie like….

Uummm, yeah #EpicFail describes this perfectly.
Dwight, baby… What were u thinking??? SMDH!
I still love his silly ass, but this chick here… OMG!
One of the comments about custody was great, that’s what he should do. Take the baby and try to raise it by himself, or with his mom’s help or sth.
Cuz this here is a problem waiting to happen!

I have to agree with Sassy NoLA, she made the poor choice to put herself on display like that for a pair of tickets. I understand that she was at a party having a good time, but she also is much aware of her association with Dwight. Personally with that being said, why would Ishe bite the hand that feeds her? He is being a father financially, emotionally etc. then it is my duty to be a woman for myself and my child. Technology is the devils’ playground, and there is still a double standard in society particulary for African American women. After reading the other comments, I am under the impression that due to a lack of maturity and knowledge that the comments reflects sheer apathy about the situation.

I would think that she probably could have gotten tickets on her own and unless we personally know these people we don’t know what type of parents they are. Hell even knowing someone you can’t always tell.

I thought the double standard would make more women say “she can do what she wants as long as its not disrespectful, men do it all the time” but I think society has us judging our own actions against a preconceived code of conduct. I agree that technology has helped some but has created a lot more problems that we don’t need.

We might also be forgetting that DH is still young even though he’s in the NBA. He went from high school to the pros so he missed out on those frat parties where you would see all that going down. She might be as young and just living her life. I could see something kind of wrong if her child was a teenager and standing in the front row.

It’s the little things like this that keep us from coming together. You can’t say someones a bad mother because she was booty poppin.

I would like to know how many people would have just laughed if she was a bad dancer and said she looks like a fool but not comment on her being a bad mother.

She is grown can do whatever she wants to have fun and enjoy herself…we wear far less than that at Carnival time in our country and the behaviour is loose.

Do you at all costs. Then, be responsible enough to woman up and be accountable for your actions as she has in her response.

I truly wish I could move like that. In fact, I’ve been trying ever since I saw the video. I would love to dance like that for my man. Seems as though she was simply having fun, but it’s too bad it wasn’t in a small private area for just her close cirlce of friends to see. Anyway, her response letter truly summed it up for me. Everyone needs to give her a break. I know she’s a mom, she’s human also!