long time fan of this blog, first time commenting…but i thought this piece was beautiful!

@a.rose

You make it sound like AA. lol

But thanx for your continued support and feedback

Its a beautiful post but its wet wednesday we need some sexiness up in here.

Everyone has own insecuries regardless on how beautiful u are. loving someone unconditionally is a must in a relationship. We all knw beauty fades.

@A-rizle

So romance isn’t sexiness now? You women (I assume) are so confusing. LOL

I like to switch it up, so you’re saying if a man looked you in the eyes and said the above and actually meant it, there wouldn’t be a moisture?

Romance is mos def sexy!! If man says the above post to me, I will laugh (just cuz I giggle n laugh when its about me), red face, sweaty and melt away!:)

I was just hopin to get a continuation from last weeks wet weds post

Love ur blog!!

@-rizle

All good, writing the extra raunchy stuff is daunting and sometimes boring (for me). Only so much my poor little brain can crank out. lol

As for last week’s, you’d have to ask the author of that one. Haven’t seen here around these parts in the comments section so no idea where she is. Maybe she’s with her neighbor. LOL

Personally, I liked her ending just fine.

Hello,

I don’t think that it is necessary for my partner to love me unconditionally. I just need to love myself unconditionally. You can’t really be in a good relationship and not love yourself. Otherwise you end up depending upon the other person to validate your self-worth.

P.S. I love your blog!

I once upon a time I was a super tom boy (baggy pants an stood in line for the Jordans when they came out kinda tomboy) my ex broke my self esteem down so tragic i cant even explain. it took a long time 2 believe any1 when they called me cute an u would get a super ninja please eyebrow if u dished out sexy or beautiful..now i see myself in the beauty light an i’m elated when a man sees more in me than i can an actually mean it…it’s better than sex.. (sorry 4 the long ass comment, this blog is fly as hell by the way ..im from Cali we say fly)

How important is it for you that your mate loves you unconditionally?
- It is one of the main criteria. When I love, I love. Period. No conditions. No limits. Nothing.

Have you ever been with someone that was very judgmental?
- I stay away from judgmental people in general. I don’t need that kind of negativity in my life and prefer free spirited folks like myself. Besides, I am a firm believer in “live and let live”.

Do you think that past relationships can have an affect on your self-image? Or are you the type of person that doesn’t get affected by other’s opinion of you?
- In general I think it is very possible for others to destroy a person’s self-image. Not just in relationships but also in friendships or even within one’s own family. Especially in teen years many of us have fragile self-esteem. All it really takes is the “right” blow to one’s ego which hits that one particular spot and a person can end up with self-image issues for life. Personally, it hasn’t happened to me. Maybe because I got lucky. Maybe because I do not give a flying phucc about what people think of me. Or maybe it is a combination of the two.

How do you feel when someone you love is able to overlook your flaws? Do you like the way you look through the eyes of others?
- In general, it is a good feeling when somebody loves me despite my oddball mentality, my unorthodox views, my sarcastic sense of humor, my tendency to go against the grain and be strong willed. It makes me feel like “I’m ok”, like somebody out there truly understands what I am about and that I “belong” somewhere. It is the best feeling in the world to look into someone’s eyes and see true love in them. There is nothing better than when a man’s eyes tell you how much he loves you, that he thinks you’re the most wonderful & beautiful woman on the face of the earth, that he sees his future when he looks at you. Hard to describe. But it is a gewy, warm feeling and I miss it.

Ok, now I’m depressed

Love the poem though! A refreshing twist to Wet Wednesdays.

You brought sexy back!!!!!……love it love it

This is just the best blog EVER…you keep it so fresh and so provocative! Look at Wet Wednesday growing up some….

Anyway, this is a wonderful piece. Now, one of my favorites. The poem is exceptional. It actually made me cry (a little) because it is EXACTLY how my fiance makes me feel. I agree with one thing that one of the other posts said: that your man doesn’t have to love you unconditionally, bc you should love yourself. I DO think that your man should love you unconditionally – BUT I think it will be hard if you don’t love yourself. I always said I don’t care what the world thinks about me and my looks, etc…as long as HE thinks I am the bomb.com – I’m fine. My relationship has helped me to learn to love myself better – MUCH better than I ever have. His love is so non judgmental and honest that it gives me space to see myself the way he sees me….or really the way God sees me.

