Comments on: Do You Use Condoms in a Committed Relationship? http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/ Daily discussions on sex, relationships and current events Mon, 15 Mar 2010 02:31:58 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Nate http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-39913 Nate Mon, 28 Dec 2009 18:17:26 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-39913 By committed, if you mean marriage, then it is perfectly acceptable to not use condoms, if your ready to have a baby or she is on the pill. If you married this person, you should trust him/her with your sexual health. Any other committed relationships, then it is prudent to wear a condom, if not for birht control, but your own health. By committed, if you mean marriage, then it is perfectly acceptable to not use condoms, if your ready to have a baby or she is on the pill. If you married this person, you should trust him/her with your sexual health.

Any other committed relationships, then it is prudent to wear a condom, if not for birht control, but your own health.

]]> By: STAFFONSGIRL http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-37630 STAFFONSGIRL Mon, 07 Dec 2009 00:50:50 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-37630 Smooches, everyone! 1. committed or not is YOUR health Your Responsibility? 2. when you profess love to someone or vice versa is there a Premise of OWNERSHIP? 3. We are dealing with human beings who make bad, wrong, and even hurtful decisions, so in saying that yeah you love me, support me, take care of me but I don't own you, and you don't own me so therefore the allegiance is to self in spite of Any Professed allegiance to the other! will I put my life in your hands in a Committed Relationship? This goes against SELF-Preservation As much as I want/need Love, I need my life more Smooches, everyone!
1. committed or not is YOUR health Your Responsibility?
2. when you profess love to someone or vice versa is there a Premise of OWNERSHIP?
3. We are dealing with human beings who make bad, wrong, and even hurtful decisions, so in saying that
yeah you love me, support me, take care of me but I don’t own you, and you don’t own me
so therefore the allegiance is to self in spite of Any Professed allegiance to the other!
will I put my life in your hands in a Committed Relationship?
This goes against SELF-Preservation
As much as I want/need Love, I need my life more

]]> By: Jatice http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-37320 Jatice Thu, 03 Dec 2009 04:06:38 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-37320 I didn't even know that I had the option to use condoms in a marriage. fml. I thought no one would want to use protection in a "committed relationship. I need to stop surrounding myself with scum. dayum. And I'm working on my masters degree. thanks man. thanks everyone who contributed by sharing comments. I didn’t even know that I had the option to use condoms in a marriage. fml. I thought no one would want to use protection in a “committed relationship. I need to stop surrounding myself with scum. dayum. And I’m working on my masters degree. thanks man. thanks everyone who contributed by sharing comments.

]]> By: Jatice http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-37315 Jatice Thu, 03 Dec 2009 03:45:11 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-37315 I think niggaz are lying. I'm a female and I've had lots of unprotected sex. In fact, I've probably had more unprotected than protected sex. I didn't know better and fuck anyone who says it's impossible to not know better. It's my truth. I know better now. This blog helps. I had the opinion that all men were scum bags but you give my screwed up head hope. thank you. Word um up! I think niggaz are lying. I’m a female and I’ve had lots of unprotected sex. In fact, I’ve probably had more unprotected than protected sex. I didn’t know better and fuck anyone who says it’s impossible to not know better. It’s my truth. I know better now. This blog helps. I had the opinion that all men were scum bags but you give my screwed up head hope. thank you. Word um up!

]]> By: OMG I Slept With Over 4 Million People (Sex Calculator) | FreshXpress.:.The PULSE of Young Black America http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-28178 OMG I Slept With Over 4 Million People (Sex Calculator) | FreshXpress.:.The PULSE of Young Black America Mon, 05 Oct 2009 10:05:23 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-28178 [...] because someone looks good/healthy doesn’t mean they are. It’s important to get tested, stay protected and most importantly talk to your partner about their past and sexual habits. I was brave enough to [...] [...] because someone looks good/healthy doesn’t mean they are. It’s important to get tested, stay protected and most importantly talk to your partner about their past and sexual habits. I was brave enough to [...]

]]> By: Ms. Phat Booty http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-19355 Ms. Phat Booty Fri, 31 Jul 2009 14:46:31 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-19355 @ Spinster I thank the Lord every day that I dodged that bullet. I just don't understand why TODAY some folks still choose to have casual sex with strangers without strangers. When I was growing up children were not born with HIV or AIDS, unlike today. @ Spinster I thank the Lord every day that I dodged that bullet.

I just don’t understand why TODAY some folks still choose to have casual sex with strangers without strangers. When I was growing up children were not born with HIV or AIDS, unlike today.

