Size matters most of the time. Recently broke up with the perfect “good on paper” guy (reasons why for another post) who had a short and thin penis. In the back of my mind, I knew there was a slight chance I’d cheat if presented with a better option. And I’m similar to Ms. Soft and Pink, I need love for sex to feel good.

Kinda separate note, an old boyfriend told me vaginas are different sizes (at age ~30). Never occurred to me. Guess there is such a thing as goldi-cocks. Just the right fit from one person.

IJS

That Rihanna picture is fucking hilarious.

Nothing else to say, will be lurking.

I am a self-proclaimed size queen!!

Once you go big, you can no longer deal with a twig!

I have had a MAGNUM XL (mouth watering now) and I haven’t been right ever since. Meaning, no one is ever BIG ENOUGH.

I don’t care about oral sex, I wan’t a BIG STICK and not the popcicle.

What would you do if you found the perfect man in every way except he wasn’t packing anything worthwhile down below?

I met a guy that gave me THE BEST head EVER!

When we finally had sex… yeah, let’s just say that I stopped talking to him and his teeny weeny

LMAO @ the BONUS small penis links

YES SIZE MATTERS!! There is no tip-toe’ing, tryin to protect nobody’s feelings type thing.. it does.. I say this because I have been with the rainbow of penis’ when it comes to size.. i have had just about everything. I have had small, long-but-thin, small-but-thick, average, above average and I-think-I-am-going-to-need-a-hysterectomy… And average to above average are the ones that I have had the most “fun” with and got the most satisfaction from.

Like one of your ladies said, if you are too small then there are spots you can hit, and if you are to thin then i really cant feel you because that girth is REALLY what it is…lol.. And NO just because he has a mandingo dick does not mean that he is going to be good!! Sorry, but thats not true..There are positions you cant get into with a man thats too big because it really does hurt..(I got a hair-line fracture on my cervix because of that so ummmmm I do know what Im talking about)..

I wholly believe in test drivin that joystick before REALLY gettin into it because I do not care what anyone says, for both sexes, sex is a big deal.. A vibrator and dildo can only go so far, you want to enjoy YOUR man and HIM gettin you off..you know? i would understand if a man said the same thing about a woman being weak in bed and leavin her for it.. sex is a deal breaker in some relationships..thats just reality

Size does not matter as long as the guy really knows how to take care of all a womans need

Its funny most females are so disappointed. Because most of the women I have slept with sex was wack. So some of you probably think your the only one who came away disappointed when the feeling was probably mutual.

Not surprized GG have so much to say!

Most of of the women you slept with were wack@Da Throne? No sex is bad, but bad sex is awful!!

Average to bigger than average is my preference. I’ve had huge…he was wack…so its more about the man attached to it than the size.

wow this pass week these post hits home…lol. I started seeing a guy i grew up with and when it came down to sex he could only give “oral delight” he was so small he looked like a newborn. So for me size matter.

I did a post about this on my own blog, whetheryourlikeitornot.wordpress.com. Forgive me for the shameless plug.

I agree that size matters, but I think a lot of the fallout has to do with how he hyped himself. If he told you something that got you all hot and bothered and you got to the room and he didn’t deliver, he disappointed you twice. Mentally and physically. He killed a fantasy, and maybe he wasted your time. Like Momma said, fool me once, shame on me, fool me twice, shame out you. I think that can be enough for a woman not to WANT to work with you (even though some women love a man enough to look at those links and try out a thing or two).

i say hell yeah size matters!! Dont get me wrong now i like what Gods gift to earth said once you get a man that use nothing but a mag-xxl and they know what they doing (whoa)u dont want a man with a small one.If they can give good head and then they disappoint you with what he got down there y keep going.I had that disappiontment and y fake it just tell them 2 stop.Be real!!

As its been said, size does matter. But its more about girth and skill than anything.

@God’s Gift & MekMek & the rest of the ladies,

Let me ask a follow up question:

So is the “disappointment” of seeing a lesser man, whether that’s average or teeny weeny, what makes the sex bad? Like, you’re so used to a XXL-guy that when you see anything lesser you mentally check out or do you go into it with a open mind like maybe he can do something?

Just seems like from your responses that no man that ain’t packin’ a Mack truck (or Titanic) has a shot at pleasing you ever.

@Da ThRONe

Help me out, would a guy do the same to a girl’s breasts? Like, oh man, her boobs are small, this si gonna be wack!

LOL

Having had people brag on themselves usually is a huge let down. Big and small has been *yawn* Technique is cool but it can only get you AND me so far, the rest is um well the part itself.

I only have one that exceeded my expectations…And that was bigger than average, but the girth was just right.

Sigh…I miss it.

@NWSO I’m the type that doesn’t really like to read too many reviews before seeing the film because more than likely my expectations are going to be heightened for that reason alone it will most probably be disappointing! The same applies to men, whether they are big or small or whatever – keep the bragging to a minimum as it will increase the possibiliity of disappointment!

I don’t think it necessarily about XXL men (not for me anyways), its about someone who knows what he is doing and knows how to use his tools no matter the size. Cos I’ve been involved with an XXL man before who laid there like just having a big one was all he needed, but been involved with others with not as big ones who much better – cos they had moves, were generous and attentive, etc – its not all about having a big wang! In saying that having a teenie weenie one is not going to stimulate most women, so that is why most of the ladies are saying size does matter.

No matter what a man is working with he definitely has to have skills to get the job done right. Having said that, when it comes to a dude’s endowments my general rule is:

He doesn’t have to be BIG, but his junk should fill me up TIGHT – with NO AIR on the sides.

Great post Ans.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9bT31GbAUrE

The fit is important – period.

If I can’t feel it I am checking the paint color on the ceiling. If it is too large, I am gritting my teeth and pushing him off. It needs to be just right. Damn I sound like Goldilocks.

Another factor for me, is the hang/angle/lean whatever. A guy hitting in the wrong direction can be painful – no matter the size.

