I don’t believe you should without telling your friend especially if you know, but it happens. When you just being physical/with no strings you gotta keep your feelings in check and be 100 about it. If the sex is that great you might want to lock them down because sometimes the homie can put it down where you can’t get it no more then that ass get mad.

I know people say their friends have different tastes but sometimes friends like your taste and if you say its just sex then that leaves the door open. Be careful how you say things and to who!!! We always forgive the friend quicker the man or woman that comes between us.

I have been that homie but I always said what it is to my friend cause I don’t like surprises. Whenever I am done with an EX, I am done with them so they can smash who they want just not in my damn house!!

Would I do it again? Nah. That’s just whore-ish. I gots mine and it served its purpose. Such a double standard, but I would have been 38 mad if my best homegirl had slept with him. On to the next.

Men and women sleep with friends unknowingly and knowingly sometimes. It happens. Just be mature about it and do what is necessary to preserve sanity and the relationship/ friendship.

Do you think it’s okay if it’s on some real love level?
-Well it takes a while to fall in love with someone. I feel like you shouldn’t even let it get there in the first place. If you never spoke to him/her in the first place, love wouldn’t even be an issue. Not worth losing a good friendship over something that might amount to nothing.

Is it okay for your friends to talk to someone you only dated briefly? If so, are serious exes are off limits or open game if you’re really over them?
-Well, they could and I may or may not feel some type of way but I definitely will rethink what kind of friend they are just because I would never do that. I mean there are plenty of men out there, why they gotta get with mine? Serious exes are off limits…no exceptions.

Would you cut off a friend that started dating your ex?
-Depends on how she handled the situation and who the ex is. If she went behind my back then we’d have to part. Can’t deal with all that drama. Got enough problems already.

Do you think it’s true that guys are less likely to get bent out of shape over their current girl having been smashed by a homie than women?
-Nah, guys are mad territorial like someone said above. I feel like they might actually care more because they are less likely to admit it and instead will just harbor the bad feelings and let them build up. Whereas, a girl probably wouldn’t be able to hide her true feelings about the situation.

Do you think it makes a woman look “bad” if she’s slept with mutual friends?
-You mean like if she breaks up with a dude and gets with his friend? Yeah, I think it does but only if she knew met the friend via her ex. If they just happen to cross paths and she later finds out the new guy is friends with her ex..well then that’s ok.

Is there a double standard where men don’t get the same stigma?
-Definitely.

Would I care if one of them hooked up with someone I dated previously? Nope. I would be happy they decided to upgrade. However, I don’t think the guys would because they are all married now as well.

I don’t think males or females do well with this though. They just have different reactions.

Though knowing that these were purely sexual ventures, is another thing altogether. I dont think I could go any further than sex with someone that “smashed the homie.”

This type situation is circumstantial… You can’t help who your attracted to nor you fall in love with.. however… if one of my homegirl’s decides that she wants to approach my Ex because of stories i told her about us.. then no.. thats not cool.. which is why you DONT talk to your girlfriends about you and YOUR man…

Personally… I have dated a guy that went out with someone I knew.. were we friends..no.. we just had casual conversations.. shared a few laughs… but I did notice that after I started dating him she all of a sudden had a sudden interest in being my friend..(yea ok)!!

Would I personally want date my friend’s Ex.. NO.. Sharing is NOT caring… but like i said.. Some things cant be controlled..

But other than brief courtships with no sex involved… Exes (male or female) are off limits…

It’s a tricky situation, where 1 minute u and yr girl are swapping stories, the next she’s tryna sample some of that ish u were telling her about a couple months back. I can understand the awkwardness of having to tell yr friend that. So she stalled *shrug*.

I had a brief sexual relationship with a guy that lived in my apt. complex about 2 years ago. My BFF was very aware of what was going on cause we discuss pretty much everything. She had seen me with him on several occasions.

So anyhoo, they had a class together and she informed me that he had been slipping her notes in class about hooking up with her. And she brought it to his attention that she was my bff and doesn’t get down like that. So that was that….so I thought.

Fast forward 2009….I receive a text one day asking me about what type of relationship I had with the guy from 2 years earlier. I explain it was never anything serious just a few late night fixes. She then asks the question of how I would feel if something was to come up between the two of them. So now I’m confused….what’s something that would “come up?” She explains that they had been talking on and off since he graduated in 07 and now it was becoming more serious and she just wanted to make sure it was okay with me before they went any further. I said oh..ok..cool no biggie…do you.

My thing is I don’t have a problem with her being in a relationship with dude BUT why is this just being brought to my attention. We usually always share who we’re dating or “smashing” lol, in full detail, but some how that just slipped her mind to tell…BS.

To this very day, she still hasn’t even breathed to me that they are “official”. And this has been since August. She’s informed our other mutual friends but not me….hmmmm (Conscience is a MF). I would have been perfectly fine with it if she just would have kept it 100 from the jump. So now she is suspect to me for being sneaky.

With that being said…..nah I wouldn’t mess with another of my friend’s exes….cut buddy or hubby material. I trust their judgment and if they let them go, it probably was for a good reason.

Better yet, have you already or do you know someone that has?——————
Not particularly. But I’m pretty sure that I have friends that did.

Do you think it’s okay if it’s on some real love level?——————————–
For me, no. But to each their own.

Is it okay for your friends to talk to someone you only dated briefly?—————-
Yeah go in. I got to be secure about myself.

If so, are serious exes are off limits or open game if you’re really over them?——————–
Off limits unless I’m really really cool with them. Why would I want to see them everytime I chill with one of my boys.

Would you cut off a friend that started dating your ex?————————
He better have a good reason to be dating her. And a good dude.

Do you think it’s true that guys are less likely to get bent out of shape over their current girl having been smashed by a homie than women?————
I don’t know. Some guys I know are pretty emotional about the silliest things. If we were at a bar or something and they saw their ex-chick hooking up with their dude theyd probably flip.

Do you think it makes a woman look “bad” if she’s slept with mutual friends?———————-
Yep.

Is there a double standard where men don’t get the same stigma?————
I guess. If my boy pipes out two female friends at two different times then we are going to laugh about it.