Would You Sleep With Your Ex Again? (The Breakup, Pt. 4)

December 16th 2009 in *Wet Wednesdays/Erotica, Relationships/Love

Drunken-Sex

A decision had to be made.

I had just dropped Paula home and Monica was riding shotgun. We approached the next intersection and came to a red light. My blinkers weren’t on but I had to make a turn.

I just wasn’t sure which way I was going.

I could turn left and just drop Monica home. Or, I could turn right and take her up on her offer of one last night together.

The light turned green and I turned…

Right.

Let’s flashback a little…

It was New Year’s Eve and Monica and I were celebrating at a mutual friend’s house. It had been six months since our breakup and we were finally at a point where we could actually be civil towards each other.

We were off in a corner sipping Champagne when Monica set the wheels in motion with an open-ended proposition. “I want one last night,” she said, looking off into the distance.

“A night of what,” I asked, completely bewildered.

“I want to have sex one last time.”

“What?! You’re drunk.”

“No, I’m not,” she said, flatly while looking me square in my eyes. “This is only my second drink for the night. I’m totally sober.”

“But how is that supposed to work, Monica? We’re just supposed to have sex and then go our separate ways like nothing happened? Don’t you think that’ll be, you know, kinda awkward? I mean, a month ago you were cursing me out on the phone; how do we go from there to sleeping together like nothing happened?”

“You see, that’s what I love about you,” she smiled. “Most guys would just take the ass and run but you actually thought beyond the night. All I’m saying is this: I don’t know when I’ll be ready to sleep with someone again and just I wish I had known the last time was, well, the last time, so I wanted just one more night. No strings attached.”

Monica paused for a moment before taking a sip from her glass, “I’m just putting that out there,” she continued. “Think about it.”

Before I could muster up a response, Malik walked over with an newly opened bottle of Champagne. “Come on you two, it’s almost midnight,” he said, pouring bubbly into our half empty/full glasses. “The balls about to drop.”

Monica and I rejoined the rest of our friends in front of the TV set and watched as Dick Clark and all of Times Square counted down the New Year…

5…

4…

3…

2…

1…

HAPPY NEW YEARS!!!!

Flash-forward…

Monica and I walked into my bedroom. She sat down on the foot of my bed and began taking off her shoes, while I headed off to the bathroom. I returned a short while later to find her laying across the bed in nothing but her bra and panties.

I unbuckled my pants and stripped down to my boxers and wifebeater. That’s when Monica noticed my arm.

“Oh, you got a tattoo,” she said.

“Yeah, about a week ago,” I said, glancing over at my bicep. “It’s still healing.

Monica inched towards me to get a closer look, then she planted a soft kiss upon my engraved skin.

“It’s beautiful.”

The next thing I knew Monica’s gentle kiss turned to a sensual lick as her tongue traced the outlines of my tattoo. I closed my eyes to enhance the sensation as the woman who I had loved for three years licked my wounds—literally.

Monica worked her tongue across other parts of my body, eventually arriving at the waistband of my boxers, which could barely contain my Champagne-induced erection. She looked up at me with her pretty brown eyes and began tugging at boxers with her teeth. It was a short-lived game of hide and seek as Monica quickly found what she was looking for.

She took hold of me and guided my dick towards her lips, which soon engulfed me. I looked down and watched as I disappeared and reappeared in her cavernous mouth. I moved strands of her hair that was blocking my view out of the way so I could see every moment of what felt so good.

Monica’s tongue, mouth and lips continued to work their way up and down my shaft; across my balls; and around the head of my dick. The euphoric sensations traveled through my erogenous zone and to the small of my back before shooting to my scrawny chicken legs, causing my knees to buckle.

Monica knew how to push my buttons and she was pressing them all simultaneously. I wanted to explode in her mouth but if this was going to be our final night together, I wanted to give her everything. I wanted to give her long, hard dick, with deep and controlled strokes.

I grabbed Monica by the back of her neck and raised her face to mines. Uninhibited, I kissed her lips, which were softened by my pre-cum, passionately. My hands danced across her back before honing in on the hooks of her bra. One and two were released quite quickly, but I stumbled on the third before Monica swooped in to finish the task.

With her chocolate drop breasts exposed I placed Monica on her back without releasing my liplock. Once she was horizontal, I titled her head to the left so that I could tickle her ear with my tongue before whispering, “I missed you.”

“Me too,” she replied.