Hilarity. I’ve had one the size of a midget’s arm (10″) and I’ve had one under 5″. Needless to say, thoughts of the 10 incher still give me pause. In the small man’s defense, I have found that lilliputians tend to have better head/foreplay game.

lol. who really believed that size didn’t matter?

and i agree 100% with Da Throne.

This is an interesting post. I’m not sure what to think.

I’ve asked more than a few young ladies (including a few ex’s) about size mattering and personal preference. The one thing that consistently blew my mind (and still does…) is that 80% to 90% of them wanted an average sized d*ck (6-8 inches was the standard). Most of them have had at least 1 to 2 guys, built like X-Men (y’know – mutants! LOL!) and almost to a person, it always seemed to be one of the most painful and/or unsatisfactory experiences they ever had sexually. They’d limp away (literally!) One girl actually said sex should NOT feel like I’ve been in a fight and got my ass kicked! Another honey said dude was ginormous but quite possibly, the most boring lay in her life! He was gorgeous, well-spoken, paid, hung like a horse and had the the sexual skills of a newborn! OUCH!

It seems like fit (Thank U, Skye Blue & BMW2K!) was the one thing they were in search of. It shouldn’t be too long but it should be nice and thick (actually, the popular term was ‘fattie’! )

Made me feel better after all the ‘research’ (LOL!) As men, we’re always a lil’ bit nervous, hoping we can make the cut, size-wise. I’m not huge (I’m a ‘grower’, not a ’show-er’) but I’ve never got the gas-face after an encounter so I’m thinkin’ I’m OK.

At least, that’s what I tell myself. and I’m stickin’ to it! LOL!!!

LMAO @ MS. SIZE QUEEN!!! Hahaha

Okay, my experience… Says that size does matter.
I’ve had huge and tiny. And i’d rather be in pain, than not feel that ish at all!
There is a thing as too big too tho, so i guess i’ll second MS. SIZE QUEEN on this one.

At the end of the day, if u dont sort of feel it in ur stomach, there’s sth missing. Lmao, i joke. Or not? :-S

Funny post! (That I can’t share with anyone, sorry lol)

Fortunately (?), I have never even seen a penis smaller than 7 inches so I can’t say that I feel some of these ladies’ pain. My last ex is 8.5” and I thought he was average before we measured him (he didn’t even know his number).

I really do have a talent for attracting big-D men with medium-D self-esteem.

I just said no to an 11”.

At a point, it’s too damn big to even be enjoyable. But take my words with a grain of salt: I’ve only had sex inside of relationships and went months in between partners. So…born-again virgin + new partner with a size upgrade = uncomfortable at first.

Bottom line: I’ll leave the bigguns to the size queens.

Size does matter to a point. I mean too small is ridiculous. Big and don’t know how to work it is just a waste. I thought it would be fun to teach but he was just lazy. So I’ll settle for a nice fit that knows how to put it down. I really don’t know who goes around with a ruler measuring ppl but if you got that much time shit u worried about the wrong thing. But chemistry is a must and the motion in the ocean. You gotta be able to work what ya mama gave ya! Just my opinion.

Size CAN matter but its certainly not all there is to it….

I was with this guy who is thick but but not long. WHEN he was in it was good but he couldn’t stay in b/c he was a shorty. And he also couldn’t really do a lot of positiions b/c it kept sliding out. I need to mention that he’s a bit overweight. I mention this b/c if his stomach wasn’t in the way, we probably could’ve worked something out. No dis to him for being overweight because he’s still sexy and I’m not exactly bony. I’m just saying…
His saving grace was his head game. Wowzers. It was incredible but I need more than that.

I was once with a guy who was really big and I freakin loved it!! I seriously couldn’t get enough of this dude. He hit it right at every angle and physically, I coudn’t have asked for anything more. But he and I had a casual relationship so while the sex was good, the connection wasn’t there completely.

My #1 dude – who I keep in reserve for when I’m between relationships – is the best. He’s long and while he’s not as big as the other dude, he’s just right for me. But more than that, he’s all about pleasing me and he knows my body. We’ve been getting it in off and on since I was 17 (I’m over 30) and its still amazing. We’re not in love but we do love each other and that makes it so much better. We have a connection.

lmao….THIS is cute…damn funny too. I have none of the problems some of thses ladies speak of…so for me, this is hilarious. @ Mizze…DAMN, shawty……..Dude definitely don’t wanna ask you how many ppl youe been with…Get his feelings hurt QUICK like…lol The really good news is that there is a range of opinions and SOME women will work with a man, even if he’s not packing. So little dudes–take heart. U still got a shot!!!. U have fewer options that I, but you DON’T have to jump off the curb today. There is a woman somewhere, that will work with ya! And tittantic dudes that don’t have the discipline to wait for a late to “get hers” b4 you blast off: shame on Ya! But it also goes to show how God has a sense of humor too…lmao

Depends on the woman and the man. I need some girth and length. Girth alone doesn’t do much for me. But YES, you have to know how to use what you have and make up for what you dont have!! if your a man with a pinky and you still dont go down and do it well chances are women are not lining up for you. A man can be too big as well. Too big for me but just right for someone else, too small for me but just right for someone else.

You don’t need to concentrate on dix to know that size matters to women in EVERYTHING….dix, rings, wallets, mouths (dont believe the hype…. loud men attract more women), egos, houses, t.v.s, cars, etc. Any man who denies this is in trouble for real.

In more ways than one to man up is to measure up.
Now only if big boobs, big asses, and big dance moves equaled good sex. Great comment DaTrone!

I hate men that talk shyt, lets just get to know eachother and when we get to that point, either we know we found a good fit or we need to walk our separate ways. I try to keep an open mind!

Hilarious!!

Been tha fly on the wall in a room of drunken women discussing the male enddowments they have experienced. The one thing I would say is that NWSO has probably cleaned up the responses. Probably because it made him feel better about himself after hearing all that was said on this subject matter. Because nothing can deflate a male ego like women talking about sexual disappointments.

