Are You a Cock Tease? (In the Heat of the Night, Pt. 1)

February 3rd 2010 in *Wet Wednesdays/Erotica

couple at bar

We were supposed to meet up in the city for drinks but our schedules just never lined up. The fact I was freelancing full-time and barely left my bat cave was a big part of the problem.

In an effort to meet somewhere in the middle, Melissa finally asked, “Where do you live?”

“Queens,” I responded.

“Really,” she shot back. “Me, too.”

“Oh, word,” I said. “Where at?”

Melissa told me what street she lived on and it turned out she was not too far from me. We were practically neighbors.

“Wow,” I beamed. “What a small world.”

I had been living in Queens for the past four years and didn’t have many friends in the area. Actually, I didn’t know anyone besides my nosy neighbor across the hall and the super. I generally kept to myself and hung out exclusively in Brooklyn, so the prospect of someone my own age around the way was great. Plus, it didn’t hurt that Melissa was cute.

“Have you ever been to that bar on Guy R. Brewer,” Melissa asked.

“Yeah, I’ve been there once or twice. They have great wings and pretty good drinks.”

“Why don’t we meet up there one day when you’re free.”

“Okay, how’s this Friday.”

“Perfect, I get off around 6. It’ll take me about an hour or so to get there from the city, so how does 7:30 sound?”

“That’s cool.”

“Okay, I’ll see you then.”

Click!

Friday came and I got to the bar/restaurant a few minutes early. It was nice out so I grabbed a seat on one of the outside benches and waited for Melissa to show up. A short while later, I spotted this shapely figure walking down the block that might have been her. I had never actually met Melissa before. We were both in media and spoke mostly via MySpace when a mutual friend connected us, so all I had to go off of was memory and her profile pic.

As the woman got closer I took more of her in.

She was dressed in a white button-up, with grey straight leg slacks, black heels and a matching black handbag in tow. Her walk was mean and her corporate swag was on full tilt. Still, I couldn’t make out her face just yet because the wind kept blowing her hair in the way.

When she got about a foot away from me the woman flicked her hair back and flashed a winning smile. It was Melissa and she was sexy as fuck.

“Sorry I’m late,” she said. “Were you waiting long?”

“No, not at all,” I smiled. “I just got here a few minutes before you.”

“Okay, good.”

As we made our way into the bar I opened the door for Melissa and let her enter first. It gave me my first opportunity to check out her ass. It looked plump and firm and those dress pants framed her lady lumps perfectly.

The place wasn’t crowded so we got a booth pretty quickly and it wasn’t long before the waitress came to take our order. I forget what we ate, but I know Melissa and I both ordered a round of wine.

Conversation was free flowing and before we knew it, we had consumed three glasses of Riesling each. Melissa was a bit of a lightweight and I was buzzing, too, but we both agreed that we were having such a good time that we didn’t want to call it a night just yet.

We decided to head back to my place to talk some more.

A few short blocks later, Melissa and I stumbled into my apartment. After a brief tour of my place I offered her a glass of water and we made ourselves comfortable on the couch. We semi-watched a movie while continuing to chitchat. The conversation was pretty normal until Melissa threw a curveball.

“What do you think of me,” she inquired.

“What do you mean,” I shot back, perplexed by the question.

“Never mind.”

“Wait, what do you mean? Do you mean what do I think of you as a person?”

“No, I mean… Uhm… Do you think I’m attractive?”

“What?”

“See. Never mind.”

“What do you mean, ‘Do I think you’re attractive?’ Of course, I do you’re beautiful.”

“Then how come you haven’t kissed me…”

Melissa barely got the words out of her mouth before I completed it for her. I wanted to kiss her from the moment I saw her sashaying towards me outside the bar. My lips were drawn towards her like a magnet and I could no longer resist the mutual attraction.

Maybe it was the bottle’s worth of wine coursing through our veins, but once Melissa and I started kissing we just couldn’t stop. My tongue circled hers 10 times over and traced her perfectly pouty lips.

In one quick swoop I shifted Melissa from beside me to my lap. As she sat on my arousal, which was already bulging through my boxers, I could feel her shift in shock, before easing herself back upon me.

Our lips still locked, I worked my hands across Melissa’s back while she wrapped hers across my broad shoulders. The more passionate our embrace became the freer my hands got.

I gripped Melissa’s ass and it was softer than I had imagined. It felt like the perfect pillow and I wanted to bury my face in it. Instead, my nimble fingers worked their way further up her spine until I reached her bra. I tugged at it gently before accomplishing my goal of unhooking each of the straps.

One by one.

Once the third and final hook was undone Melissa, broke our embrace, lifted her head and flicked her hair back.

“Wait… wait… we can’t,” she sighed.

“You sure,” I countered.

“No, I mean, yeah,” she huffed. “I don’t know. I want to, but… Damn, you, and those lips. I can’t get enough of them.”

“I’m sorry.”

“Oh, don’t be sorry,” she said, before kissing me once more. “I just can’t.”