I worked my way down Monica’s body, as my mouth, tongue and lips frolicked in her peaks and valleys. I spent a fair amount of time suckling her breasts and nipples, paying equal attention to both so neither would feel jealous.

Then, I carved out a familiar lane for myself towards her belly button. In a game of role reversal, I tugged at her panties with my teeth. Not even my time-tested jaws could pull her lace bottoms over Monica’s curvaceous hip bones, but it was fun trying.

I hovered my face over her crotch and took in her scent of attraction. Each breath I took made me harder and I felt a small pool of pre-cum forming in my boxers. Finally, I grazed my tongue across the fabric of panties. She writhed in excitement as I did it again.

Her clit was like a unopened Blow Pop and I was willing to find out how many licks it took to get to her gooey center.

1…

2…

3…

“Stop teasing me,” Monica interjected.

If this is going to be our last time,” I said between faux licks. “I want you to enjoy every moment of this, baby.”

4…

5…

23…

I lifted my head from between Monica’s legs and slowly tugged at the sides of her panties. She willingly raised her hips so that I could more easily remove them. Once they were cast off to the side of the bed, I dove back down and submerged my tongue, my mouth, my face in to Monica’s love box.

She was moist.

I was hard.

I thought back to all the times she had given me head—including her performance just moments ago—and it turned me on even more. I wanted to return the favor. That I did tenfold until my face was drenched in Monica’s juices. Even after she had came twice in my mouth I continued until she could take no more and she finally pulled my head up from in between her luscious legs.

I stood up near the foot of the bed and removed my wifebeater, boxers and socks. ;) I walked over to my nightstand and grabbed a condom from my stash. Once it was in place, I returned to an eagerly awaiting Monica.

Woman standing on top

During the course of our relationship, Monica and I had fucked just as many times as we’d made love. We were in love so the labels for what we did didn’t matter. Some nights/afternoons/mornings we both just desired a raw and aggressive exchange, and others required a more passionate and tender interaction.

Tonight was our final night together, so it wound up being a magical combination of the both.

I mounted Monica and thrust my hips towards hers with precision and care. She rolled me on my back and glided herself across my manhood like the bow of violin. Our lovemaking was musical. Our rhythms synchronized and worked its way up to a crescendo.

As Monica rode me and her ample chest heaved provocatively with each thrust, I could feel her walls tightening. It was getting good for her and she was about to erupt once more.

Her orgasm was intense as she stifled her own screams of ecstasy. I gripped her hips tightly and pushed myself deeper inside. My stomach was soaked with her juices but I could care less.

If this is going to be our last time, I wanted her to enjoy every moment of this.

I was done letting Monica have her way with me. I slapped her ass and demanded she get up. “I’m gonna hit it from the back,” I said.

Instinctively, she got on all fours and raised her ass in the air like a cat in heat. I positioned myself behind her and looked down at this magnificent view before me. With my hands firmly locked on her waist, I eased myself inside and built up momentum.

Each thrust I threw on her, she tossed back. As the motions started to get more intense, Monica looked over her shoulder with this devilish grin.

“You like that shit don’t you,” I snarled, intensifying my stroke.

Caught up in the rush of sensations, Monica couldn’t even muster the words to reply, but her mid-moan, “Uh huh,” was all the answer I needed.

The more I looked at Monica’s round ass bouncing back across my still wet stomach the more turned on I became. I could feel my nut coming on but if this is going to be our last time, I wanted Monica to enjoy every moment of this.

“I’m about to cum, baby,” I announced.

“Me too,” Monica replied.

“Can I cum, baby?”

“Yeah, you can cum, baby, this is your pussy.”

Those words turned me on even further. “Tell me I cum again, baby,” I grunted. “I like when you talk to me like that.”

“You can bust… whenever… you want, babe,” Monica said, as her back started to arch further.

I sped up my stroke and plunge deeper and harder inside of her. My penis began to swell even more until finally I exploded.

The pleasure I felt was indescribable. All I know is it took a good two minutes for my post-cum stroke to slow down to halt. I eased myself out from between Monica’s lower lips and planted gentle kisses across her lower back before reaching the nape of her neck and eventually her waiting lips.

I tossed the used condom off to the side of the bed and collapsed in the bed next to Monica. She took her familiar place in the nook of my left arm and my sped up heartbeat was her soothing lullaby.

The next morning we awoke and got dressed like nothing happened. Last night was our last time, and we both enjoyed every moment of it.

After I dropped Monica off at her house, I drove to the corner to head back home. As I approached the intersection I came to a red light. My blinkers weren’t on but I had to make a turn.