This was a wonderful blog today…you made me stop and send my baby a nice note this morning letting him know how much I appreciate him. (and in turn he’ll appreciate YOU later on *wink-wink*)

and YES romance is SEXY!!!

I am a regular visitor to your website and I text my girls every morning reminding them to read your blog! Its normally our text topic of the day to get through the work day…but about the poem…It was an interesting twist to the normal erotica on wed. I truly enjoyed it. However it got me to thinking: I am with a man that feels this way about me. I know he loves me in and out unconditionally, however, I am not totally sure if I feel the same way about him. So sir, -I propose the question: do I stay and see if my love grows or move on to see if there is some one out there that feels this way about me and I him equally. I am afraid that I will never find someone else to love me the way he does but I don’t know if I selling myself short and taking advantage of him. What do you think?

Certainly unconditional love that we can have down here on earth walking in the flesh. Once you give and receive this it almost automatically makes 2 better people.
I love the way i look in my wifes eyes because she is the only significant relationship where i’ve heard how smart i am or how much i am trusted.

Beautiful post!!!

-How important is it for you that your mate loves you unconditionally?
Very important, I would hate to be judged just by my flaws and yes I have been.

-Have you ever been with someone that was very judgmental? Yes and I never want to be subjected to that again. Very judgemental and emotionally/verbally and sometimes physiclly abusive. Made me very self-conscious till one day I realized that I wasnt the problem…he was. Sucks that I changed so much of me and he still wasn’t unhappy with me. He is just an unhappy person.

-Was it a breath of fresh air when you got out of that relationship and into the arms f someone that could appreciate you?
Yes a complete breath of fresh air, my bad relationship/marriage made me very skeptical of the new person and I still am. But it feels so right I’m not gonna let my past pain f&*k this up!!

- Do you think that past relationships can have an affect on your self-image?
YES

-How do you feel when someone you love is able to overlook your flaws?
Brilliantly lucky!

-Do you like the way you look through the eyes of others?
The people that really love me see me for me!

Awww that was so sweet. Love it!

HERE we go with this false, fake-azz fantasy about ” unconditional love ” again. EVERYTHING in life has conditions. Would it be a condition of your love (Elle) to expect your lover to only sleep with you? Now if you’re gonna say you couldn’t love a man who could not commit to monogamy…call it rules of the game, call it CONDITIONS, but you can bet your last euro there are RULES, expectations, lines in the sand, etc,. that a Mo-Fo gonna have to meet and LIVE up to, to keep you in his arms. If it means NEVER getting to first base bcuz dude is suspect, or if it means eliminating a dude b4 he gets started, whatever you call it and how ever you do it, KNOW that ALL of it can be called CONDITIONS for love. Tiger Woods wife has some conditions and she’s FINE and RICH! She could def get another man, but it didn’t stop her from reminding dude of the CONDITIONS he has to meet, to be able to be a husband who can sleep with both eyes shut! lmao……..Now, loving someone despite their idiosyncrasies, physical flaws or mental defects is a grown-up azz thing to do, especially when one remembers YOU too, are flawed. But loving yourself means you have to know WHAT you can’t deal with or put up with. If you think you’ve found the ideal mate–if only they would change one thing you can’t live with….This person is NOT your ideal mate. You either gonna make it work with what they have and how they are….Or you need to keep it moving because you can’t count on a person changing down the road. They might change as they mature, have kids, become more stable, etc,. but maybe NOT. No one else knows what the future holds, so don’t put too much stock in YOUR crystal ball either!!!

Loved the poem….nice switch for Wet Wednesday.

I also have to agree with DC Man with the “unconditional” love thing. And as my mama has always told me, “Don’t start nothing you ain’t willing to put up with.” Those are conditions that people rarely consider but I’ll be real and say yes several conditions do apply to be with me cuz homie don’t play that.