“If you think we shouldn’t then I guess you’re right, I don’t want you to do anything we’re gonna regret tomorrow.”

Defeated, I dropped my head back against the couch and Melissa rose to her feet. She turned her back to me and I got another perfect view of her ass.

I couldn’t resist.

I grabbed Melissa by one of the belt loops on her pants and forcibly tugged her back towards me. She landed squarely on my crotch and she could feel my pulsations through the thin fabric of her pants.

With my hands placed squarely on Melissa’s hips, she started gyrating seductively on my lap. The more friction she caused the more excited I got. I could feel little droplets of pre-cum pooling in my boxers.

I wanted her badly.

My hands moved up under Melissa’s shirt until I cupped both her perky breasts. I applied slight pressure with each squeeze of her bosom and gently grazed each of her nipples. The manual stimulation only intensified Melissa’s movements as she dug her pelvis deeper into mine.

I glanced down to get a better view of Melissa’s gyrations, and as her shirt rode up I got a glimpse of her thong, which was nestled effortlessly in the crack of her ass.

I wanted her more now than ever.

I shifted Melissa back to her previous position, facing me. We kissed passionately and intently, until I was ready to seal the deal.

I rose to my feet, lifting Melissa up in the air at the same time. With her legs wrapped around my waist, I started making my way from the living room to the bedroom with my prize in hand.

Right before I crossed the threshold into my bedroom, Melissa extended her hands against the wall, impeding my forward progress.

“What’s wrong,” I asked, inquisitively.

“I can’t,” she began. “But I want to.”

“So what’s the problem?”

“I’m… uhm… not presentable.”

“What do you mean,” I said, still holding her firmly.

“I didn’t shave.”

“Is that all,” I said, relived. “Trust me, I appreciate the attention to detail but I really don’t care.”

“No, no, I’m not prepared,” she insisted. “I can’t, not tonight.”

Clearly there was no changing Melissa’s mind, so I threw in the towel. Reluctantly, I eased her down to her feet and readjusted myself in my boxers, while Melissa headed to the bathroom to get herself together.

By time Melissa returned to the living room I had sobered up and come to terms with the fact I would be sleeping alone tonight. I watched as Melissa put her shoes back on and grabbed her purse.

“Okay, I guess I should head home now,” she said. “I had fun, though.”

“Yeah, I did too,” I said.

When we got to the door to say our goodbyes, Melissa leaned in and kissed me.

“Boy, those lips,” she grinned. “I’m sorry about tonight, but you caught me off guard, but next time you won’t.”

“Oh, really,” I smirked. “What are you doing tomorrow?”

Without missing a beat, she shot back, “You.”

To be continued…?

Ladies, would you pump the brakes on a man because you hadn’t shaved down there? Have you ever gotten caught out there “unprepared” before? Is there any other reason why you would stop the action in the heat of the moment? Was Melissa wrong for starting something she couldn’t finish? Fellas, what would you do if a chick pumped the brakes just when things were about to pop off? Would you be mad at her if she had a valid reason? Would you really care if a chick didn’t shave? Would y’all be mad if I didn’t continue this story?

Speak your piece…

UPDATE: PART 2

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72 comments to...
“Are You a Cock Tease? (In the Heat of the Night, Pt. 1)”
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Lola

Oooooh! I literally just went thru this, and I wasnt ‘ready’ so to speak, so I didn’t go with it, but man did I regret it! I like to be ‘presentable’ and ready cuz I feel sexier and more sensual… but there are times, where I wish id be super comfortable enough to just be like bam! Here it is! Lol


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mizze

Oh god I would never even “go” there if my lawn wasnt landscaped..LOL.. I dont see how a woman could feel comfortable having a man in her lower extremeties if she wasnt properly maintenanced..I have only been unprepared “down there” when its come to my boyfriend because he is the only one I will let see me unprepared because we are comfortable.. I just dont let him look..lol, but thats def. not something i will EVER let him get use to..

The only other reason I would not mess with a dude (well, my boyfriend..yes, its ONLY him) is if I have been in my panties all day! I know it sounds ridiculous but I take my showers in the morning and with work and school..ummmm.. its guaranteed not to be as “fresh” as it was. If I have NOT had a chance to take another shower then its NOT happening.. I am SUPER hygenic like that..I would not want no funky, sweaty ball sacks in me so I try to take care of myself in return.

AND YES!! She was wrong.. lol.. Thats COLD.. I would not even start if I could not finish because Im “like the new Ipod, just touch me and turn me on..” (yes, im quotin New Boyz lol).. I know I cannot stop when I am turned on so I would not even attempt to put myself in that position


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Shay from L.A

This is why I get waxed RELIGOUSLY every 4 weeks. If you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready!

That’s just WERONG.


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da ThRONe

I dont like being stop but Im more than mentally prepared to.

An ungroomed beaver is no excuse to stop. Trimed or hairless is prefered but not required.

You stop me with out a damn good cause Im going John Wall(1 and done) on a broad. I hate being teased and the teasers. Its hard enough to guess when its time to invade a womans personal space without having my signals fucked with!