I just wasn’t sure which way I was going.

I could turn left and take the back streets home. Or, I could turn right and take the high road.

The light turned green and I turned…

I can’t remember which way I turned, but I never turned back.

Fin…for now.

Is there an ex you wish you could have slept with one last time before you broke up? Would you be bold enough to ask for one last roll in the hay with no strings attached? Do you think that most people are mature enough to have sex after a breakup and not get emotionally attached? If you knew that the next time with someone was going to be the last time would you try to lay it on them or just get your nut and scram? Do you think that when the sex starts getting mediocre that it’s a sign that the relationship is close to an end? Do you think that long-term couples have to always make love or is a good fuck session every now and again good for spicing things up?

Speak your piece…

PART 1: “The Breakup”
PART 2: “The Breakup (Prequel)”
PART 3: “Soundtrack to a Breakup”

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57 comments to...
“Would You Sleep With Your Ex Again? (The Breakup, Pt. 4)”
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and she used to be the sweetest girl ;

i wish that my ex and i could just do it once more. but he has a girlfriend & i’m still not over him. sucks for me right?


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LittleMissStrange

I have, I did, I dont know if Id do it again.

We were both sober, I brought it up and there ya go.

It served its purpose? But Im still kind of old fashioned-ish. Im single now and he’s in the process of being single again….and the calls are starting to come. (No the break up isnt because of me and he was single when we bumped uglies.)

What we had was fun, we have a long history of being friends beforehand…but Im keeping myself (and my love below) free for that new love thats out there.

Im thinking its different with other folks, that no strings thing…sometimes has strings to it.


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Anon

You!

Geez…I’m barely over last wednesday…can’t believe it’s Wed again!!

Okay. That story was ah-mah-zing…(my fiance is DYING to know what goes on with me on Wednesdays…tee hee you are my BEST kept secret right now…but I digress)

Umm, I unfortunately had a very similar experience with a decidedly different outcome.

He lives in NY me…”out of town” and we did the commuter/long distance thing for a minute. On like my third visit to the city after the break up, I was FEININ so i called him up and asked if I could take him to breakfast…hopped in a cab, went to harlem, met him at his building and we did a cute little cafe place off of Amsterdam Ave. Afterwards we started walking back in the direction of his house and I asked if I could come up. He of course knew what that meant…when we go upstairs I went in his room and laid on his bed. In under five minutes we were kissing, etc….he quickly got undressed, got the jimmy and got in – only to get right back out in oh, umm, under 7 minutes!!!

I was so PISSED. But, it was my own fault. He wasn’t really bomb in bed during the course of the relationship. I was not emotionally attached to him at all and part of the reason for the break up was that I didn’t want empty sex in a faux relationship anymore…maybe he felt the same way. (who knows) but he came out of the bathroom apologizing and wanting to give it the old college try…but I was up and out as quickly as he was in and out.

Sad ending to a mediocre relationship.

Moral – leave well enough alone. At least for me.

*Funny though when this question came up amongst girlfriends, I named my now fiance as the only Ex I would want to go back and get some from*

you’da, you’da best….whooo!


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sugarae215

SHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’ll have to come back and comment later, but for now that’s all I can say. LOL


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Spinster

Good story.


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shor5ty1

Is there an ex you wish you could have slept with one last time before you broke up?
YES my recent ex we ended on crazy terms.

Would you be bold enough to ask for one last roll in the hay with no strings attached?
I have hinted at the fact once and then I came up with a reason as to why I couldn’t show.

Do you think that most people are mature enough to have sex after a breakup and not get emotionally attached?
I know that no strings attached sex is possible, not quite sure how that would work after a break up tho.

If you knew that the next time with someone was going to be the last time would you try to lay it on them or just get your nut and scram?
Me personally I would try and lay it down correct. Just a lil something to remember me by.

Do you think that when the sex starts getting mediocre that it’s a sign that the relationship is close to an end?
No sex is not the only aspect of relationships but i do think if it’s getting predictable that you should be looking for ways to spice it up.

Do you think that long-term couples have to always make love or is a good fuck session every now and again good for spicing things up?
I would have to agree with NWSO if you are in a long term loving relationship some of the sexual encounters that go on aren’t even named yet. The best thing of this type of relationship is that one thrust, one lick, one touch can take a love making session, to f**king, or pure bliss.