Love it!!! Poem made me shed a tear…it’s great to be with someone who loves me unconditionally w/out judgment. It’s not great, when I (the receiver) can’t/won’t reciprocate.

cool poem

i used to have issues with the way i viewed myself but now i see myself for everything that i’m worth. i know that i have plenty of flaws and imperfections but its not important for someone that i’m with to like everything about me but they should accept and love me for who i am.

i have been with someone that was very judgmental. it makes being them very difficult because you feel like your every move is being watched and scrutinized. after a while i just got tired and resentment started to build in until i finally had to end it.

to the other questions….since I do not believe in unconditional love or anything else, yes, I do expect that my lady will accept me with my flaws, and yes: that’s a lovely thing when you can get it and give it right back. Everyone of us has imperfections, flaws, stupid moments, imperfect histories. When you’re tired, irritated, dazed, confused or medicated–you’re bound to say or do something sooner or later that is WACK! But your love can STILL work with you to get beyond those moments. IMO, the real “trick” of establishing a positive, long term committed relationship is compatibility and communication. I love you 80 % and get back 20……Naw, that math ain’t gonna work. It might sound good in a song, but in real LIFE that amounts to me kissing your azz, while you won’t even kiss my lips……..no-sir! That ain’t a winning combination. You gotta love yourself enuff to demand what you need and not settle for less.

DC, unconditional love is earned in relatonships. It is nothing anyone gets from day one. And once I have reached the level of unconditionally loving somebody I would not bounce because of a weak moment of infidelity or any other BS. What you call conditions is what I consider the criteria which matter in the “weeding out process”. Or as you say it boils down to compatibility. There is no love involved just yet at that stage. I agree with you that everything in life comes with conditions. Almost all. Parental love is unconditional in my family for example. Getting that close to Elle comes with conditions though. But trust that once I have decided to allow myself to love somebody there is nothing I would not do to make things work. Besides I have never been the type of person who attempts to change others. I fall in love with who a man is today, not the potential I see in him or if I see any potential at all.
You’re entitled to you opinion but don’t shove it down my throat. Thanks.

Amen bro!

(Props on the 80-20 reference though you switched it up a bit here. yall familiar?)

Beautiful prose…again!

And, yes, romance is SUPER sexy…touches various parts of me…

Unconditional love speaks of feelings not actions. As a parent you love your child unconditionally despite their mistakes. I still have love for my ex and there is no reason to believe I wont take those feeling to the grave ,but my actions arent define by those feelings. Hopefully I will add somebody else in my life that I can love unconditionally and vice versa. And if my past has any effect at all on any future relationships it will be a positive one.

Just because you love somebody doesnt mean you have to make the wrong decision because of them. Theres logic and then theres emotions. Unconditional love is about your emotional side.

@DCMan (and others pondering “love math”)
To me, giving and loving in a romantic, committed relationship should be more multiplicative than additive…

1X1 = 1 and always will = 1
Two whole people who come together loving the person they each see in the mirror can become one and each give 100%…or try to…

@DC Man

Question do you love your mother and sisters with conditions?

LOVED THIS POEM!! and yeah, if a man wrote this about me and gave it to me, I would melt and there would be major moisture

But man, this post could spark conversation on so many levels.

A positive self-image is critically important in my eyes. Not only does it enable you to love yourself, but it also enables you to love others since we often project our insecurities on others. Additionally, another person’s view can easily become our view of self (as your post suggested) and that can be dangerous if their view is negative.

I find myself agreeing with Elle in saying that I can definitely love unconditionally but it takes me some time to get there. Once I am there though, I am there – period. If you are there too, then we can make it work past the BS, low times, and relapses.