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Elle

I’ve never been caught out there like that cause if I know I’m not prepared I’m going home after dinner/drinks/whatever.

Actually, at times to stop myself from going too far too soon I do not shave intentionally or wear undies that do not match. No way I am going home with a guy in the first place if I’m not presentable.


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Coolhand Luke

I can feel what Mizze is saying about the freshness factor. If you know you’ve been sweatin all day on sweltering Subway platforms and sidestepping crowds and fish market air, you might not feel too sexy.

That said, Elle is right about not even making the house visit if you’re not game ready. The sequence of events definitely sounds a bit teasy, but there are also women who have “No sex on the first date” rules. If that’s the case for this girl, it’s just a hollow formality, given that she’s already talking about buttering you up the next night.

Some girls are just hella indecisive though too–Start having them angel/devil shoulder convos mid-gyration. It could be any number of things, but I don’t think she was purposefully fucking with you. Looking forward to pt. 2 though.


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superwoman

wow…people have self-control…i would NEVER let this be an issue, probably because i don’t take pubic hair that seriously…maybe it’s a cultural/age thing? i’m african, late 30’s…perhaps that’s it (although i know that some of my friends in the same demographic would vehemently disagree with me)

to me, the decision to manicure down there is really such an inconsequential thing – i’ve been in this exact position described in this most excellent story, and didn’t even give it a thought!

and it didn’t spoil the situation, we had a great night…i think as women, we give ourselves too much to worry about sometimes…just my 2 cents…


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AK ALL DAY

Enjoyed the post. Now to the questions..

*Ladies, would you pump the brakes on a man because you hadn’t shaved down there?
If this is our 1st time together, yes. I’m partial to a “manicured lawn.” And if its not a s neat as I like it, yes the brakes will be pumped.

Have you ever gotten caught out there “unprepared” before?
Yes!

Was Melissa wrong for starting something she couldn’t finish?
Yes she was wrong. If she’d already said there wasnt going to be anything, she should have left it well enough along. The fact that she kept freaking the man, makes her a tease when she knew it wasnt jumping off.


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DC Man With a Plan

OMG…This is SOO wrong in so many ways…..I agree with the ladies who say: Don’t even go there, if you’re not prepared to go all the way. Teasing is B/S. NOW, if your cycle just started…okay, THAT I can understand. But shaving? Or not feeling sexy bcuz you want to take a soothing bath? Naw, we can work around those last ones. U can’t come to the crib…do all this heavy pettin and shyt. Then talk about, Naw, I can’t… Then again….on rare occassions…..lmao. Teasing CAN heighten the expectations and provide added excitement and thrills….BUT I don’t like to consider all of that! rofl


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Optical_Illusion

I shave, primarily in the summer, and for myself. Don’t want to sweat and get a wet spot in my pumpum shorts! Not sexy! Doesn’t have anything to do with my man and how he feels about pubic hair. Sounds like old girl just didn’t want to give you any.


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Tunde

yeah i have had a woman tell me that she didn’t want to have sex because she hadn’t shaved. i didn’t see the purpose of not wanting to do it. it’s not like we hadn’t had sex before. very frustrating.


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Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7

hair never stopped anything from going down LMAO…i an not embarrased by my pubic hair, full bush, trimmed, waxed or whateva SMH


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Dirk

One time this chick i used to have sex with told me that she wanted to but couldn’t. I assumed she was on the rag but she told me that she hadn’t shaved. That was some b.s. I was kinda hot too but I played it cool. Next day she text me and said that she got a brazilian. :-)


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bran

I don’t know anyone who would let a liittle hair interfere with a lot of fun. If I met a guy who didn’t trim a bit himself, I would be disappointed & would let him know that his clippers can be used below the belt, but I wouldn’t stop.


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skye

Can’t wait for part 2.

I hear Melissa’s excuse, but i do think she was wrong. She should have either avoided going up to yr place in the 1st place or not brought why u haven’t kissed. I’m not even gonna address her gyrating all over u, and letting the kissing go too far.

But she’s a woman, and that’s how we are sometimes. Also there’s probably more to it than just unprepared, maybe she wasn’t sure about sleeping with u on the first date like someone mentioned above.


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It's Me

I know all the guys are going to say i’m totally wrong for this but i use to do this to this guy that i just was not interested in at all…but he was someone to occupy my time when my best friend and his best friend would leave me with him after a night of us all kickin it… i would butter him all up and kiss on him and grind on him but when it was time to stop playin i would come up with the best excuses!! lol! like if we’d been out drinkin i would say something like “damn those drinks are not sitting right on my stomach we need to slow down a bit” then i would just go to sleep! lol!! say whatever you want i didn’t want to freak on him i just needed a place to crash! lmao!!!

On the flip side i understand the not being ready thing, that wouldn’t be a deal breaker if i really wanted to do it, but i would let the guy know like hey i’m not shaved but next time i promise i will be! lol and i’m big on the hygeine too like if its been a long day if i can’t shower then its not gonna happen…. no man wants an unfresh vajayjay!