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Ms V

Yes I’ve had “one last time” with my ex-husband. It was after we had been separated for a while. It was like giving him something to reminisce about. I made sure I went all in for that time. Just so he’ll know that he may get some good. May even get some great. But he’ll never have the best again! After that last time it seems I was able to really get him out of my system and just let go. I haven’t looked back since.

I’ve been reading your blog for a while now and this is my first time posting. Just want to say that I love it and I don’t go a day without it. Keep up the excellent work!


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Elle

As much as I wished I had paid more attention to the last hug, the last kiss and the last sex (had I known it was the last) I do not think I could go back and do it “just once more”. Unemotional sex is something I simply have not learned how to have. Since I wouldn’t want to be thrown back to square one of dealing with the heartbreak, I’ll steer clear of sex with the ex – the infamous ex-fiancé that is.

The other exes, eh, I couldn’t care less about them. Well, I’m cool with one but I do not see anything other than a friend in him – zero sexual attraction left. Besides, the sex was never all that with him. Not much to miss in that department.


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BMW2K

Niiiiiice story.


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wetwet

Dam, now I’m feenin for some. This read was a great. Maybe a lil too great this early!


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Rastaman

That takes me back some. A few lines from a poem I composed over a decade ago:
“Sex with an ex is the best sex ever
You might say no but won’t say never”

Those lines still resonate with me personally because mediocre sex has never been a part of my relationship repertoire. So even when we lost the love or even the like we rarely lost the fire and more time than I can count there has always been one last hurrah.

I must admit that even if I really wanted to, I have never asked, hinted or implied about one last roll around. Too proud I guess but in my experience many women are not as restricted but they are far more subtle about it.

I think the motives are varied as to why people engage in sex with an ex, sometimes to show them what they will be missing; one last one for the road; to see if there is still anything there or attempting to spur a reconciliation. The funny thing about “no-strings” sex is that most often one of the participants get caught up. It can be very painful for some people as I found out when I declined an invite from one particular ex, who invited me to visit as she was in town on an overnight. She opened door in the tight skimpy PJs and big smile, I was demure and oblivious. I refused to take the bait and she became increasingly less happy about the developments.

I got clowned by my boys when I related my story but I would like to think i cared enough for her not to put her in a painful place. Because, I knew she cared for me, the break up was tough on her and even though the relationship did not work out there was no need to be callous.

I am beginning to re-consider the school of thought that says you cease all contacts with exes. Well because the last few women have stop playing fair. I would like to be friendly but nowadays some folks take that as an opportunity to be a tease. I am not always going to be that considerate of your feelings, so don’t push it.


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Deka

Break up sex is weird DON”T do it. especially if you broke off the relationship. keep it moving.


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JG*

Nope. I’m good on him, I’m on to the next. :)


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That Guy

I could do it if we lived in seperate states and it’s just a passing thing, but if she’s in the same area code, chances are once turns into twice and down that slippery slope and there’s a reason there an EX and it’s best to let dead issues rest, because once you wake the dragon…. anything can/will happen…


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older & wiser

We tried “one for the road” and I stopped him mid-stroke. I wasn’t feeling him anymore and he had to bounce!

I’m with Elle, no more feelings=no more sex!


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bogart4017

That is very dangerous ground to tread. Best to leave things in the past to your sweet memories ’cause once we get started it’ll be hard to stop…


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MadBear

I had sex with many an ex. As Biggie said “Sex with an X makes the sex spectacular!” (I paraphrase) What I’ve found is that because the boundaries of a relationship no longer exist, inhibitions are lost and things are done that weren’t done previously.

The last time I had sex with an ex was days before she got married. She was convinced her future husband was sowing wild oats so she wanted one last fling.

She called me out of the blue and told me she wanted to see me. She said she was looking for closure for the part of her life that included me. We met at a local eatery as planned. When I saw her I totally forgot about the 50 extra pounds she put on while we were together. She lost the 50 and an extra 20, needless to say she looked great. We sat and talked over dinner and drinks.

After we ate she looked me deep in the eye and said those 3 words a man often longs to hear. “I Want You!” She didn’t have to say it twice. I paid the dinner bill and we took a cab to my apartment. When we got there she wasted no time stripping down to her bra and panties. Her body was even more incredible than when we were together. She did things to me she would never let me do while we qwere together. There was light bondage, oral, both given and received, anal which was newly added to he repetoir and a lot of dirty talk which she never engaged in before. She had an energy that she never had when we were together. Hell I had slight problems keeping up.

The next day when we woke up, she told me about her up coming nuptuals. She said if she was going to have a last fling she wanted to be sure it would be something she would remember and she would be satisfied. I was glad I didn’t disappoint.