]]> By: Spinster http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-19304 Spinster Fri, 31 Jul 2009 02:15:53 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-19304 WOW. Thank goodness you dodged that bullet. :-| WOW. Thank goodness you dodged that bullet. :-|

]]> By: Ms. Phat Booty http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-19292 Ms. Phat Booty Thu, 30 Jul 2009 22:25:15 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-19292 If you want to get some love you need to put a glove on it! If you want to go in raw put two rings on it! When I was younger (in the beginning) I did not use condoms since I "believed" that I was in a committed relationship with my high school sweetheart of 6 years. He told me that he was with me and no one else and we planned to be married. Fast forward, dude goes away to college and starts to act brand new, my spidie senses tells me to start wrapping it up while with him. Fast-forward, I learn that he was cheating on me with some chick @ his school (long crazy story). Fast forward to two years ago he admits to me (13 years later) that he was fucking around on me the whole time we were together. The girl he cheated on me with @ his college he married and later learned that she gave him herpes and karma would have it that he now has testicular cancer (hence why he wanted to get right with the Lord and make amends with me). I am so glad that I listened to my intuition and started using condoms and I am so happy that I did not leave that relationship with a souvenir. Quite honestly, I may still use condoms when I get married since some men do stupid things based on bad judgment. If you want to get some love you need to put a glove on it!
If you want to go in raw put two rings on it!

When I was younger (in the beginning) I did not use condoms since I “believed” that I was in a committed relationship with my high school sweetheart of 6 years. He told me that he was with me and no one else and we planned to be married. Fast forward, dude goes away to college and starts to act brand new, my spidie senses tells me to start wrapping it up while with him. Fast-forward, I learn that he was cheating on me with some chick @ his school (long crazy story). Fast forward to two years ago he admits to me (13 years later) that he was fucking around on me the whole time we were together. The girl he cheated on me with @ his college he married and later learned that she gave him herpes and karma would have it that he now has testicular cancer (hence why he wanted to get right with the Lord and make amends with me).

I am so glad that I listened to my intuition and started using condoms and I am so happy that I did not leave that relationship with a souvenir. Quite honestly, I may still use condoms when I get married since some men do stupid things based on bad judgment.

]]> By: Dc Man with a Plan http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-13027 Dc Man with a Plan Thu, 04 Jun 2009 17:49:06 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-13027 @ Paulette...I was responding to your statement that said " there are millions of people living with STD's......and it doesn't make them any less human." Which to me, sounded kinda huffy-puffy, but my bad if I mis-construed your 'tone.' All of what you said IS true, but they're still stigmatized.......my nephew has type 1 diabetes.....he had NO control over getting it, but is he treated the same by everyone? Naw, not at all but that's life...and his life in particular. and I tell him to be ready to speak his piece when he feels he's being patronized or treated unfairly.....Diabetes is soo common place today, you'd think there wouldn't be a problem, but there is...and the beat goes on. I have spoken about my nephews condition and peeps acted like I said he had 3d stage cancer! So you don't have to tell me about new medicines being able to extend and improve the quality of life...THIS is still about the world we live in and it isn't always fair...so what if med's can help you live longer and almost 'normal' if people still treat you differently? All I was really conveying is WE don't care about all of that, which is why one of the greatest dilemmas for people with HIV is when do you tell someone you're dealing with that you have it? some peeps DON'T tell bcuz they know they'll be treated differently...That ain't right on either end.....but it's a reality...AND a whole nother blog subject so I'ma stop here. You just seemed to ME to expect everyone to be sympathetic and understanding...and in the abstract, that's easy....but when you're approached by someone with it--who you were thinkin of getting it on with...THEN whatcha gonna do? That's the angle I was referring to..and I'm NOT directing my comments to you....but to all of the sockheads.....So me and you are WAY COOL in my book. Based on some of your posts, I sho WOULD like to.... @ Paulette…I was responding to your statement that said ” there are millions of people living with STD’s……and it doesn’t make them any less human.” Which to me, sounded kinda huffy-puffy, but my bad if I mis-construed your ‘tone.’ All of what you said IS true, but they’re still stigmatized…….my nephew has type 1 diabetes…..he had NO control over getting it, but is he treated the same by everyone? Naw, not at all but that’s life…and his life in particular. and I tell him to be ready to speak his piece when he feels he’s being patronized or treated unfairly…..Diabetes is soo common place today, you’d think there wouldn’t be a problem, but there is…and the beat goes on. I have spoken about my nephews condition and peeps acted like I said he had 3d stage cancer! So you don’t have to tell me about new medicines being able to extend and improve the quality of life…THIS is still about the world we live in and it isn’t always fair…so what if med’s can help you live longer and almost ‘normal’ if people still treat you differently? All I was really conveying is WE don’t care about all of that, which is why one of the greatest dilemmas for people with HIV is when do you tell someone you’re dealing with that you have it? some peeps DON’T tell bcuz they know they’ll be treated differently…That ain’t right on either end…..but it’s a reality…AND a whole nother blog subject so I’ma stop here. You just seemed to ME to expect everyone to be sympathetic and understanding…and in the abstract, that’s easy….but when you’re approached by someone with it–who you were thinkin of getting it on with…THEN whatcha gonna do? That’s the angle I was referring to..and I’m NOT directing my comments to you….but to all of the sockheads…..So me and you are WAY COOL in my book. Based on some of your posts, I sho WOULD like to….