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da ThRONe

LMAO@ How the guys can careless about the girl being shaved while the woman see it as a legit reason to pass up sex.

Sometimes women just put way to much stock in small stuff. Hair does not impact the overrall experience that much. Most men arent that shallow trust not when sex is involved.


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Reg

Honestly, I think the not shaved thing was an excuse to not go further. I think she was caught off guard and was not prepared to like you that much. So, in order not to show that she’s easy, she pumped the breaks. Now, I’m not saying that she’s easy by no means.

A guy can’t get mad at woman who wants to slow things down. You can get mad or whatever, but you have to respect her decision.

Creator Factor


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da ThRONe

@Its Me

You ma’am are the reason why there are so many missed signals with men and women. I never understood whats the logic behind playing with another person emotions. If you werent interested you should have just said so. I sure hope you have matured past that foolishness.

He’s better than me you have one time to fake me out and I’m likely never to acknowledge your ass again.


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da ThRONe

@Reg

This isnt a question of will we/wont we. This is about a female letting things get way too far with no intentions of going all the way. I can wait as long as it takes for sex ,but let your intentions be known either verbally or through your actions.


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It's Me

lol @ Da Throne

i agree that it was foolishness BUT more so on his part because i agree with you…. it only takes once for me…. fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me….. but he was so gullible! omg! so i will admit that i used him! i used him for a place to crash while my bff was gettin her grove on with he bf but i see it as takin one for the team! lol! i apologized for it! lol! but it is what it is! he knew we weren’t going anywhere, i made it clear that i wasn’t interested in him in that way, but the fact that he kept inviting me back to his house was on him…. not me! PLS i was single then…. i’m in a committed relationship now so i don’t have to worry about stuff like that any more lol.


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Rastaman

Its funny to read the comments expressed here because they highlight the divide between men and women when it comes to sex. Women are generally about things being right, how they look and how the feel and even sometimes the right place and time. Most men focus on say when.

I have encountered all types of situations in my travels and please retire “if she wasn’t ready she shouldn’t have started anything” criticism. Women get just as carried away as guys…if old boy did not have a condom would be blaming him for not being prepared. This was practically a blind date, most people I know don’t go on blind dates looking to get sexual and so it is reasonable that she would not be prepared to sleep with anyone.

Whenever those types of situations have occured, the one thing that is assured is that there will be a return visit to finsih what got started. If she is a tease well that happens too. I am man that tease women all the time…I don’t have a probleem getting them revved up, I view it as priiming the pump. It has never failed and all it requires is alittle patience and self control on my part. Plus by the time I make my move they just dive right in without any hesitation.


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da ThRONe

@Rasta

This is one of the few times I completely disagree with you. First teasing IMO is wrong for either gender. I hate games and teasing is a game.

As far as the condom situation it is completely different then shaving. One is completely cosmetic the other one can save your life or a life time of issues. And correcting that issues is as easy as finding a corner store.


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SassyNoLA

Ladies, would you pump the brakes on a man because you hadn’t shaved down there? Have you ever gotten caught out there “unprepared” before?

no, i wouldn’t pump the brakes for not shaving. i feel like a man that’s really into you or really wants it isn’t going to care at that moment. if in the heat of the moment, the dude is turned off, he doesn’t like women, you, or sex forreal forreal. i’ve been caught out there unprepared and we still had a good time. at first, i was a little self-conscious but once we moved into heavier parts, i definitely forgot all about that because i was no longer in my head. i was all up and through my body. that’s probably a mark of really good sex or chemistry though- you shouldn’t still be in your head at that point in my opinion.

Is there any other reason why you would stop the action in the heat of the moment?

i wouldn’t start the action if i was on my period or near it. the only other reason would be if i happened to change my mind for some reason. i have absolutely no problems with changing my mind and deciding i don’t want to do something. i wouldn’t let the dude guilt me in to anything or make me feel like a tease for having a change of heart either. i definitely don’t want any regrets in my sexual history.

Was Melissa wrong for starting something she couldn’t finish?

nope. i’ve been Melissa before and i didn’t start anything with the intention of stopping it. i didn’t start anything with any intentions. i get just as wrapped up in the physical act as you do. i want you just as bad AT THAT MOMENT. now, at another moment, if i realize that i won’t be confident or comfortable (leading to possible lackluster sex) doing you, i’m not going to do it. it’s not because i meant to get you gassed up. it’s because i lost my mind and got wrapped up and then had a moment of clarity. if not shaving was a deal breaker that made me feel insecure, what would be the point of sleeping with you if i wouldn’t fully enjoy it because i was all in my head being self-conscious? NO! only you would benefit from that sex and that’s a problem (if we’re not in a relationship. in relationships, i would be okay with doing something strictly for your pleasure but that’s completely different).


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Dewan W. Gibson

Teasing is even worse when done over IM or text. In the past I’ve met women who would text something like “I’m gonna suck ur balls off.” So of course I looked forward to it and prepared by going to her place with extra clean balls.