Since then I got married. She wanted to provide me with a last fling, but as much as I wanted to, I will never knowingly have sex with a married woman. Even though I didn’t I always wonder what it would have been like. What newq tricks she learned and what things she would have done. Things she didn’t do when we were together and things she doesn’t do with her husband.


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Mr. i. b. Everywhere

YEA! Depending on my dating status and if she’s a worthy partner n bed. Yea! I’ll LONGDICHER! LOL!


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b.better

No no my ex will not get these goodies again. No sir/ma’am. First he was an absolute horrible horrible lover. Very lazy and unadventurous. So No! For me to have sex with him it would feel like rape…which is exactly how I felt the last time we had sex. Now when it comes to the exes who can put it down I try my hardest not to look back, because one last time could lead into a whirlwind of other “last times”….so I just keep pushing forward. As far as in a relationship I think its always fun to spice it up with a couple of f*cks here and there u can’t make love every night…some times u gotta do it different.

**Anslem you need to write a book…no bull


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Tunde

i have had sex with an ex for that last time. it really was amazing. it’s not like we broke up on bad terms. maybe we did but by the time it came time for me to move we were friends again and that’s all that mattered. it was great to get closure and get to experience that again.

Do you think that most people are mature enough to have sex after a breakup and not get emotionally attached?

- it really depends on the individuals. i really believe in my situation she wanted it as much as i did. we were both adults so we made it happen.

If you knew that the next time with someone was going to be the last time would you try to lay it on them or just get your nut and scram?

- i’m laying it down best way i can. i’m not going to have her last memory of me be a mediocre one. lol

sidebar: that absolut pear you got in the first pic is really good with some lemonade.


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Anonymous

Yeah , I’m going to have trouble focusing today…..


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Irizle

this is so sexy and very very hot!! imma thinkin about it for awhile!! looks like she got it the way just the way i like mine.


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da ThRONe

At this point I would sleep with any chick I sleep with before!


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Aaviana

I LIKE THIS ONE :-) THERE IS AN EX THAT I HAD THE BEST SEX EVER WITH BUT I CAN NEVER GO BACK FOR ONE “LAST TIME” TO MUCH EMOTION STILL LEFT BETWEEN US.


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Siantej

If neither one of us were in a relationship and the chances of anybody catching feelings was slim to none, sure. Otherwise, no chance.


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naturaldreamer

Im so damn horny from reading the story i dont even remember the question i cant even answer it lol my lunch break is about to be a gym break i need to run or something got me at my desk all hot and bothered lol!!


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DC Man With a Plan

Bustin loose with an “EX” one last time is what fantasies are for. I don’t go back, no matter how good it was or how appealing it might seem. lmao @ Madbear. U had a good story, but damn, dogg, sex with an EX that’s bout to get married seems kinda cruddy on both of y’alls part…..lol


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Shay from...

That was hot! I enjoyed every word


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Ms Zoi

I have in the past went back to an ex but an ex is an ex for a reason! That’s my thought… I think that sex is sex… there are those men that definitely know what to do but I guess I’m an emotional soul… if I’m not into you 4sho then I just can’t cum no matter how slammin the sex is and like I said there is always a reason for an ex being an ex!


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NotLeavingMyName

WOW- ummm I don’t know what to say, this was VERY interesting! I WILL be back to read more!

Is there an ex you wish you could have slept with one last time before you broke up?
–>> Yes indeed. I’m not sure I’d really wanna sleep with him for the right reasons. LOL Been an issue in his MARRIAGE of him calling her my name a few times before (our names are NOT similar at all), and I’d want to sleep with him to stay on his mind so every time he was with her, he’d think of me! LOL

Would you be bold enough to ask for one last roll in the hay with no strings attached?
–>> I’d prob hint around it so much until he’d ‘get it’ and literally ‘GET IT’. The whole ‘no strings attached” thing, eeehh not so much. I’ve really learned that I’m not very good with the casual sex and no feelings involved. I’ve tried and have usually failed miserably!

Do you think that most people are mature enough to have sex after a breakup and not get emotionally attached?
–>> NOPE… I think most people will SAY they are mature enough for it, but if there was significant time spent together, there is EMOTION there. They might be able to go, meet up, sex up and leave, but while they are apart, there will be emotions pouring over and out…just not in front of the ex…

If you knew that the next time with someone was going to be the last time would you try to lay it on them or just get your nut and scram?
–>> if I knew it was gonna be our last time, I’d try my best to work him so hard until he’ll think he needed a heart doctor the next morning!