Ok do you hear that…that’s me poppin’ my fingers and exhaling! This is how I hope and pray the man I fall in love with looks at me. He doesn’t see what I portray to the world….a strong black woman conquering and persevering thru all the BS. His eyes see BEAUTY. Whether it’s my obsession with putting garlic in EVERYTHING, my secret collection of Three Stooges, or my pet peeve of people popping their gum….the only thing he sees is BEUAUTY. To the world I could care less about what is said or thought of me but when I come home close the door and look into the eyes of the guy who I have told ‘I love You’ (that’s a BIG deal to me by the way and don’t get dished out frequently) he sees me…..that’s it….plain ole’ me.

GREAT post NWSO!

Beautiful Poem! Love the post!

@ Elle. I did not intend to give you the impression I was trying to shove anything down your throat..The bulk of my comments were intended to be general, other than the specific sentence that included your name. I understand your concept of love more fully now that you have stated it is not an automatic process that starts at day one.
@ Da Throne, yes I have love for my family, but I consider family love to be different from the love I develop for a woman or even a dude who may become like a brother to me. Maybe it’s all love to you, but for me, I have experienced love that consists of levels and degrees. Maybe someone else would call it something else; maybe my vocabulary is too limited to explain my point clearly; whatever the case, I KNOW what I mean and I get it. lol…..and at the end of the day, that’s what’s poppin for me. To identify LOVE in all of it’s manifestations and possibilities is IMO, impossible. There will always be a word or thought you missed; another thing to add; some other sight, sound, feeling, emotion, logical assessment, funny, sad, or exciting expression to blend in. YOU say unconditional love expresses feelings, not action, but I say, what are feelings you don’t act upon (pent up frustrations)?

@ Da Throne and Elle: Here’s an extreme example: A man in Washington state KILLED 4 police officers on Sunday. Does his family love him any less today than say, Saturday? I don’t have any murderer’s in my family, but I have kids, and I can tell you TODAY, that IF my son committed murder and it wasn’t self defense, I would be embarrassed, ashamed and IF I thought he was guilty…I wouldn’t spend a DIME defending his actions or his right to a fair trial. While I could NEVER say I don’t love my flesh and blood, my actions, or lack thereof, can “LOOK” unloving, or seem like what you do to ppl you DO NOT love. There is a lot to consider about LOVE and what YOU mean when you use that word. The term, word or function for LOVE is well understood–or is it? Can what you say, feel and think about LOVE match any other persons thoughts, feelings and words 100%? When we think to the “extremes” we tend to have a better chance at clarity. Elle says she could take back the dude she was with. She can see working through anything; infidelity; but say he gave you HIV (?) How about he doesn’t wanna work on the relationship? How about he marries another woman tomorrow, after being engaged to you and then dumping you, then calls you next month for help with his car? U still gonna be there for him bcuz you love him? I’m just asking. I will NEVER say 100% this is how I would handle a situation, but I can give you my general expected reaction—bcuz I’m true to ME, regardless of what others would do, or what they think. And for me, a woman I loved, who dumps me without explanation and then marries another dude: She got NOTHING coming from me—for eternity. And not bcuz I stop loving her—I just stop treating her like I love her. You can’t get the benefits of LOVE from me and not be the person I’m loving. That to me, just takes too much energy. I’m saving my love, affection and attention for ONE woman. And when I’m in between women I love, I’m saving that LOVE energy for the next contestant—not the last one. You’re either IN…or you’re OUT. Ain’t no half azz B/S going on here. But that’s me. And as I’ve stated in the past: I’m not THE man for every woman…and EVERY woman isn’t the lady for me: But I’m cool with that.

@DC Man

I cant tell you how to love ,but if you dont find a lady you can love(or if you are incapable of) unconditional love you will never have a successful relationship.

Beautiful poem. Gets me a different kind but still wet this Wednesday. Like the change of pace.
On a sidenote: I have an issue with people always talking about not “changing” someone, or not changing themselves etc. I think it is a way of getting out of actually GROWING as a person. Which people can and do. Otherwise no relationships would ever work. PS. And YES there is such a thing as unconditional love.