Mind you, these are not your typical just out the shower balls. For situations like these I’ll wash twice with Dial anti-bacterial soap, air out and then wear boxers to ensure the balls remain fresh.

But when I would finally see the text-teaser she’d give no more than a slight tongue flicker on the balls…if I was lucky. And I’d go home with dry and still somewhat fresh balls every time. Wack!


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javon

I agree with Da throne. this isnt about being unprepared or some pubies on her cooter, she had no intentions of doinking him. some women love the control. Ive had this happen a couple of times where a woman invited me back to her room and when things seem like they about to get down, she turns off the switch. I wont give her the satisfaction of showing her any emotion other than a nonchalant look. the last thing I want to picture is her laughing with her friends or even with some guy that she really likes, how she got me mad. two things you could do, either roll over and go to sleep and try not to think about it, or have a bootycall call on standby and call her in front of her. either way, you dont want to show no emotion and do not say a word about it.that way she wont feel empowered and you could at least walk away with your dignity.


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Spinster

Nope, wouldn’t pump the brakes. If HE has an issue with it, EXACTLY….. it’s HIS issue, not mine.


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pintsize1

I got in such a perdicament once..my bf had just dumped me, and the dude I liked came in like a hawk..well it was a coincidence, heavy make out session, but I wasnt ready in many ways than one. I wasn’t prepared..I was in a hiatus from my man so, I wasnt in the mood to do landscapping, his kisses were hevenly, but I was thinking of my ex in the back of my mind, so I couldnt just go with it..Im happy that he understood..


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Reecie

I’ve felt like that before and gone thru with it, even though I was a bit self conscious. I’ve also not gone thru with it. Now if it was a freshness issue– I knew it had been a long day I wouldn’t have even set myself up to be a tease like that–I never would’ve went to dude’s apt.


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Jan

I used to do that when I was young and a virgin. After I finally had sex, I tried not to put myself in those situations b/c I would have did some of everybody. Lol.
But maybe the girl wanted the full sexual experience. Foreplay (including head). I don’t want my man looking spitting hair out his mouth. So it is understandable but she shouldn’t have started all that moving n shit.


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Rayskilla

Ok first of all to me that is not teasing, I mean its not a good reason to stop either because whether or not she’s trimmed doesn’t bother me, but its not teasing. Teasing would be kissing, touching, ect. and then she just pump brakes and gives no reason at all and just leave, and doesn’t even let you know when or if ya’ll are ever gonna get up with each other, That’s teasing. And not taking a shot at the brother in question, but maybe if you knew a few more buttons to press she wouldn’t have been able to resist. Women are just as ready as we are, sometimes more so, but you can’t always just rely on a kiss here, and a tit and azz squeeze there, sometimes you have to be more sensual and perceptive of what gets her going! Also while I do personally enjoy a pretty shaved kitty, I’ve learned that constant bare shaving can be unhealthy for the ladies(look it up, http://www.drrachel.com) And mainly I want to say that if I were in this dude shoes(an I have been b4) I’d a been alittle bit disappointed but its not that big a deal, like the saying go good things cum to those who wait.


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sweetsexxybrown

@Rastaman: valid points. I agree. Sometimes things just happen unexpectedly and if its not finished there will be a return visit!

In regards to the post: I really don’t think this was a situation of teasing. I think she was seriously contemplating “should I or shouldn’t I.” This wasn’t a tease. It went further than she wanted/expected and was ready to give in for a second but didn’t.

I know some of you men don’t think its a big deal if we think its unkept at the moment…but of course not because all you want to do in the heat of the moment is enter the center! But just understand if its the first time we are DEFINITELY not gonna let you enter unless the landscaping is done. PERIOD. I keep up on my wax appointments but even if there was some stubble and I wasn’t comfy w/u seeing that, it aint goin down. Only way its going down with a bush is if I know you’re into the bush look-and I still may be uncomfortable with that,lol.


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Amber

I have definitely been caught off guard, recently actually, and I stopped.

I agree with @sweetsexxybrown !!!!
Its just my preference of not been seen all “wild with a bush” especially on the first encounter!

I tried to be prepared at all times but sometimes the chemistry isn’t expected.


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ATLs.Marc.of.Excellence

That’s why I keep the Andis plugged up, with the #2 guard ready! Don’t know too many chicks that would pump the breaks before the panties drop. but if she explicitly tells me she needs a trimmin’ (or I deem it necessary)… soap (check), water (check), clippers and guards (check)… bzzzzz…bzzz…bzzzzzz…now go reach around and wrench it off so we can get back to the regularly scheduled programming…


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Artivist

Oh I understand her not wanting to go further because she wasn’t shaved. I may be a bohemian at heart, but the naughty minx in me loves the way sex feels when I’m waxed. And you want to be in prime condition your first time with a guy. However, I would never let things get this far. I don’t get down on the first night any way, so no worries about teasing.


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Phantom

I agree with Rastaman.