I have never been told that I could not match up but I am a big guy with big hands and big feet.
Plus the female anatomy is one of my favorite subjects and so I am always working on my sex game. Because you never know when you may need to dip into your bag of tricks, all women are different and any good craftsman knows which tools works best in all situations and when he may need to McGyver a chick.

As the sports columnist Jason Whitlock noted about the recently release nude pictures of the NBA player Greg Oden it can lead to “Post Traumatic Size Disorder.”

From some of the responses posted here, it appears to affect both women and men. I use to believe that size did not matter because all us men have seen those Cosmo type articles that spread that propoganda. But just like the NBA size coupled with skill will always get you more accolades. One of the things I learned early on about sex is to always put in your best work early on because first impressions are important. So no matter whether you are gifted or not if she enjoyed the encounter you will always be invited back for a return engagement.

One of the things I learned by being around women all my life is that unless pressed hard they will always try to be nice. They dislike confrontations and most time would rather lie than hurt a man’s feelings. So if she kicks you to the curve after your first sexual encounter, it was about the sex, any other answer is BS. And ladies men are dogs, so if you invite us back for a return engagement and we decline it wasn’t that good like DThrone noted.

I enjoyed this discussion though, I think its always enlightening for men to know what women think about us and for women to know what men think about them. Remove all the PC editorializing that accompanies these type of exchanges in the major media and there is something to be learned for all of us.

I mean to a certain degree you cant deny that size does matter. its about surface area. Friction. More surface area meant more contact, which means more friction. Science, kids.

That said, I aint gonna lie, I’m hung like an infant but i gets it on. I just work on my stroke game and women I’ve been with have been honest with me if they get off or not. Few have been disappointed. (that dang Magnum is a slippery sucker)

I got a good record thus far, very satisfied customers, so i can see both sides of this discussion.

i agree with the general sentiment that extremes on the size spectrum matter. too small or too big = not a good look. i have had average and magnum penis (but not too big). i would say the experiences were equal. sex w/ average penis was good because it was always really hot and passionate, ripping clothes off, falling all over each other, etc. every single time so he was more of a mental getting off. penetration and strokes weren’t exemplary but the sexual tension/chemistry made up for it so i always thoroughly enjoyed myself. magnum penis was enjoyable strictly because he was good at what he did. i didn’t necessarily enjoy the build up and overall experience because while he was always very intent on getting me off first and making sure i enjoyed myself, it was like he wasn’t completely uninhibited and enjoying himself. it was like overly polite/eager sex. weird because it sounds good in theory, but not in practice when i prefer wild/free sex. he gave really good head. but maybe size isn’t the be all and end all for me because i don’t cum from penetration- i need direct clitoral stimulation. so while magnum’s penis felt better in me, it was really all about stroking the clit so it kind of didn’t really give him all that many more brownie points. i’ve only had my g-spot stroked digitally while getting head (cause even w/ g-spot, i still NEED direct clit stimulation). the rest of y’all are getting penetrated and having the g-spot hit all at once? lucky dudes cause that means much less work for them. poor guys i deal with… lol

As a man who has been around other men enuff to know that we LOVE to talk B/S, I also know that quiet aS it’s kept, it can be a blow to a fellas ego and self esteem to hear that you’re “sex game” isn’t up to par. BUT for real men, negative feedback gives you an incentive and a goal of “proving” her wrong by showing out next chance you get. I have NEVER had a woman tell me I wasn’t long or wide enuff and skilled and talented enuff to help her achieve orgasmic spasms…..I’m not braggin….I’m just sayin….BUT, I’m also man enuff to speak of the “one” exception……..I dealt with a woman a few years back who was a divorced mom, who happened to have two kids and she told me she only had like two orgasms in her entire life (at the time she was 35). I’m like “F” that B/S. I don’t know what type of knuckleheads you’ve dealt with in the past, but I’m on the case now. I worked my AZZ off. Did all the shyt I knew to do; some shyt I’d never done and other shyt she told me to do and I’ll be DAMNED if she did NOT have the big O….smdh…I was CRUSHED! lol…..I pulled out this giant flash light…bcuz I wanted to take a close up examination of her joint….and she bust out laughing bcuz she saw how seriously determined I was and saw I would NOT give up. I have heard of women who don’t have many orgasms for medical, mental and other reason’s, but MOST men and women STILL believe it’s on the man to
“make-it happen,” so yeah, that’s a mans burden. I handle mines by contributing 110% skill and effort…But that ONE…still haunt’s me……lmao….
<——-goes to corner to punch wall again…….

lmbao @ Salty game, who said: I’m hung like an infant….C’mon, son! Getdafucouttaherewitdattbulshyt!

size matters!

I once had a man pursue me for years across the country. We would meet up on business trips, email and talk every day. He was my friend. Handsome, educated, successful, attentive- flowers all that. But his size was wow- tiny. Like an- is it in yet- tiny. I’m thinking maybe 5 inches. I liked him though. He wanted to move to my city and make me his wife no less. But one day I had to tell him the sex (ie his overwhelming small shaft) just wasn’t doing it enough for me to continue the shenanigans with hopes every time I saw him that he had miraculously grown… So yup, size sure does matter!

Size matters. I’m gonna have to go with Skye Blue and BMW2K:
“He doesn’t have to be BIG, but his junk should fill me up TIGHT – with NO AIR on the sides.”

I’ve had teeny weenies and a few big ones.
The big ones just scare me to death because I tend to go long periods without having sex between partners.
But man the Teeny weeny ones? They just make me feel like I’m wasting my vagina, this is not worth me spreading my thighs. I would not wanna count them in if asked how many sexual partners I’ve had.
Unfortunately I don’t have the guts to really check a man’s package and cannot figure out size unless we’re dancing or pretty damn close to doing the deed.
My ex was a 7″ not to mention – to quote Drake -”The Best I ever Had”, so I’ve been really reluctant to have sex with other men, because most likely it’s going to be a disappointment. So as of now if I’m not even feeling your size at this point, there is no way.

