She’s In My Bed But Does She Want Me? (Mixed Signals)
I’ve come to accept the fact that men and women just think differently. Every once in a while, though, a woman’s line of thinking manages to throw me for loop. Such was the case a few weeks back.
My homegirl Yandi and I were having a discussion about how it’s easy for a man to misinterpret a woman’s signals. No matter how “obvious” women think batting eye lashes and flicking back hair is, the average man (not me at least) isn’t going to see that as a clear sign she’s interested. Guys are slow. We prefer clear and direct action over innuendo.
Somehow or other Yandi and I wound up on the topic of sharing a bed with someone for the first time. I’m sure I’m not alone in this but back in the day I couldn’t lay next to a woman without being consumed with the desire to make a move or at least trying one.
The problem is I never want to be disrespectful by making a move too soon or going somewhere I wasn’t invited. Most of the times I either toss and turn all night until I muster up the courage to cop a feel or eventually fall asleep with a major boner.
Yandi just shook her had at me and made the following declaration: “If a woman has an option of a couch or the bed and she chooses the bed, she’s thinking about sex.”
“What are you talking about,” I asked, confused. “I’ve shared a bed with plenty of women and made a move only to get a flag on the play for illegal use of hands.”
“That’s because she changed her mind.”
“But you just said if a woman is in your bed or invites you into her bed for the first time means she wants to have sex. Now you’re saying it doesn’t. Which is it?”
“No, I said if she has an option of a couch and chooses the bed she’s thinking about sex. That doesn’t mean she’s going to have sex with you but it’s definitely on her mind because otherwise she would’ve chose the couch.”
“But wait a minute, I’ve had women choose the couch because they knew if they got in my bed it’d be on.”
“Exactly.”
“What?”
“She wanted to have sex but for whatever reason she wasn’t ready. She knew if she got in the bed with you that something probably would’ve happen so she stayed on the couch. No woman is going to share a bed with a man she doesn’t want to sleep with if there’s a couch. It’s just on you to seal the deal.”
“So it’s getting kinda late, can I crash at your place tonight?”
“Sure, if you don’t mind sleeping on the couch.”
“Does that mean you wanna sleep with me or you don’t wanna sleep with me?”
“No comment.”
Cue Pharrell’s “Frontin’.”
Fin!
Do you agree that when a woman chooses to share a bed with a man that she’s planning to have sex with him? Is it true that a woman knows if she’s going to sleep with a man within the first meeting? What are some things a guy could do to ruin his shot at sex? Do woman prefer a man to make the first move to initiate sex the first time or keep his hands to himself? Would you be upset if you wanted to have sex but the other person didn’t make a move? Would you think they weren’t interested, respectful or just corny? Have you ever had a restless night laying next to someone you were attracted to? Did y’all ever have sex?
Speak your piece…
But that’s her.
“She’s In My Bed But Does She Want Me? (Mixed Signals)”