Do you think that when the sex starts getting mediocre that it’s a sign that the relationship is close to an end?
–>> nope, just time for a change of scenery or change of place or something… just spice it up. when the intimacy gets mediocre, that’s when ya might wanna think about the ‘end’.

Do you think that long-term couples have to always make love or is a good fuck session every now and again good for spicing things up?
–>> sexin and fuckin go hand in hand… LOL some times you just want that hard grind and ya hair pulled and you want to have to say ‘ohh wee baby…hold up hold up’ sometimes. And Sometimes, you want it slow, nice and deep and meaningful. It depends!


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MmeQueen

I have had sex with an ex. Emotions do get involved, but i believe that’s part of the reason why sex with an ex is so good! T


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ice cold heart

i thing i agree/feel the same way da ThRONe feels

at this point any of my ex i would love to sleep with but there is only one i would love i mean really love to sex one more time! but i dont think she would be down with it! so not going to even try!!!!!!


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guttaman

that “last time” sex always turns into okay how about just 1 more time again. it gets u caught back into the whole situation. id rather be done and finished for good.
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ice cold heart

@guttaman

I feel where u coming from with the it turns in to 1 more time and u get u caught back into the whole situation thing an just wanna be done. but i f the sex is that good and im not sexing nobody else i think i may go down that rode one more time. if we hook back up or something happen just hope it well work out this time if not then ill be done and finish for good! but until that time comes ill never know!!!


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Renee

Man I wish I could hook up with my ex for one more time! He knew it and I know it was the best but I dont know if he would be up for it so I just will laet fate have it’s time and if itsmeant to happen it will happen :)


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M.L.

@NWSO A Little late for me on this one. But my dude you still doing your thang. But an EX I would sleep would be Brittany. Even though the chick was super crazy. She was a freak & i was a freak. I might do some of the stuff you mentonied. But a lil different. Would i be bold enough? Hell yeah. I feen sometime’s thinking about the girl. But forreal though NWSO You should write a book. Im looking forward to seening one in 2010 that would be pretty good.


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M.L.

And i would probably tear her ass up something serious. Grabbing some hair, Licking some nipps, A lil choking maybe.


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ice cold heart

@renee
Some times u have to take a chance an not wait for fate i mean if it was that good!!!! but if u wait for fate then when it comes you better jump on it! i know if my ex comes around an say she wanna have sex i think as soon as she say she wanna ill be naked b4 she can finnish saying it. thats how good i know our sex use to be! im mean the best!


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EmotionalMeanie

WOW when i say HOT storyy! im panting rite now! Yes i dont think sex with an Ex is bad at all. It jsut depend on how the parties deal with the emotions. Im currently in and out of sex with my X just bcuz its like i miss that old thang but at the same time im jus likee *ego boosting* “uhh he”s old news theres better sex out there” and its true! Its just so much more easier when you kno that u want something< and you know a realiable source!


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Gemini

Yes! I was recently hanging out with the best sex mate I have had in a very long time. I would love to call him and BANG! BANG! BANG! it out with him one more time. 10 inches and thick and he knew how to use it. But he was slow as hell. He had no conversation, didn’t read the paper or a book. Something about him wasn’t right. As long as he kept his mouth shut and pumped, stroked and licked he was the man of my dreams. I wish I could have packed the penis when I left. DAMN!


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sweetsexxybrown

Great story. I definitely would and have had sex w/an ex. If I got an uncontrollable ‘itch’ that needs to be scratched-please believe he’s gettin a phone call. Interesting enough, I have an ex that I would never have sex again w/although the sex was great. I’m just not into him anymore. He just gives me too much drama.

As for your question about couples makin love or f*ckin…they definitely should do both to keep it spicy. And I need to be handled roughly sometimes in bed. Yesssss!


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Ice cold heart

@sweetsexxybrown
can i be one of ur ex an i can scratched that “itch” lol an i agree with uon tha keep it spicy an love to handled my women roughly an also love t be handled rough lol. try my ex just started coming around doing spicy stuff rite be for we broke up!!!


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Ice cold heart

@sweetsexxybrown

An i hope ur not my ex cuz she claims i gave her drama also!!!


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Nate

I’m with Deka. Don’t do it, keep yourself moving on. There was a reason why you broke up, and it is rare that sex “one last time” will truly be that. More likely, old feelings will rekindle, and after awhile you’ll be reminded AGAIN why it didn’t work out and you’ll hurl yourself back to square one.