@NWSO

It’s not that I go into a situation automatically assuming that the sex will be awful due to size. I have actually had the most orgasms with the smallest penis, but, it wasn’t fulfilling. I know the ultimate goal of having sex is to have an orgasm, however, I am different. I enjoy the act of sex; the FEELING of sex. So, if a man is not packing, something if missing. I feel short-changed (pun intended).

I don’t need a “Mack Truck” or the “Titanic.” I gage a penis like this…if it doesn’t make me gag when I am giving it a spit shine, then it’s too small.

Also, some ladies are replying that a number of guys that are big don’t know how to utilize their equipment, which may be true. However, it is our job as women to tell, show, and teach him how we like it. If he is going too fast…ask him to slow down. If he is goin’ hard in the paint…ask him to ease up. No one woman is the same, so you cannot expect a man to know your body. Unless you have specifically expressed to him what you like and how you like it, then you really can’t say that he doesn’t know what he is doing.

I’m aggressive in bed and I know what I like, so I’m not going to let a big dick go to waste. I will flip his over (or at least try to) and ride him until I am satisfied.

Lol @ DC Man

Its not even all the numbers I have been with but, like in other posts on here, I am open to all colors of dick lol.. I jus don’t mess with black men sexually or even in regards to a relationship..I date openly so I have been with other races so that’s another reason I have been with different sizes.. And not sayin the black men were necessarily the biggest.. You know?

@ Da Throne No woman wants to pull out all of her tricks for a guy that doesn’t “measure up”. I’m not saying, I’m just saying …

Size matters, size matters, size matters…. But love will make you stay with a guy who has a tiny one lol…

@ Mom of 3

Love will make you stay, but will it make you stay faithful?

Oh and @DC man

Sorry about the divorced mom..lol..that jus shows that a man can be hung and/or puttin in work and still nothin happen..then that fall back on the woman

Lol I agree most with size queen. Once u go big u never go back. You won’t be satisfied. It is like a gift and a curse. U will be doing things you don’t know why for that nigga. Like she said its cause big dicks are hard to find these days unless they are plastic.

I couldn’t read them all but Size Queen has it right. Size most definitely matters. If I can’t feel you, I can’t enjoy you. How am I supposed to arrive if I didn’t even know you started. But its also true that some large men rely on their size and that aint gonna cut it.

I will say this, the “Best I Ever Had” was a mandigo. Not too big because yes their is a such thing as too big. He was just right in length and girth.

But the second “Best I Ever Had,’ was average. He knew what he had and he worked with it. He kept the ocean in motion and it was sometimes too much to handle.

Here is a tip for all men, if you think you are doing enough, you probably need to do more. If you only have 3 moves, big or small, you aren’t pleasing me.

I HATE BIG DICK

& these women that like mandingos have hula hoop pussys.

As someone who worked in the estrogen zone ( hospital) size does, has and always will matter. I swear chicks love it when you beat it up to the point of they are speaking in tongues!

Chicks like it thick and wide ( hear this in my hear) why do you think all those broke ass brothas are getting put on? Because they are putting it down, shit I got a BMW for smashing a chick so well.

When you got the size and the skill the shit you can pull is off the charts! Not a good look, but true I have grown over the years, but if you are bringing the bat and the game. You can make a chick fall in love ( for all of the wrong reasons)

Sorry mr looks good on paper but it is true, just like the old joke goes, when you have a big dick you do not need a Porsche.

For the record I agree the comments have been PC the stuff I have heard chicks say about a dudes package that was lacking was crazy!

@Epip:

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!

Can’t…stop….laughing…help!….hard…hard…to…to…to…*choke!*…
…breathe….

LORD! You funny!!!

I like my d*cks like my men thick. I’m sorry but a twiggy penis just doesn’t do it for me. I’ve been blessed more often than not with a nice size remote. However, I’ve had a smaller guy who knew how to work it…

I think it’s a given that good sex involves someone with good technique.

That being said, size DEFINITELY matters (particularly girth). I was once with a guy that had great technique but he was small and skinny….I couldn’t really feel anything and he slipped out a couple of times…so disappointing! His “skills” did nothing for me.

@NWSO

I never go into a sexual incounter with a preconceived idea. How fine you are doesnt factor into how good you are one bit. Sexual attraction just gets my penis up after that it’s on her skills to keep my interest. I have had some really fine girls sex be ok at best.

Size can become a issue if he lacks in other ways like tongue action but even that gets over rated. A man should find ways to compensate if he is lacking. Ok brothers here are a few tips. Place a pillow under her which will allow for deeper penetration. Let her ride a woman is sure fire to orgasm that way and use toys. If you love your man you will make it work.

Good Luck
Ms. Kedra

Length, girth, and skill matter. However, skill can be taught & learned, but nothing can be done about penis size. I would rather have a willing mate with an above average size and so-so skills than a bite-sized packaged mate with good skills.

Fellas, if your girl has told you that size doesn’t matter, she was probablly lying and didn’t want to hurt your feelings.

The only bad thing about a big dick, is the “big dick attitude” that comes along with it! But then again, that’s kinda sexy as well.

@ GodsGift

I stayed faithful to a guy with a small one until i found out he had the NERVE to be cheating on me with his tiny self lol… He was my first though so hey… But since then he’s been engaged 4 times and everyone of them has cheated on him… One even used his video camera to record her and another dude!

HA! I know I’m late on this… haven’t visited in a while… what a good one to come back on though! LOL

1) So, does size really matter?
SOMETIMES… I agree wth preivous statement…the big paynus man may not know what the hell to do with it..the avi may have moves that blow the mind! and well..nobody wants a man with a paynus the size of a large clit…LOL yes- THAT size matters, and NO I dont’ want it!

2) Are you a woman that has to have a man that’s large and in charge?
Don’t have to have it ‘extra large’ I’m kinda partial to my insides being intact… In charge- YES IN DEED…that’s where that good average to slightly above average guy comes in to play… the average guy who can make me all gooey with his dominance is a winner in my book!

