Comments on: Men That Cross Their Legs Like Girls (Does He Look Gay?)

By: Ms. Parker

Ms. Parker — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 17:38:15 +0000

I see men cross their legs and I don’t see anything gay about it at all.

By: ForDating

ForDating — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 14:36:04 +0000

I also think that it looks kinda gey but I know some of my straight friends who sometimes sit like that. So I don’t think it indicates that a man is gay, however more gay men sit like that than straight men.

By: Jan

Jan — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 05:30:42 +0000

I find all of this really funny but intresting to read! I think it’s a (sub)culture-thing. In some sense you could say the US is a more masculine-society than Europe – if that is a good thing…well I’m not sure.

I’m European (Belgian) myself, 21years old, I always kiss my older male familymembers (father, uncles, grandfathers,…). May that be in public or in closed familycircle – actually everyone does it exept Muslim-immigrants. I find that really strange because it’s normal in their culture, in Iran or Pakistan you even can see guys walking hand-in-hand as a sign of friendship.

To the how-do-you-sit part; Well I think it’s a subculture thing. All of the old men I encountered in my life sat with their legs crossed.
Our Kings, prime ministers, presidents, journalists, CEO’s, my professors,… all sit this way.
I remember once when I was 15 or 16, me and my friends were at our typical hang-out bar and I sat cross-legged not thinking about it and a friend mentioned it as being ‘weird’.
What he actually meant was “weird for our age” – ’cause in your teens you need to be like “I’m the man”. Nowadays – 5 or 6 years later – we just sit like we want to.

But what I also want to add is that I think the cross-legged sitting position in fact is a sign of class and maturity. Sorry, but I just can’t imagine a man who has some position to hold high sits like somekind of peasant or dockworker with their heel on their knee.

By: bogart4017

bogart4017 — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 21:12:37 +0000

I can’t cross my legs thigh ov3er thigh. My foot falls asleep.
The only people i see wearing skinny jeans out my way are white sk8r bois.

By: Smartass

Smartass — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 10:58:12 +0000

Actually its a way of showing proper……ug whats the word? In the business world men did it so they were showing off their balls. Wear a suit & sit down…it shows em if u gotem. I dont cross my legs because its very uncomfortable but some guys can & its basically same concept as a woman doing it.

By: kittykat_meow

kittykat_meow — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 04:58:37 +0000

My boyfriend is 6′5 and he prefers to cross his legs (like a figure 4) and he had me look up on the internet if crossing your legs is a “gay thing” to do. Honestly, I believe if you’re comfortable with yourself and your sexuality rather than other people’s opinions, then it doesn’t matter. I find it very sexy, especially when he’s is shaved, smelling good with cologne and he only has his boxers on. MEOW!!!!

By: BMW2K

BMW2K — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 12:42:56 +0000

I think it is a height thing. Most of the men in my family are over 6ft, and many of them sit this way. For them to sit ankle to knee would require their kneed to take up half the couch or bump the chair arm etc. Particularly on a subway. It would be really rude to take up more than one seat. Oddly enough, the gay relative I have does not sit this way, and dresses thugged out.

By: Full of Fire

Full of Fire — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 03:44:01 +0000

ummm… why every time theres a post about “gay” are there a bunch of posts talkin about furthering tolerance and acceptance…what if i dont wanna be tolerant or acceptant.. i mean i have nothing against homosexuality but i think everyone needs to stop pushing their agenda off on others…when there is a discussion about fat, ugly or angry people noone gives a damn about tolerance so ughhhh….THIS IS A BLOG…stop gettin personally offended…

and personally i feel it all depends on the dudes swagger but i highly doubt i’d be attracted to a man that sits like me even though i have older men in my family who do this as well…

By: Nay77

Nay77 — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 03:04:32 +0000

My husband crossess his legs the same way, when he did it the first time when we were dating it just didn’t look right. I brought it up and he said there is nothing wrong with it and showed me pictures where President Obama is crossing his legs the same way. I think you will find the older generation of men doing this and I have learned to overlook it.

By: copy

copy — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 01:49:57 +0000

We are way too homophobic, especially black society (or whatever the hell it’s called). This DL non-sense is way too out of control where many black women think that from the way a black guy (or what have you) sits, walks, and talks makes him on the DL. Let’s stop with that nonsense.

By: sweetsexxybrown

sweetsexxybrown — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 00:38:06 +0000

Obviously one can’t tell a sexuality from the way one sits. But one would assume ‘gay’ is the diagnosis. I don’t particularly have a problem with a man crossing his legs as long as I’ve seen him do both ‘crosses’. I remember times my father did it. I remember episodes of the Cosby Show when Cliff did it (and I’m sure he wasn’t told to cross his legs,lol. I do think we’ve become a little too homophobic as a society. But we have to understand as a human there are traits that a man and woman have individually and traits that we share. I think crossing the legs is one of them.

As for the skinny jeans on the men…I’m SO AGAINST IT!!!! Let your love below breathe!!! Also looks too feminine. Plus I don’t want to see your ‘business’ screamin for help. Just believe certain fashions should not be shared by both sexes.

By: Alexandria

Alexandria — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 21:09:49 +0000

Well if men sitting with their legs crossed is a sign of being gay, then there are a lot of men around me who are gay, including my own dad and my dad is not gay. I’ve even seen President Obama sitting with his legs crossed in a photo.

I honestly think it is a generational thing because I can name off the top of my head at least 15 to 20 men, family friends, from church, etc who sit cross legged and they are in their late 30’s and up. How can a guy sit crossed legged when his pants are so low? I can only imagine that that would be uncomfortable. I am 22 and I am nowhere near being old fashion, but that really is a pet peeve of mine when guys do that. I can see what your boxers look later.

Homosexuality is so much more prevalent today than it’s ever been before. That, and the fact that people lead double lives aka DL. Nowadays, people are quick to point out something as being gay, whether they mean sexually or not. It’s just to sign of the times I guess. Who knows what will be thought to be gay next.

I asked my mom what she thought about this and she said she also would not assume a guy is gay from him sitting with his legs crossed.