As a man who has played the hard to get/tease on many occasions, it raises your stock value. There are just as many female predators as men and they become increasingly attracted the more obstacles they have to overcome.

Instead of being the woman with the musty unkempt bush that you told your boys you nailed and didn’t call back, this piece is about the sexy, seductive, vixen, who left you with blue balls that you just had to write a blog about.


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Melanie Richardson

Let me give my initial answer b4 I give my opinion. To stop & say it’s the shaving/bathing ish is some bs. Unless you’re funky as HELL which really shouldn’t happen, then I don’t get it. With that said I think ol girl had other reasons.

What if…? Ol’ girll knew she was the “hallway” in the “throwing a hot dog down a hallway” analogy that men refer to when they run into a chick with a deep one. She could have liked his foreplay, but saved them both the disappointment of the echoes that would have resulted… lol

Or maybe she likes to tease? She did say “no” before he pulled her back. If dude doesn’t like intense foreplay like this and no a$$, then he shouldn’t have tried to play the odds.

@ATLs.Marc.of.Excellence – make it happen mentality there… lol. The Marc of a man bout his business!


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Melanie Richardson

@Rasta & @phantom – On a personal, not Wet Wednesday fantasy note. I concur.

Men get to see a lot upfront. As a woman, I like to have a feel for what I’m getting into – which means initially there will be some foreplay at whatever level deems appropriate for both parties until such time that we agree to dive in.

Not saying that all fine women can do the thang and not all hung men can put it down, but when men start displaying their goods like women (not talk about skanks) then maybe men will have a leg to stand on – pun hehe


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Artivist

@Sweetsexxybrown. Exactly!


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BangShang

i agree with @ssbrown and @sassynola @mizze… all good points. gotta keep the “lawn landscaped”


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Brittany

Shaving down there really isn’t good for women. The whole point of pubic hair is to catch bacteria (kind of like your nose hairs stop dust and what not). I also read in Cosmo, I believe, that it can decrease sexual drive. IDK if it’s true, but hey whatever.

Anyways, if you’re offering a man truly isn’t going to care about you being unshaved I feel. I mean, if any man stops you before sex and says “I can’t do this b/c you haven’t shaved” clearly something is wrong with him and you shouldn’t be messing with his butt. I feel like that’s the equivalent of you sitting around starving and when someone offers you a sandwich you decline b/c it has mustard on it. Clearly your butt wasn’t hungry. So clearly if a man declines sex b/c of hair he didn’t want to get any that bad.


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MissMe83

I’m sorry, but am I the only person that read Dewan talking about him not getting his balls sucked?! I HOLLA’D when I read that..lol

Oh and ATLsmarcofexcellence…that’s hot. It’s called being prepared!!! lol

Me personally, I don’t care about not shaving. Hell hair is natural!!! Mind you when I’m with someone and we get down like that on the regular, then there is a constant landing strip. But seeing as though I’m currently abstaining from those activities…it’s just trimmed. BUT you BETTER believe that if my Mr.Right now came over, I wouldn’t give a DAMN if I hadn’t shaved in 2 weeks. Sweetie if Moses can part the Red Sea, you can push aside a few pubes!! (I’m probably sooo going to hell for a Biblical reference in this context…lol jp)

But seriously though, I think women get too caught up with that kind of stuff…I’m about to get mine..fuck the dumb shit!

Now I will agree that if I’m not the freshest down there, I will need to clean up a little bit. Men please understand that 10 hrs in the same pair of draws and then getting your freak on right after is not going to happen. HELL NAW!


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kaylah

As a woman I believe it is important for us to always be prepared when going on a date with a man. I’m not putting myself out there if I can’t seal the deal.


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Anonymous

LOL @ these comments!!

All I am goin to say to some of these men in here is PUH-LEEZ!!! lol.. If I came at you, THE FIRST TIME, (not the fourth or fifth, we been fuckin-for-a-while status) with a hairy, unshaved or taperd, smelly pussy, YOU WOULD STILL WANT ME? YEAH RIGHT.. THe second Im gone you are talkin SHIT to your boys.. SOrry, NOT buyin it. My thing is that if a female came at you like that on the FIRST time, would you really think that her hygiene was up to par all the time?? You are supposed to come with your best foot forward.. Or maybe thats just me and I have treated my dudes with more respect than that…*kanye shrug*

And for those who say shaving down there is unhealthy and its natural.. UMMMMMM.. Then why do shave your armpits and legs?? Hair is there, its natural.. YEAH, thought so…

*and this is not throw shade at nobody and this was to NO ONE in particular*

And Im Mizze.. I dont know WHY im being posted as Anonymous!! *flips hair, walks out*


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mizze

LOL @ MissMe83!!!!!!!!

I really did just laugh out loud!!


