Pointing the corny finger @ Ans! LOL (I havent forgetten about the corny finger)

I dont do ice breakers. My whole personality is an ice breaker. Im never at a lost for words unless I want to.

I dont think anything is “Off Limits” at the sametime I dont like being sized up in the first five minutes. Lets just enjoy each others company (or atleast try) before we decide weither we’re soulmates or not. I think before people relationship becomes intimate they should establish a friendship.

#s 6&18 are smart questions to ask. I think the answers could be very telling about character and compatibility. #12 just made me laugh out loud!

As far as your blind date, I think it would have gone much better if both of you had had a chance at bat. She ended up carrying the whole thing & that put you at a disadvantage. IMO

I answered a forum along this same line on another site, and original poster asked for 10 questions. Here a few I would ask:
-Are you doing what you thought you would be doing at this time in your life?

-What do you still dream about doing?

-What’s on your iPOD/in your CD player in heavy rotation?

@da thRONe

Blah, blah.

What you doing here early anyway? Damn, daylight savings time set my post off early. No fair.

LOL

these questions are actually pretty creative and might make me think that the person asking them really knew how to think out of the box, so that would give them some bonus points. however, the power drill question is really random lol.

Those were pretty cool! Gosh I wish more guys would prepare their own lists like this! Except for the ‘when did u last cry’ question (which can be a little too personal for a first date IMO!) the rest would definitely get me talking and laughing (power drill!?) lol

Except the “when did you last cry” question those are some pretty interesting and “out of the box” questions I am sure a lot of people would appreciate on any first date – blind or not.

I love Number 12 … LoL. That’s a good one.

Generally, creativity ranks verrrrry high with me and I am sure with most people. So yup, I guess we all should come up with similar questions next time we go on a date. Matter of fact, I think I will steal yours *yoink*

Personally, I am an open book. With me it’s like “ask away”, I am not ashamed. Nothing is really off limits. If a guy wants to get to know the real Elle, he shall get the real Elle. Hopefully, he can take it. Because as open and as blunt as I am about myself, I am the same way in regards to asking him some way out questions. If he thinks that’s too personal, ok, I am not dying for an answer but it would raise an eyebrow with me. This is besides the point though.

During my first, real convo with my ex he told me he had slept with a tranny before when he was going through a rough time in his life and was tryng to figure his place in this world out.
I didn’t freak out about it at that time because I thought it was super honest and I appreciated the fact that he confided in me with something so personal. Especially, since he had never told anybody else about this. But I must admit I could never get this out of my head again and always wondered if he is “in the closet” or has a preference for transsexuals but is too afraid to live it openly.

I have never gone on a blind date, but I like the questions. As a matter of fact, I think the questions are good questions for any first date because some of the answers could be quite telling. Additionally some of them add some serious humor.

I LUV #15. There is something sexy about a man who knows how to fix stuff.

I do like the IPod/MP4 question that Lonias suggested . . . I would add that to the list. I might also add something about the last book they read or their favorite blog. I like to know what people are reading.

@virtue5 & GV1584

The power drill thing is actually based on something a girl told me. She was like every woman should own a power drill in case you have to put something up. At the time I didn’t have a power drill. Needless to say I do now (two in fact). LOL

Think that’d def start a conversation on why you should or shouldn’t have one. Def silly banter would ensue and break ice

These are much better questions than I’ve been asked lately. I am sooo tired of the what do you do what kind of music do you like questions. These are good and will def help start up interesting convo. My favorite question is who was your favorite elementary school teacher. Funny how much I remember her. No one ever asks about things like that. Nice.

I like these questions — except one. Maybe it’s because I was a writer in NYC for so long and got so sick of friends calling me Carrie all the damn time (for one thing, I’m black and for another, if I was that successful at my career I wouldn’t be dumb enough to spend all my $$$ on Blahniks!), but asking me about Sex and the City characters would get you a (slightly) good-natured icegrill from me.

The iPod question is great, as long as you’re not using it as some sort of hipster litmus test. I got a great variation on that question from a colleague. He asked me to name the 5 albums I’d listen to if I was stuck on a desert island. I had to really think about that one and it was a definite icebreaker!

I love the questions! I like for ppl to ask different questions! I think some of them might’ve been too personal for a first date for some ppl but they’d definitly strike up convo!
I find myslef asking crazy questions too, being yourself (I’m randomly silly) really does weed out the potentials from the “keep it movin’s.”