* I am not a buddhist, but read about it nor am I claiming this is the “faith” to follow*As my man The Buddah would advise, if you want to truely have peace within yourself and others, you love all as they are unconditionally. Period. How can you give love if it isn’t unconditional? You are giving yourself on limit on your own love. As hard as it is to do, you should love all as if you bore them as your child or the love you have gotten lucky to receive from a mother or witnessed (extreme and usually takes the lifetime of a buddhist to accomplish, but you get my drift). I don’t see how you can genuinuely tell someone you love them and it not be unconditional..that’ s like saying Boo i love you but only when you dress nice, or only when you good to me, or when I am down…it doesn’t make sense to love with conditions :\ JMO

*BTW, Love the blog & love reading yall go back and forth and Elle you a trip and we could so be friends lol no homo

@ DC Man. I can usually empathize with a lot that you posts even if I don’t agree. but like wow!! Here are some points for you to possibly ponder. . .

Suppose your son was NOT caught and came home and told you he murdered someone in cold blood. No one knows, so there is no embarrassment and no shame. Would you still cut him off, or would the relationship continue?

What if the woman you loved dropped the man she was about to marry and decided to marry you? Same amount of integrity . . . why do you love her?

What if the spouse had unprotected sex with someone and gave you a curable, non life-threatening STD. Same action on their part, but take an antibiotic and poof . . . all gone. Could you work through it and possibly forgive them?

My point is simply that IMO real love does not vanish based on the isolated actions of the person you love. Of course I am not talking the extreme cases here, son is not a serial killer, girlfriend is not the town bike, and spouse has not had 20 partners in the last 5 years. But if I take My personal pain out of it (because I will get over it sooner or later), the person is still the person I loved.

Though I am not too sure I could not take back the guy who dumped me and then married someone else. He would have to have an “Act of God” excuse. LOL

Unconditional love should not be mistaken with unconditional dedication: unconditional dedication refers to an act of the will irrespective of feelings (e.g. a person may consider they have a duty to stay with a person); unconditional love is an act of the feelings irrespective of will.

That is a definition, I thought I would add to the discussion.

I do believe in love and I have felt the redeeming effects of loving and being loved, however I still reject the concept of romance as an artificial construct. One in which I do not place much stock.

Every time a discussion about love comes up, I am reminded of the directive that “Love is a verb not a noun.”

Because I don’t think society views love that distinctively by the casual way so many throw the word around. it seems to lose it meaning.

@ Rasta – “unconditional dedication refers to an act of the will irrespective of feelings (e.g. a person may consider they have a duty to stay with a person); unconditional love is an act of the feelings irrespective of will.”

Well defined. Though the two are distinctly different, the latter often follows (or becomes a result of) the former.

I love the poem because the way you see her is the way she should already see herself.

@DC

I was raised in a family who always guaranteed me unconditional support no matter what I do. As a little girl I was assured by my mom that even if I was in jail for murder (yes, she used that example with a 5 year old … lol) she would always have my back. And knowing this helps me to this day. I can feel safe to make unpopular decisions knowing that my family will not “abandon” or punish me because they do not approve. I guess it is obvious that we come from totally different places as far as this matter is concerned.

As for the other examples: Those are indeed extremes but because a man who I love gave me HIV I wouldn’t stop loving him in my heart. Would I be angry? Of course. Would I want to choke him? Likely. But underneath it all, I can’t stop loving somebody once I do. Love may change over time or my actions in regards to that person may change but I still have love in my heart for all my exes.
Or the other example of a man not wanting to work on our relationship: well it is his life and he has to do what he feels is right for him. I certainly wouldn’t be happy about his choice. But regardless of it, I would still love him even when we are no longer an item.
I do not allow anyone to take my kindness for a weakness and walk all over me. But if I can help somebody – whether it is a family member, friend, ex or a stranger – I will. It is just my nature. And as a matter of fact, a week after my ex broke up with me he did call me to ask if I could borrow him money and I did. Why did I? Because I could. I had the money and he needed it. Besides I know him well enough to know that this was harder and more humiliating for him than it was for me and that he would only turn to me as a last resort. A day later I had my money back.
So yea, I am wired quite differently but it works for me.

PS: @Lex

haha@no homo … Thank God not all ladies have a problem with other women!