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JusLisaE

Ha! Ha! Ha! Im dying laughing over here! I definately have been in this position. and aw man its a no go but i would not let the dude know thats why, same thing with legs and under arms. I wax and to get my touch up in between i need enough hair for the wax to catch and if I’m in that “just a lil more hair” stage then dude is not getting anywhere near my legs or my cookies! lmao! too damn funny………


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Miss LuLu

1st off i wanna know where this bar is on Guy Brewer cus i’m on merrick and i’ve seen some spots there closed down. I usually shave but if i didnt… big deal. I told the dude in advance, i said i’m a lil cavewomanish… either u down to continue or not. although some women are funny about things like that, i consider it a minor… unlike a yeast infection or something. then by all means she better had stop.


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shor5ty1

I think her reason is her reason. I mean she shouldn’t have kept making out with the dude. But hey the first time you gotta be on point.


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da ThRONe

@Anonymous

Why are you sleeping with people you think dont respect you enough or isnt mature enough to not talk shit behind your back? Or if your going be boning random dudes why would you care at all what they have to say?


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Elle

MissMe83

you are not the only one. I swear I was laughing so hard. Oh the mental pictures.

*still rolling*


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my two skeets

hmmmn. more psychology psyche outs than anything else here. i been on the receiving-er, not receiving- end of this and wow. It always ends up being something about the woman that is just, well, off and EXTREMELY divided.

but yeah man. i could see this one coming a MILE away.

it started with the “think of me” question.

still rolling around laughing even though it’s more sad than ha ha

b


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DC Man With a Plan

lmao @v Missme83…lyin azz self…U know DAMN well you’ve gone to work for 8 hours, hit a happy hour and got with your BOO, headed over to his spot and DID the damn thang! U didn’t get or give any oral…but U damn sho got your freak on…Stop playin!!!


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DC Man With a Plan

nobody said you don’t need to wash your azz on the regular…lol……IF you take a shower at 6 am and I see you at the club at 6 PM…unless you’ve been digging ditches all day…Yo azz shouldn’t be funky. What, you don’t know how to wipe yo azz? lmao…..Now, if you’re skipping showers and baths or are on some kinda ery’ other day or only on a Wed that falls on even numbers….Uhhhm, yeah, U need to take yo funkiness elsewhere…Be alone….do that hermit thing…..rofl


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sweetsexxybrown

@Mizze: the natural no shave comment>>>Exactly gurrl!
@Brittany: definitely not true what you read in Cosmo about the sex drive. At least not for me. Any and every time I get my brazillian/sphinx I am EXTREMELY horny! Not sure if it’s because it’s all soft & pretty or if it’s because I can feel every-single-move I make. (*sighing*) But my sex drive definitely increases after the wax.


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Khandi F. Baby

Oh yea, she was dead wrong for doing dude like that. I feel like that was just dirty for her to even make dude believe that she was about to give him some monkey. She knew she hadn’t shaved when she first went on a date with dude so she should’ve made sure that she didn’t give him any ideas about possibly sleeping with him. I think it was a bunch of bull for her to do that. I know I would never do dude like that because I can just imagine how mad I would be if somebody told me some mess like that. I feel she should’ve just gave him some anyway because he said it didn’t matter if she had shaved or not. Any man that I’ve ever been with has always said that it didn’t matter to them if I shaved or not but I did keep it shaped up and look nice.


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I'll give it a try...

lmbao @ Dewan W. Gibson

I damn near spit coke all over this screen


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theINTELLECT

Am I alone in not thinking this was a tease, but a great mind f#ck. I mean she basically told dude tomorrow I’m doing you, and that anticipation has to be the best/worst thing in the world. I can just imagine all the fantasies going on in his mind the next day (possible post NWSO). Office fantasies can help so much when trying to get through a long boring day.


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neo the one

these comments are wild… lol… i see both sides and alot of it is misdirection… if you can’t keep it real with me im on the move… quick!….dont have time for the games unless they are the ones I wanna play… I dont do mind games… the minute i get a wiff im out… no questions asked… interesting posts though… we’ve all been on one side or the other…


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single24

that’s the problem with some women, they have grooming habits based on their dating status. It should be done just because you want to. I personally hate pubic hair, so I keep it gone at all times and have done it for years. but that’s because I dance and its not cute being in a leotard with a bush poking through the fabric! Just don’t take it there if you don’t want to take it all the way


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moe

hell no i would not pump the brakes! if he don’t appreciate a bush or just a little bit of hair down there he’s a punk. Women come with hair and we have evolved to shave, trim it or whatever, because of personal preference. We should feel confident hair free or not, there have been times when im not all the way prepared down there but if im ready its going down with no questions or regrets.

I even talked to my guy friend about this hair situation and he told me he looks at it as a challenge. He is so use to seeing no hair on females that he likes to see some hair from time to time.

Just be confident with a little hair, ain’t no dude gona stop cause he notices some hair peeking out a woman’s panties… NONE!!!


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mizze

@da throne..

that was me.. =)

But I think you misunderstood the point I was trying to make.. I rarely sleep with random dudes, and that was never said..that is why I take care of myself the way I do, because these are guys that I like or respect.. I meant the first time in the FIRST time we have sex.. that can be the first date or the 20th date.. Guys do it, girls do it.. we talk about sex to our friends, that is REALITY..and I am sure that there are girls that you have talked to your friends about, not saying it was anything bad….