The questions were pretty good. However I would never use them on a date or a blind date. It’s easier to go with the flow of things. U don’t want to be sitting up asking a person questions and them feeling like there on the witness stand. Plus by them answering them is still not telling you a whole lot. That person could be lying or anything. Why not just feel out the questions in a conversation you all might have. That way u can kind of get a better sense then just putting a person on display with there whole personal life. I say good questions but screw them, let the conversation just flow easssyyyy! If it doesn’t work, I mean no conversation or anything and you both are just sitting there looking crazy just get up, leave they ass, & never call they ass again! JUST KIDDING! Just make the best of the nite.

One time I was on a date with this sexy, intelligent, articulate man who I was simply smitten by. We went through the gammut of typical first date questions. When he asked me if I was on birth control? What kind and how long? I was so shocked I had to pick my mouth of the table. Needless to say our courtship was short-lived.

These are better than most questions you get during a first/blind date. They would definitely be good ice breakers and the topics would make that person stand out. Yes, I have had a blind date before and it was horrible. Nothing to talk about, just sitting there like “I could of had a V8!” I don’t think any of the questions were corny but 1 and 12 are just a bit weird. Great post!

How about something a guy shared with me without asking (damn has it got to the point we actually have to ask this lmao)
the guy told me that his parents raised him in a satanic cult WTF!!!!!!!!

My fave question that I was ever asked was “So you like guys and girls right”? LOL. He follows me on twitter and wasn’t for sure about me.

im making a mental note on some of these questions..i have a first date this week coming up!!!!

Got a date on Thursday. Will be stealing from you.

These questions are dope…Imma def add some of these to the reserve.

@ Elle

You are definitely a strong individual to accept that about ur ex cuz that is side-eye material at it’s best

Many of these question are my ice questions or some form of them. I dont like asking the nor question! Love the list!

@Jay

Thank you. Like I said I thought the fact he confided in my with such info spoke volumes about his honesty. And 100% honesty is hard to come by these days when people tend to send their representatives to the first 50 dates.

THE CHOICE OF QUESTIONS ARE ON POOINT, BUT I WOULD LIKE TO ADD ONE MORE. NOT TO GET AHEAD OF MYSELF OR TRYING TO ASSUME ANYTHING, BUT TELL ME SOMETHING AOUT YOUR KIDS.

@Elle

That is wild though. But I will agree I think honesty is huge when you can get it. Too bad most people cant handle it which force most to be fake.

Did he leave you for a Tranny? He should come to N.O. he would have a field day. LOL!

@ da ThRONe

Yeah, honesty is key. I am a very understanding and empathic person who can deal with almost everything under the sun as long as I know about. But hiding in hopes of me not finding out feels like an insult to a) my understanding nature and b) my intelligence. And I do not take being “insulted” too well.

noooo, he did not leave me for anyone else.
Self-esteem issues can lead people to do some way out things.

@Elle

Yeah like sleep with dudes that think their women! LOL! Ok thats my last one.

@Elle

As far as people not being up front you shouldnt take it personally. Like I said most people might not be as accepting as you and I are. I for one hate having my intelligence insulted but I can understand how hard it must be to bare your soul to somebody you like and your trying to get to know better.

@da ThRONe

Yeah, you are right, people are used to being judged etc. by others.
But I think as adults we shouldn’t give a flying phucc (excuse my French) about what others think about us. It’s a matter of strength and integrity IMO.

I do me and what I feel is right 100% of the time despite the outside world thinking I am crazy, stupid, selfish, naive, risk-happy or whatever the case may be. I stand behind everything I do and say. So on that note, I want to be in a relationship with a person who displays the same kind of approach to life. I try to avoid people who fold under (societal) pressure at all cost. But that is just a personal preference.

So while a confession like the one I mentioned definitely falls into the side-eye material category, it made me respect him that much more because he displayed strength (besides honesty) in telling me about his “darkest secret” at the risk of being judged and discarded. He was being true to himself and I love that about any person.

Ok, enough preaching.

Do You Recycle????

Adding a question to the list:

What’s the one item that you own that you absolutely cannot live without?

I like all of these and I think if you were to ask the “when did you last cry” question, it’d best be the last one. Then you get to console her and you know the rest…. lol