I appreciate the ability to share a view whether it be popular or not, bcuz when it’s all said and done–I’m not here for dating, or to make friends and none of y’all chipping in on my mortgage, so uhmmm, I take it all with a grain of salt. I never said I would stop loving anyone. I said I could stop allowing them to benefit from my love. In other words, love from a distance; love without contact; love through memories and perhaps, thoughts of what could have been. I think it takes courage to say I’m not God and I therefore do not guarantee anyone that I will be logical or even reasonable compared to whatever social norms one may agree exists. All I can say is I’m consistent and I know myself better than any other human being. I do not believe you can EVER know another, better than you know yourself.
@ Da Throne: I did not ask you to tell me how to love, nor to describe what your concept of love is. I’m a divorced father of 3 who was married for 20 years. No matter what you or anyone else up in here may think or say, I am certain I know what love is, how to receive and give it and I have had NO problem being in love, attracting love or playing like I was in love (That was back in my younger days).
It’s all good. I’m entitled to my view, you to yours. If everyone else responding to this topic is on one accord–I’m still good with my conviction on what love is and isn’t. I’m still gonna do me. And I still have tremendous love for self. I also have respect for everyone elses right to have their own opinion.

@ Elle: I come from a very tight knit, religious family who unabashedly show love for one another. So you are NOT the only one with a loving background. My parents always let it be known: No matter the age, you ALWAYS have a place to live as long as they have a place to live. A lot of hypothetical scenarios are easy to answer bcuz no one knows if you’re giving an off the cuff response, or one that you have carefully considered. AND there is always the chance, that how you THINK you will react to a givin situation, will in fact turn out to be incorrect. I never lose sight of that fact, bcuz I’m not in denial and I know alot about human nature and my nature in particular. So your mom has your back even if you’re a murderer? Cool. Personally, if I was a murderer, I wouldn’t want my families support. I wouldn’t want them to put up their house so I could get a better lawyer. Seems selfish to me, to put others in a bind when you know you’re guilty. At some point in time, you have to be responsible and deal with the messes you’ve made; choices you made; decisions you made without dragging everyone around you down too. I’d actually hope I’d confess and take my punishment, sparing my love ones the anguish of wondering what is true. But that’s me.

It’s feels weird when I read this because it’s the kinda thing I’ve been thinking about my entire adult life…a woman so beautiful, so amazing that there is not one thing about her I see as a flaw..I hope I live log enough to be blessed with this kind of romantic love…

@ My future wife

I Love You : )

@ BMW2K: If my son came to me and confessed, I’m going to try to convince him to turn himself in and take his punishment like a man, but ultimately, it’s his call, but I’m not gonna shelter him from the law. If the woman I loved, who left me for another man, comes back and decides she wants to marry me after all–NOT gonna happen. My trust for her would have been destroyed and I would not be interested in trying anything with her again. Sometimes, you just gotta accept the way shyt happens, whatever the reason. For me, there is no going back in a scenario such as that. Back in my younger days, I actually did stay with a woman I was in love with, who gave me a curable STD, so I’m sure I could possibly do it again, but it would depend on how and why it happened. Were we separated, broke up? Was she just on travel for her job for a few weeks and had a weak moment when she saw an old flame? The reason would matter; Nothing is guaranteed when it comes to violations of trust. And I would accept and respect the same from my woman. If I step out on her….I would understand it if she could no longer be with me. I’m sure I would not like it; might realize down the road I F*cked up, but that’s part of life: You hardly EVER get a do-over, So you gotta be able and willing to live with the shyt you do…..
Pain does fade, trust can be restored, life goes on. But it is also awesomely powerful to know that you CAN survive and thrive without the person who abused your trust, dishonored and disrespected you. There is a STRENGTH in knowing my life will go on and be just as good if not better without HER…….I do not believe in ONE soul mate, hence the reason I’m not willing to accept any old B/S for the sake of love. It would take 10 to 20 years from today—to SEE how everyone who has commented on this piece, faired with their LOVE belief system; To see if any changed; became jaded; developed other ideas. We don’t have that type of connection…but it WOULD be interesting to have this discussion again in 2039……

Romance is definately SEXY!!! Great Read!!!!