My point was simply that I do not believe a guy would be all giddy about having sex with a female that doesnt take care of herself.. I mean, maybe its just MY mentality that first impressions are always lasting ones so Im going to bring my best foot forward.. I can see if this was a gf or bf, then THAT is different, like i stated before


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LadyFox_5700

Keepin eberything real this type of thing can happen. Make out sessions can and have lead to the best unplanned sex ever. I have been in that situation and can honestly say if I go back in for a second time we fuckin. Once the action was stopped the first time there was no need to grind on him for a second time. The only acception to that rule is if you have ur monthly visitor. In which case ur both just shit outta luck and it cold showers for everyone.


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Asada6

I admit, I WAS a tease, but I’ve really worked on not being one, still working on trying not to be because it’s a pretty selfish thing to do. Like I could be ready, groomed and all, but pulled back because part of me was afraid to let the freak in me come out. Not because I feared pregnancy and disease, I know how to protect myself, but I really worried I would let me self go and have random encounter after encounter and I really don’t want to became that chick. I’ve seen ppl lives spiral out of control because they released those inhibitions about sex. But now that I’m 29, will be 30 soon my ideas of sexuality and relationships have changed drastically, and I don’t feel the need to hold back if I don’t want to. I’m still cautious, but I feel like can let go, with no regrets, no fear.


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nymphette

i was just thinking how do guys really feel about hair down there? one guy told me he doesn’t like when i shave because when it grows back in it feels like a mans beard. plus when you shave and get razor bumps in my opinion its almost better to just have some hair instead.
nwso – did you ever do a blog on this? hair vs. no hair.

anyways as long as it is clean the hair shouldn’t be a show stopper. im latina and black so trust me i know hairy!


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NWSO

@nymphette

Yeah, I actually did do a blog on hair down there. Peep it at link below

http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2008/11/04/no-more-bush/


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shenice85

Hair has never been a showstopper for me. I keep it clean and trimmed. I got no complaints & it was ALL GOOD.


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tae

i couldn’t stop laughing when i got to the part about her not shaving…hilarious, now i don’t feel so bad. i have in the heat of the moment uttered those fateful words….but i still got it on anyway.


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ALIG

This isn’t a situation that requires a right or wrong answer.


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omfgitsme

give the gir a chance, she wasnt wrong, ive been with dude for three years and if im not riigiously andscaped it isnt ging down .


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AGK

Lmao, i’ve done the same exact thing.
Women need to feel good about themselves before they take that step, and u def wont feel good about urself when ur bikini is hairy as hell. Yes it evern sounds gross. LOL
So, she did the right thing.
Plus, nxt time will be ever better :P


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Ms. Sylaneous

Ladies, would you pump the brakes on a man because you hadn’t shaved down there?
** YES I WOULD!! WOULD BE MORE INCLINED TO DO SO IF WE WERE ‘NEW’, THE OLDER IT GETS, I’D STILL LIKE TO BE ‘PREPARED’, BUT HOPFULLY WITH TIME, WE’D BE PAST THAT…OR I’D BE PAST THAT.

Have you ever gotten caught out there “unprepared” before?
** I MAY BE FIBBING NOW, BUT I DON’T THINK I’VE BEEN CAUGHT. IF I’M FEELING A GUY ENOUGH TO BE ALONE WITH HIM… I’M GONNA BE PREPARED, CAUSE I LIKE TO THINK ‘ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN’. IF IT GETS TO THAT POINT THAT HE AND I DECIDE TO MAKE THAT MOVE… THEN IMMA BE ALLLL NICE AND READY… lol

Is there any other reason why you would stop the action in the heat of the moment?
** I WILL ADMIT THAT I HAVE STOPPED IT IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT JUST OUT OF SPITE! lLOL DUDE HAD BEEN ‘BRAGGING’ TO HIS BOY THAT HE WAS GONNA ‘HIT’ AND I FOUND OUT… GOT HIM WORKED UP, AND WALKED AWAY! LOL AND I DIDN’T FEEL BAD ABOUT IT AND THAT WAS HIS FIRST AND LAST TIME SPENDING TIME WITH ME!

Was Melissa wrong for starting something she couldn’t finish?
** NOPE, IF SHE WASN’T READY, (FOR WHATEVER REASON) SHE HAD EVERY RIGHT TO STOP… AND DUDE SHOULDN’T HAVE BEEN PISSED (NOT TOO MUCH ANYWAY) IF HE RESPECTED HER ENOUGH…

Would y’all be mad if I didn’t continue this story?
** I WOULD SAY YEAH, BUT I’M COOL CAUSE I KNOW THERE’S A PART II ALREADY (I’M LATE ON THIS ONE)


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Chrissi_Poo

There is nooooo wayyy that I am doing anything without being prepaired. Its hard when you are in the moment but the buildup the next day is great!






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