It is tempting, and don’t I know it, but it is best to move on.


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Armar

I am in this situation i am in a long tearm relationship, lately sex has been horrible and have it only once a month if anything. I am 27 a man and horny, the GF is not doing it anymore. Also i have always kept in touch with my Ex and a couple a nights ago we hung out and it was cool, just chatting and watching tv. It was really late and she would not leave my apt, i knew she was hesitant to do something or ask anything. I left it at that and did not say a word. Also because we had had a a discussion were we agreed to be friends and leave it at that, so that meant try to be real friends. My GF dont know i been keeping in touch with her just because she is kinda oldfashioned and a little coo coo. Anyway a couple nights ago she emailed me and said she was shoping for things santa didnt bring her, so i just sai “oh yea like what?” out of the blue i get the following “panties and bras, its so harf to find bras for me but i did find 3 that i liked, i will show you sometime”. so i said in surprise ohhh ok!! meaning i was speachless specially since i thought we were gona try to be friends. Girls this is not good when you agree on being friends. Whats a guy to do. anyhow then after my response she said “one of this days i am going to take advantage of you” again….girls…why??? so i responded again in surprise ” well ahh okkk!!”
seriously, i am having a bad sex life with my GF and then someone pretty much tells you they want to F-you, what do i do, i tried fixing the sex life with GF we talked and we are in the same place. I really want to do my Ex specially since we never did it. i think i will if she agrees this is just a one time thing and totally casual. she knows i have a GF and she has a BF..crazy…..!! how do you guys see this….


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Nate

Me personally, I have sexual expectations in a relationship. If they are no longer being met, I’ll let her know my concerns and she what she says. If she doesn’t change, or try to meet half way, then I leave.

My suggestion is you follow suit. However, don’t have sex with your ex girlfriend until you breakup with your current girlfriend. Why? It saves alot of heartbreak and is the right thing to do.


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ice cold heart

@armar

I agree with nate about tell her n let her know an see what she say. i was once in a relationship almost like urs i told her but she really didn’t try to much but we did start to have sex some what a lil more not to much more. An now she my ex but we didn’t brake up over that she can’t move on from the past and i couldn’t be her friend cuz how i felt about her guess i wont be sleeping with that ex lol to bad real god sex. im not nocking what nate says about the whole breakup with ur gf first and everything is the right thing to do But i tryed to do the right thing one time an got f in the end so I say as far as sleeping with the ex GO FOR IT. this is why people cheat cuz the other person does not make them feel wanted and don’t give then what they want. when you get around someone who makes you feel wanted chance are your going to cheat. i mean this goes for men and women “DESTINY’S CHILD WROTE A HOLE SONG ABOUT IT CATER 2 U” people need to really list to that song. it takes to to make a relationship works an if one person is not giving they all then its not going to work.


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Elle

Errr… how old are you guys?

Life is not a freaking pony farm where everything is always happy happy joy joy all the time. Adult relationships get boring as hell sometimes. Sexual droughts are completely normal.
Throwing in the towel because of that speaks of weakness. Hence my question about your age. Weakness is expected from anyone under 25. Above that, it is pathetic because guess what the world does not revolve around your sex drive. Do yall suffer from relationship A.D.D. or something? Boredom and routine are part of life and everyone needs to be able to deal with them in a mature manner.

It takes two to tango when sex is concerned. And if it sucks, don’t solely blame the GF. If your sex game was up to par you couldn’t get her off your dick. Period. Apparently you are not doing what it takes to bring out her inner freak. Ever looked at it from that angle? Women are just as sexual and horny as men. But for some of us, maybe even most of us until we reach a certain age, it takes the right guy with the right sex game to turn us out.

Step up your dick/tongue game if you want your GF’s sex drive to grow. Sheesh.