3)Have you ever been surprised by a brother that wasn’t working with much?
No- but the opposite. LOL my ‘crush’ who’ve I’ve referred to on more than one occasion surprised the hell outta me! I already liked him, but when we got to ‘that point’ and I saw and felt alllllll that- I was like MY GOSH…how did you get AAALLLL of that manly blessing… whew!

4) Could you stay with a smaller man if he knew how to work his tongue?
can’t base it on that..cause a small paynus with a hell-of-a tongue with nothign else to offer might as well be dead to me…

5) What would you do if you found the perfect man in every way except he wasn’t packing anything worthwhile down below?
We’d work on some things…and invest in some Hustler or something LOL

6) Is guy automatically good in the sack just because he’s big? HELL TO THA NAW… refer to #1

There is nothing as sublime as the moment when a man first enters you, and you feel him filling you… The pleasure cannot be described. I can almost orgasm just based on that moment. So that being said, size indeed matters. 6 inches (which is average) is good. 7 even better. I don’t expect King Kong, but one of my best moves requires a partner to be at least average so that he does not slip out when I spin. There is also something to be said for technique and stamina too. I know someone whose boyfriend easily measures 10 inches, but he cannot last more than a few minutes. She’s currently cheating with a 7 incher who can perform like a god. So worry not if you’re average. Take some Ginko and keep it going well. And having a skilled tongue is wonderful, but it does not make up for below average size. Loved all the comments by the way.

1st would somebody tell Shay from L.A. she cant just be changing her name all willy nilly like that.

2nd Im sure there are plenty of women who cant handle well endowed men. Just because she’s the queen of “the big dick parade” doesnt mean every other female wants to march with her.

@Momof3

It isnt about the “Tricks” the pussy is just wack. She can ride me from the ceciling fan with her legs behind her head. If the vag isnt good neither is the sex.

Hmmmm this is a funny topic because size does and doesnt matter. It matters when you just wanna be fucked good and right with no strings. Meet up get it in and be about your business. Now when it comes to that special man no. He will be able to satisfy you and hold ur attention in other ways.

Let me say one thing though. Fellas if you know your not the biggest and lack in the head department by all means please stop the shit talking. Alot of the time you cancel urselves out of the equation by just talking shit and cant back it up.

The only people that think size does not matter have not had a big dick in their life. I use to same the samething when I was with my ex it was all about the love connection. But when he became my ex and I found some big dicks fuck a connection I need that connection with a big dick!!!!!!
A big dick will have you doing somethiing strange for a peice of change!!!!!

I’ve had all shapes and sizes…I agree that if he knows what he is doing or how to make up for the lack of size, a smaller man can still keep my attention…I can overlook a lack of size if he treats me like a queen…If I feel the need for some larger loving, I have a great toy for that…so my relationship will not suffer over his size or lack thereof…

Girth, size (six inches or more) and skills in that order!

@Rastaman

Nah, homie, I didn’t clean up any of the responses I posed the question and published the answers as is, aside from any punctuation fixes. But no fluffing on my part.

How dare you insinuate such a thing!

LOL

#WhatGives

Yes size matters as long it is accompanied by good performance. my ex was small, and i tried REALLY tried to compromise. he bought an attachment piece to put over his dick but it didnt work cus it was hurting him and it didnt feel good to me. i could do wit average and a lil bit up. although i said size matter, i’m not tryin to kill myself with something i cant handle. but i havent reach the comfort length/girth where i can say i’m good with this, no more

I think there is a woman for every man. should it be about size, maybe! I think that’s going to be different for every woman. Do men really care, NO! For the most part men are going to be men no matter how big or small, rejection is apart of the game and some women just can’t be pleased! So the real question is what do women really want? No man is perfect, if he pleased you in the bed would that be all you require? Women just need to cut all the small talk and just say what they want from jump and save some time. If bro is up on game and he disappoints, he deserve to be put on blast right then and there.

our preference over big vs small is quite similar to guys talkin about if a girl is tight enough or not. the feel is different. but if ur small… dont try to over due things that ur limited to. i dont kno about those pumps and pills but accept it and one day woman would love you (including all of u).

Can’t add anything. All has been said. Especially by Ms. Technical.

Too huge is definitely a turn off. I don’t wanna end up bleeding or something

Tight, snug fit is where it’s at.

Now what I wonder is why the tall guys seem to be on the shorter side as opposed to the short/average men? And nooo, they don’t just look smaller due to the body-penis-ratio.

We women have 2 realize eventually we will get dusty down there one day, and the men eventuallt itsy, so being that said. I want 2 enjoy the good ligfe now. So yeah size does matter!

@ DC Man. Don’t take it personally. A 35 year old woman who has only experienced two orgasms in her life indicates that she may have control issues, oir cannot relax foer some reason. You have to clear your mind and go with the moment, and that is hard for some women, especially when their lives are a bit off track. I bet the two orgasms she had were while she was on vacation and tipsy, and pre-kiddies. If you’re still in touch with her, I’d make a suggestion to take yoga 4 times a week.

Okay so let me add my 2-piece.

I have had what i call the luckiest dick luck ever. i have experienced a few perfect penises beautiful in their greater than 7 inch splendor, one of which could easily cast a shadow @ 10 inches. And then I’ve had two amazing 4 or 5 inchers who would make u wanna pull it out just to make sure it hadn’t grown on you!