IMO, Unconditional love is something that you only find once you are completely ready for it..

@*SouthernComfort*

Sorry for late reply.

If you’re not sure, then you’re probably already sure that he’s not the one. Just because someone is a great person doesn’t mean their the right person for you. Trust me, I’ve been on the other side of that conversation my fair share of times.

Also, fear shouldn’t be the catalyst for love. You said your scared you won’t find someone to love you like him, the only fear you should have is losing someone you love just as much. If you don’t have that feeling in your gut, can you honestly say you won’t see yourself bored eventually or seeking something more? If not then stick with what you want, but based on your post sounds like your heart is not in it. Better to end it sooner than later so you both can move on to your own “right” people.

@ DC Man – Sorry for the late response.

I agree with your response post completely. This sounds more like a person who has compassion, and from my standpoint that is where unconditional love stems from. The strength you talk about? I don’t believe you can have unconditional love without it. Those who don’t have that strength (or esteem) to love and value themselves can NEVER truly love another. They can only be dependent.

I agree, it may be hard to digest if you have not experienced it. But is it impossible to experience it if you don’t believe it exists? Before meeting my mate, I did not know if a soul mate existed, but I knew that I wanted more than what I saw in other relationships and more than what I had experienced.

As for the 2039 comment, you can ask me again in about 2.5 years because that will mark 20 years for me with the same person. As someone who swore I would never commit to any dumb-A** male, I am still in a state of disbelief. We just passed our 15th wedding anniversary over the holiday and it probably took me about 13 of those years to believe it was possible.

Ok – off my soapbox.

Congrats, BMW2K to you and your man. Keep that good thang going in what ever manner works for the both of you. Peace, harmony and continued blessings!

i wonder where men with these eyes are hiding.. great post… nothing sexier than pure unconditional love.. partly because its so hard to find. loved it.

I can truly identify with this poem I am in a relationship with a beautiful woman that I LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY. That first verse is one of the realest to me b/c sometimes its hard for the other person to understand how you can love them like that if they have never experienced it.

HI, I AM NEW TO VIEWING YOUR SITE I SAW IT AS AN ADVERTISEMENT AND THIS POEM IS DEFINITELY MY SITUATION BECAUSE I HAVE SOMEONE WHO LOOKS AT ME LIKE THIS, WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER SINCE JUNIOR YR OF HIGH SCHOOL UNTIL PRESENT. I CANT SEEM TO LOOK PAST HIS FLAWS I CANT SEEM TO BE AS AFFECTIONATE AS I WANT WITH HIM, NOR CAN HE GAURANTEE AN I LOVE YOU EVERY TIME WE SPEAK, THO I DO LOVE HIM. AS EXPLAINED BY *SOUTHERNCONFORT AM I SELLIN MY SELF SHORT OR TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF HIM. ALTHOUGH I WANT TO BE HERE FOR HIM AND I HAVE BEEN HERE FOR HIM, BUT WHY IS IT THAT I CANT FEEL N SEE HIM THE WAY HE SEE’S ME. I NEVER BEEN IN A LONG RELATIONSHIP BEFORE. i ONLY HAD 3 BOYFRIEND INCLUDING HIM, AND THEY ALL STARTED IN HIGH SCHOOL, WHEN I WAS YOUNG AND WASNT SERIOUS BUT NOW I AM 20 AND I AM WITH MY HIGH SCHOOL SWEET HEART. THIS CONVERSATION CAME UP TODAY BEFORE I CAME ON YOUR SITE. HE SAYS THAT HE CANT LEAVE ME BUT HE WANTS TO AND THAT ONE DAY IMMA MISS HIM, BUT HIM SAYING THAT ISN’T HITTING ME. I DONT WANT TO LOOSE HIM N NOT FIND SOMEONE WHO HAS TREATED ME N LOVE ME THE WAY HE HAS..