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ice cold heart

age has nothing to do with anything! n yes for some people life is not a pony farm yet to some people its. an yes sexual droughts maybe normal. but in a young relationships i.e 20-30 thats when a sexual relationship should be at its peek. yes it dose take to to tango. but let me ask u it was a female with the problem would u still be saying the same thing i know i would still tell her what i told him. i mean would u tell her to step up her pussy/sucking game. she may not wanna change even if he do step it up. you see sex can be off the change and a person can change there sex game an what nock. but that dose not mean the other person is going to change. i know some women who have the same problem with there men not wanting sex all the time an sex started to go down hill. when it comes down to it i have to agree with but im going to have to say it a diff way cuz not ever body has an inner freak an yes some women are just as freak as men. but i really doubt finding the rite guy/girl is going turn anybody out. now like i said im not knocking the brake up thing i mean i would not brake up with my g/f cuz of the sex. but i would try an sit down and talk to her an see if we can meet have way are something. last thing some time men and women may start of in the relationship having sex left and right non stop an some people get use to it an thing thats how its going to be all the time. any when it stop an don’t happen any more they look for. like i said this is for men and women once again“DESTINY’S CHILD WROTE A HOLE SONG ABOUT IT CATER 2 U” people need to really list to that song. you have to be welling to meet each other half way in a relationship. an thats not just in sex.


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BrwnSug

Ok I’m loving this soft porn! GREAT story telling. I’m calling my EX tonight to try to reenact this whole thing. LOL! I’m sooooooo turned on by this.

Anywhoo…in response, I would say it depends on what kind of EX it was. With the love of my life and EX of 4 years now, we have talked about one last time before, but it has never happened. I believe it would be just as passionate and nostalgic BUT I think he would get the wrong idea from this and it would stir up all kind of feelings, and it would hurt me to have to shake him loose. I think it would really hurt our friendship. But my most recent EX, we only dated for a short while and the sex was A-mazing so a “one more time” I don’t think he would mind. And he’s kind of a butthole anyway so I know he wouldn’t object and there would be no strings attached, and I will probabaly never hear from him again.

Now excuse me while I go make this booty call ;-)


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Elle

@ice cold heart

Age has lots to do with it. Especially when men are concerned, I think. Just check out that blog post Ans wrote about naked vs. non-naked time.

At one point in your life, the non-naked time becomes more important than the sweaty sheets humping time. At the end of the day, you have about 23 hours of non-naked time with your significant other. So if those 23 hours are on point, make you happy, let you feel butterflies inside it would be foolish to stress over some mediocre sex to a point where you want to throw it all away.

I would tell every man and every woman to step up their sex game if they or their partner are unhappy in the bedroom. But in this case it was boys complaining, so I addressed solely the males. It’s that simple.

Based off some things you said about not every woman having an inner freak I continue to believe you are comparibly young. EVERY man and woman has an inner freak IMO. Granted, some are too scared due to religious beliefs, have made horrible experiences or suffer from physical pain during intercourse. There are millions of reasons why people do not let loose sexually. However, under completely “normal” circumstances we all are freaky. I stand by my point about it only taking the right man or the right woman to bring it out. I still don’t know how old you are but I bet you’ll agree with me 5 or 10 years down the line.

Besides, young relationships as you called them (20-30) are the worst in regards to sex. They may peek as far as energy and stamina are concerned. But skillswise they are mediocre, at best. 20 year old men can fuck like rabbits but they have no clue what the hell they are doing. In turn, the girls are not having that big of a “party”.


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Anonymous

funny!!! but we all know that do it again with the ex is nice,,,


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NWSO

@Armar

If being with your ex physically is something you really want to do and what your ultimate decision is, make sure it’s for the right reason and that you break up with your GF FIRST. Any other actions would be unfair to your current relationship. Sex isn’t everything but we all know it is damn important to a relationship, if you guys can’t talk it out or discuss your pleasures better and you want to call it off because of that so be it, but I doubt getting a sidepiece would would make matters any better. Clean your plate before you go back to the buffet table for a second helping of your exes dessert—if at all. She is an ex for a reason right? Unless y’all are thinking about resurrecting the past seriously or just both are single and want to bump uglies. Either way sounds like trouble.

Proceed with caution


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ice cold hear

@elle I agree and disagrer with u on somethings!


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HelloImVita

No there is not an ex that I would have had sex with the before the break up. If I were aware of last time me and my partner were going to have sex, I would give him the best sex, only to have him wanting it not to be the last time. =] and i feel sex shouldn’t be the reason why you and your partner break up—especially if it’s because it’s mediocre. Sex shouldnt define your relationship period


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jay

my situation is a bit different i broke up with my ex 3 days before newyears. I have been trying to get back with her but she wont give me the time of the day, she offered sex I accepted just have to cash in the check. will let u all know how it goes. I’m trying to go all out!!


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Liquid1

Paulo Nutini…Hearing his song “Last Request” as I read this.

chorus
i just want u closer
is that alright…grant my last request and just let me hold ya….sure I can accept we’re going nowhere…but let’s go there….

Been there and it was worth it….






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