First of all what will make you cum has nothing to do with size for most women. Be honest ladies, you HAVE come a cross a C+(5 incher) peen and been so turned on by everything he does to your body that you bust back to back and forget he’s not packing! And you will come across a Big ol’ juicy good for nothin dick here or there that is totally whack. But really what makes your toes curl it when he knows when where and how to push your buttons. It’s when he knows what position works for his size, isn’t stingy with the tongue game, kisses and licks your neck collar and earlobes from the moment your Vicky’s drop till he gets that knee quivering gasp of air that pushes out his “nutt grunt” that makes your sheets soaked. Be for real. The size thiing is mostly psychological. A man sees a phat ass or some palmable breasts, he thinks of how they would feel against his body. Just like a woman who see’s a big juicy one thinks of how he is going to slay that “pum pum”! Some of the ladies got ya lips moist now thinkin of the juiciest “piece” u ever saw. A big (beatiful) dick makes you feel like “Jackpot”!!!! Almost like you just KNOW he’s gonna put it down, but only a fool would beleive this is true. Don’t get me wrong even I have turned a brother down because I cringed at the sight of what looked like I’d seen bigger while changing diapers…But U never know until u go there. Men should understand that it’s not like every woman desires a Mandingo! It’s not that we want to always have a big one, we just hate to find a small one, lol! Especially on a brotha that has everything goin on! Oh, we’ll fall in love with yo ass and everything even if you’re not packing but carry the rest of the total package, just make sure you pay attention to all of a sistah’s sexual needs before you do your post-booty “george jefferson” stroll to the fridge for that Turkey sandwich when u’re done!

I think there is one aspect that is missing from these conversations. I consider myself above average sized man, but there has been times where the woman just didnt’ do enough to get me fully errected. When that happens, the sex will usually be whack. Could be part my fault for not stopping her and giving some tips but i believe some women dont’ stimulate guys enough. ON the flip side, some guys are not really ready but they jump in anyways based off pure excitement.

There are several things that “matter” in my opinion to make a relationship work.

Spirituality
Size
Finaces

there must be an equal balance between male and female.

@Xana

Thumbs up on that one, I like what you said there…

To reinterate what others have said , size amtters to a point. You can not be too small so that I can not feel you or you fall out. And too big can be painful. It is all abou the perfect fit. The best sex I had was with a medium small one. Multiple orgasms, and really intense. Also, it had a slight curve. Women come in different sizes so it truly is about matching and fitting.

To reinterate what others have said , size matters to a point. You can not be too small so that I can not feel you or you fall out. And too big can be painful. It is all abou the perfect fit. The best sex I had was with a medium small one. Multiple orgasms, and really intense. Also, it had a slight curve. Women come in different sizes so it truly is about matching and fitting.

Size is relative like height or beauty.

If you’re 6′ 5″ everyone seems short. If you’ve got a pin hole down there… well… everyone’s gonna seem big. Or if you have the proverbial “hallway” ain’t no hot dog gonna really do it for you. It’s just gotta be the right fit for you as a woman. Some women can handle Porn sized stuff… and others run from it. It’s just all perceptual… relative and size is in the eye (or hand… or vagina) of the beholder. The “motion of the ocean” is an important factor – but can definitely be taught. Whereas you can’t get someone big to be smaller or vice versa.

I’m just sayin.

I actually did a post on this a little while ago in my blog so it was truly a pleasure to read through the think tank answers and then through all of these commenters.

I find my experiences to be somewhat different… the best head of my life was given to me by a man who was hung (literally) like a horse. I wouldn’t sleep with him because I was paranoid he would “stretch me out” and honestly, even now (I’m 25) I still wouldn’t sleep with him. But this is because I don’t like huge dick…it hurts me, like its pounding into my ovaries or something, which feels like getting kicked in the balls over and over again, so men can relate to the pain). But if I am ever single, he can nestle his head in between my thighs any time. ANY time. lol

Now, my ex was a bigger boy. over 8 inches at his most erect, and thick, and while he really cared about my pleasure, and we worked out ways to make sure ovary-pounding didn’t happen, I enjoyed sex but secretly wondered if the earth-shattering experience women talk about actually ever happens or if people were just talking shit.

So when I found my current bf, and he was smaller, and slightly less thick, I was more than a bit disappointed. But, he eats pu$$y like a God, so eventually I decided to give intercourse a try…HOLY CRAP!! I didn’t even know where I was, couldn’t focus for like an hour afterwards lol. Seriously. It was phenomenal (and still is, 2 years later). So, I currently am a big believer in the fact that size doesn’t matter as much as what someone does with what they have.

I think there is a lot to the whole psychological theory. Because as much as sex with my bf is phenomenal and sex with my ex was very ‘meh’, I can still envision my ex’s dick and think about how absolutely scrumptious it looks. I’d give that beautiful dick a spit shine anytime! LOL…but as much as his girth and size looked the most appealing, it really didn’t do all that much for me.

That being said, if my bf was 2 or 3 inches I don’t think it would have happened. I just can’t see it working properly. But I am a big head whore, so if he can eat it right, we can just not bother with the intercourse part and he can go down on me all the time! lol

And I agree with all the people who said it is up to both parties to take some accountability for their own pleasure, whether its finding good sexual positions to maximize your pleasure, doing some type of exercise (kegels, for the ladies) to make things more snug (and if you get those PC muscles real tight, it won’t matter how thin he is cause you can just clench on for all you’re worth and rarely loosen your grip), or for the men living a healthier life (proper diet and exercise promote blood flow which effects even the largests mans penis size, both length and girth).

But for the small guys, honestly the vagina only has intense sensation in the first few inches, after which nerve endings drop off dramatically. And the average vagina is only 6 inches long. So if you’re willing to put in a bit of work, any woman (unless she’s a size queen) would be willing to give you a chance…but make sure you know what the heck you’re doing cause you’ll only get one for first impressions…and the bias begins AGAINST you lol

someone else mentioned this too, but when that intial penetration happens there are no words to describe the feeling. The feeling of being filled up, of being taken, entered…penetrated. I can come right now just thinking about it.

when men grab a handful of my ass they love it they say its so fat round and juicy. it becomes addicting to want what feels best to you.

i am the kind of girl that most men go after caramel skin, tiny waist, big t big a, and thick thighs. but best believe i can’t rock with a little nigga because he couldn’t handle it.

my homegirl on the other hand who is also thick prefers to keep her men at about 6″. she feels she has the advantage and loves anal so it works out.

ladies don’t be afraid of mandigos they don’t necessarily have to pound you out. they can take it nice and slow, get it nice and wet, and it will be the best u eva had!

I have c cups i will not carry a double d bra in my bag to trick you to beleive I have a set of double d’s because when the bra comes off the truth will be revealed.
Men: Please stop carrying magnums you can’t fit. It is a cruel trick, it just ain’t right!

lmao@j starr

stop it! i have barley B cup breasts, i wear two bras and fillets to make them look DD

i love this cruel trick

From the number of comments, if you don’t believe size matters you are not paying attention. A lot of good information here.

Plus one major confirmation if you are coming up short life is going to be hard ( pun intended)

two bras! really!? on that nicki manja huh? lol not nice.

@ epip – dude! seriously? lmao. my homegirl tried that trick in miami and almost lost her filet in the atlantic.

For me size do matter —- Whats the point of having sex if a guys coming up shorth—-having sex with a guy iwith a shorth dick is like having sex with no one =] there’s no pleasure no enjoyment .

lol @ “eats pu$$y like a god” and the “born-again virgin”… roflmao … if he fingers you at the same time, there’s absolutely no need for size or girth… just pure skills…. jk-ish.

But on a serious note, eventually there has to be some dick! I think average (approx 6 inches) with some thickness, and loads of skill – mental play and physical play is best. For the bigger dicks, even if the sex is great/awesome during, it’s no fun being physically reminded (sore) of it every day for an entire week after.

But then again small penises do come in handy when your trying to breeak your virginity =]

Size definitely does matter but so does duration. Those ‘1′ minute men are a waste of time no matter the size.

Size does matter, but I agree, I hate when a man can’t last. When I was married my husband was married and average size. He could work it at first, then during the later years, he had ED and the sex was whack every time even with Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, etc. (you get the picture). Now that I have been with a man that is well endowed and can work it. I just can’t imagine having a small or an average guy.

Some of you women commenting, sound like str8 up sexual objects. No lie. So it’s no wonder why, you get cats who beat it and then literally beat it lol. I heard one female say that the size factor depends on, whether or not you actually want to settle down with the guy. So basically what she’s given a pass-to-the-ass to any well-endowed brother. Mind you, endowment is a feature like any other, such as height for example. So ANY MAN can be well-endowed and i mean any. That is why there are so many dogs running wild out here, cause ya’ll females are the ones who breed them! I know a dude who makes it no secret that he is well-endowed and you should see the shit that these chicks let him get away with. It made me look at females in a whole different, negative light. I mean if you thought dudes do some crazy shit for some ass, than you ain’t seen nothing! Now at the same time i understand that everybody wants to be sexually satisfied. So when it comes to size, i think it only matters when it comes to the opposite extremes. Wow if it’s really big and “Dammit Nooo!!!” if it’s too small. But i’m just saying a dude should treat you the same no matter what he’s packing.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

This shit right here, especially this part:

“That is why there are so many dogs running wild out here, cause ya’ll females are the ones who breed them!”

is complete and utter bullshit. If there’s anyone else who thinks this way, SMMFH.

@Spinster

I thought Chauncey brought up in excellent point. And I thought that line was spot on. If women are treating big penis like there gold. Dudes with big penis attitude will match there penis. I believe GG already spoke of the “Big Dick Attitude”.

Big Dicks ARE gold. Haven’t you seen the condom wrapper?

@GG

Nope.

If small dicks felt just as good as big dicks then there wouldnt be an issue. But they dont. I’m sure there are women who dont like big dicks or it doesnt matter for them… but they havent made their comment here yet. Go Find Them.
We are talking about size and pleasure(feeling, timing, skill) of a penis… not about respect from the man who own it or whatever. It’s about sex. So dont get all moral and psychological in here about that.

it’s true a man who is packing has a certain “can’t tell me shit ” way about him. He knows what he is working with and knows that women will do damn near anything for it.
However, this doesn’t mean he should treat people like they are beneath him. At the end of the day people are treated the way they let people treat them. If you stand for disrespect you fall down disresepected.

These are the facts, when you have an item/thing/’person with a high desirability in the marketplace, that item/thing/person when command a higher premium that is how it is. Meaning if you swinging you can get away with a lot of shit!

The shit is the same for a dude, a woman that is pretty enough can get houses, cars, whatever and the dude KNOWS he is not the one, he is just trying to get in where he fits in. Sad but true it is a fact of life.

Folks can get mad all they want, but sexual pleasure is a very motivating force. Shoot some women here even profess it was not the biggim that got them off, it was a medium size dick that did the trick!

But the slight of a big dick made them lose their minds! Just had to spit shine it. As for the close built chick, dude just did not get you excited enough….

@Ms LuLu

The point wasnt about settling for someone who doesnt fulfill you. It’s about letting a person get away with more then they should just because he can fulfill you. I dont wanna settle for a chick with sub-par pussy. But Im not going run myself crazy for a broad with grade A pussy either.

@ Tron

You need to stop frontin’! Yes you would!

@Da Throne men have gone to war over grade A pussy..it is just that important!

@Da Son

I was talking about me specifically.

@GG

How do you know? Is it my “Big Dick Attitude”? LOL

I’m not even going to put you on blast about “That Bitch”

Ans!

GG is getting off subject feel free to silence her!

*Yes Tron just snitched

@ Chauncey

What it all boils down to is this:

We ALL have our sexual preferences, so you can’t knock anyone for liking what they like.

Just like some women like big dicks, some/most black men love big asses.

@Da ThRONe you grown and if you can’t handle lil ol’ GGTTH then GTFOH. LOL

Looking at this from a women perspective. I would say a more desirable sex organ trumps a desireable body part. A nice ass may turn you on but outside of that it doesnt improve the sex.

@Ans

Way to have a brothers back. This sir is why women keep the upper hand now. No damn U-N-I-T-Y thats unity. *Queen Latifah style*

@Ans

While Im on the subject of correcting you! How is this the female equivalent of “T&A”? T&A is nice to have but doesnt stack up to a sex organ any day. Our question should be how important is good sex. Or there question should have been whats more important nice arms or a nice abs. As is this is completely unfair!

@Da ThRONe

Arms and abs? I have neither but i got balls and a pecker. LOL

But there’s a simple way to solve this, since you’re an official contributor to the site why don’t you draft your own battle of the sexes post and state your case?

Hmmm

Actually I think Chauncey is dead on. (Some) women will go bonkers for a guy simply because he is packing and let him get away with all kinds of BS. Why? I have no clue but then again I’m not really into big dicks to begin with so I should keep my mouth shut.

I recently re-joined Black Planet and a guy with the screen name, Size10shoe, sent me a note requesting a hook up. His profile picture is his lower half wearing red briefs in which you can see the outline of his penis. I sent him a note back asking him where is the picture of his face and did he use protection. He responded by telling me he felt I and other women on BP de-masculated him by asking him those type of questions because he only messed with certain types of women. WTF, is he serious? SMH

Needless to say, I am not interested in hooking up with him, no matter what size he is.

WTF?

@ Elle

It’s no different than women who “put up” with men who are rich.

It’s all about supply and demand.

True indeed. True indeed. @ Shay

But hey, they can at least keep the cars & the gifts once the rich dude is gone … can’t say the same about a big dick

Touché

Size does matter; however, the guy involved needs to know how to use his god given tool or it is a waste of time and energy.

Personally, I cannot deal with anything small.. I love big breast, asses, and penises…. I’m just greedy.

I really don’t think size matters. I say that because there are guys that are small (less than 7 inches) whose stroke games are on point; then there are guys who are big (more than 8 inches) & don’t know what to do with what they got, but gives amazing head!

Then there is the guy who sucks in both the stroke & the head game, but THANK GOD i’ve never met one of those. (and I NEVER plan to lol)

For me though, it all comes down to the chemistry between the two people. If I am sexually, physically, mentally, emotionally, & spiritually attracted to you, (damn near in love with you & you with me) then your size will not matter whatsoever.

I prefer a man with a thick penis rather than long. You could have a short penis but if its thick (and hopefully your stroke game is on point) then length will not matter.

It also comes down to how well a woman knows her body sexually. I think I am very (maybe abnormally) inclined with my sexually so I know that any man that beds me will KNOW what the hell to do with what he’s got.

I’m into energy & vibes. If I’m feeling your vibe & I can interpret what his body is saying to me, then I’ll know from that that the sex is going to be spectacular & one to remember forever regardless of size.

I don’t think size really matters alll the time; you can be hung and not know what to do in bed! So to me it’s the SKILLS that count

Love this…lol

Size matters…plain talk bad matters.
I was with a guy once real sweet, intelligent conversations and very thoughtful and we were really good friends, then one night we jus decided let’s do this…mind u he did tell me he wished he had a bigger d!ck but I thought he was jus being insecure…neways things got heated and I got the shock of my life…he was so tiny, the condom didn’t even want to stay on…

I was so outta there but we remained friends, lmao.

@Gods Gift – you got it right

I used to think size didnt matter until I met my current man….he is lovely Never, ever, ever, had it this good before . A big boy who knows how to use it will leave a lasting impression and keep you faithful. We are in a long distance relationship and cheating wouldnt even be worth it.

Again, couldn’t read all the comments, but

1) Agree with Ms. Technical like a muhfucka

2) I’ve had a long relationship with a small penis. and you’re right, if we’re in a relationship, I’ll forgive you for it. but if I’m calling you for sex, it’s not happening.

3) I really can’t do the huge dick anymore. I appreciate it, but to be in a relationship with it is mad obnoxious. It is the girth that matters, and its also the confidence that allows your hips to do the right things and reach the right reach.

And you know what? huge dr. mandingo only brushes up against the g-spot. you’re all invading and stretching out my cervix. It’s terrible when sex begins to feel uncomfortable.

4) Girls.. really? The “average” dick isn’t un-do able.. Kegels is a really wonderful thing. It keeps you tight for any kind of size, honest. Do it often and it will happily embrace the littler ones too. It’s not all the men’s job to make it fit.

In my opinion, size does NOT matter. With the exception of shrimp dicks. I’ll pass on that one.

“Large and in charge” dicks don’t do too much for me. I feel like big dicks are trying to poke a hole in my stomach. The biggest man that I been with was OK in bed but he couldn’t stroke with ease.

I could definitely stay with a smaller man if his tongue was on point. One of my ex’s were smaller than the average. I think about 4 1/2 inches. It worked for me but his tongue game was damn near perfect.

This so-called perfect guy you are speaking of, can he give good head? If so, I could deal with him.

Personally, I prefer a dick on the smaller side. 5-7 inches is good for me. I think I just have a tighter vaj, though.

I always joke that men with 3in dicks should be genetically weeded off the face of the planet lol. With that said size matters but to an extent. I keep reading about hype, that’s so true, if you’re hyping me up about how good you are but when we get in the bedroom you’re fumbling around??? that’s just inexcusable. I prefer a humble man. He doesn’t have to be a beast in bed, he just needs to have an open mind, trying new things, exploring all our desires. Not to mention, this is a two party thing, I am not the type of woman to get my orgasm and go, no, I need you to come too. It’s important.
My personal preference in size is 7 and 8 but unless you actually ask a man up front what you get is what you get when the moment of truth arrives lol. Is it a deal breaker if he’s too big or too small. Well, if it hurts to have sex, yes. In fact such an incident occurred, I was with a man, where he couldn’t even get half way in me, it was a disaster. I tried to give him a bj, another disaster, I felt bad and so did he.
On the flip side I was with a man that was slightly smaller than average, and not only did I not walk away with any satisfaction, he complained about his dick is not as big as a black man.
I’m a lady, I’ll never sit there and complain about your penis but that said to me that if we were gonna stay together, I’d have to do A LOT of reassuring.

So, does size matter? yes. But other things are at play. fun, exploration, confidence, and humility. But that’s just my opinion.

Another point–it seems to me (from experience)that bigger women (size 16+) have trouble with larger dicks while the smaller, skinnier women can roll and ride the whole thing right to the base. I wonder if thats something medical or physical.