]]> By: paulette-BAJAN-gal http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-13019 paulette-BAJAN-gal Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:54:34 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-13019 @ DC.....maybe you're confusing me with Spinster.I just asked a question...I didn't leave a comment.Trying to figure out why you are telling me to calm down. But to answer the question...if my husband found out he had an STD or I found out I had one during the marriage it would make more sense for us to have each other's back...especially if we both are found to have it.In the case of cheating....we would have a lot more issues to deal with than an STD. In this time though...they are so many medicines to manage diseases that having a disease isn't the end of your life like it prob was back in the day.Cause the reality is...the parents commenting here...including you and myself have already put ourselves at risk when we had unprotected sex with the co-parent of our child/children. @ DC…..maybe you’re confusing me with Spinster.I just asked a question…I didn’t leave a comment.Trying to figure out why you are telling me to calm down.

But to answer the question…if my husband found out he had an STD or I found out I had one during the marriage it would make more sense for us to have each other’s back…especially if we both are found to have it.In the case of cheating….we would have a lot more issues to deal with than an STD.

In this time though…they are so many medicines to manage diseases that having a disease isn’t the end of your life like it prob was back in the day.Cause the reality is…the parents commenting here…including you and myself have already put ourselves at risk when we had unprotected sex with the co-parent of our child/children.

]]> By: Dc Man with a Plan http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-13015 Dc Man with a Plan Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:37:28 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-13015 Hey Paulette, calm down. There are NUMEROUS injustices in the world we live in--and some of them, I am not proud to say, are perpetrated by ME...Truth is truth. I'm not able to wear my holier-than tho halo yet, but hopefully I'll get there one day. So IF my wifey has an STD...obviously among the FIRST things we gotta get to the bottom of is When TF did this happen? Have I been in this hypothetical marriage two days or 6 years? It makes a difference bcuz one could be called ADULTERY...the other an unknown issue from the recent past. MY point is this: I would expect my future wife to be PISSED to no end....and would not hold it against her if she chose to WALK, were I the one who gave HER an STD......So like-wise, I would give myself the same options...to Be pissed, and yeah, perhaps to decide this ain't the one after-all...but it depends on the story that goes with the disease...If you had this shyt for a minute and didn't tell me...that ain't soundin good. If you didn't know and it somehow went undetected, we gonna have to talk with medical professionals and others to see what's up. But the fact is, I and others discriminate against peeps with STD's.....tell someone you have herpes...and many are going to leave you the f*ck alone. I understand it and I also understand the need to have compassion, to be sensitive...but then there is LIFE and the way we tend to be socialized to live it. People are shunned..and have been for millennium for this thing or that. Don't act like you're brand new! I recall seeing an episode of Tyler Perry's house of Payne, where this woman was talking to peeps about having HIV...and one woman wouldn't take a cookie from her.......It ain't right since it has nothing to do with how you catch aids...but the point is: that's life. It ain't always perfect, ain't always pretty, isn't always logical, but I try to be honest and real with mines.....so I don't always reflect the politically correct answer...but I'ma keep praying to God to work with me on that...ery'body else just gonna have to accept me as I am now...or keep it movin.. We ALL have choices....... Hey Paulette, calm down. There are NUMEROUS injustices in the world we live in–and some of them, I am not proud to say, are perpetrated by ME…Truth is truth. I’m not able to wear my holier-than tho halo yet, but hopefully I’ll get there one day. So IF my wifey has an STD…obviously among the FIRST things we gotta get to the bottom of is When TF did this happen? Have I been in this hypothetical marriage two days or 6 years? It makes a difference bcuz one could be called ADULTERY…the other an unknown issue from the recent past. MY point is this: I would expect my future wife to be PISSED to no end….and would not hold it against her if she chose to WALK, were I the one who gave HER an STD……So like-wise, I would give myself the same options…to Be pissed, and yeah, perhaps to decide this ain’t the one after-all…but it depends on the story that goes with the disease…If you had this shyt for a minute and didn’t tell me…that ain’t soundin good. If you didn’t know and it somehow went undetected, we gonna have to talk with medical professionals and others to see what’s up. But the fact is, I and others discriminate against peeps with STD’s…..tell someone you have herpes…and many are going to leave you the f*ck alone. I understand it and I also understand the need to have compassion, to be sensitive…but then there is LIFE and the way we tend to be socialized to live it. People are shunned..and have been for millennium for this thing or that. Don’t act like you’re brand new! I recall seeing an episode of Tyler Perry’s house of Payne, where this woman was talking to peeps about having HIV…and one woman wouldn’t take a cookie from her…….It ain’t right since it has nothing to do with how you catch aids…but the point is: that’s life. It ain’t always perfect, ain’t always pretty, isn’t always logical, but I try to be honest and real with mines…..so I don’t always reflect the politically correct answer…but I’ma keep praying to God to work with me on that…ery’body else just gonna have to accept me as I am now…or keep it movin..
We ALL have choices…….

]]> By: Spinster http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/05/29/do-you-use-condoms-in-a-committed-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-13002 Spinster Thu, 04 Jun 2009 15:24:01 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=2006#comment-13002 Author: paulette-BAJAN-gal Comment: There are millions of people living with STDs today and it doesn't make them any less human.And if your spouse has an STD and you get it...what next?? Are you going to divorce the person or deal with the future together?? ____________________ Figured I'd answer this, rhetorical question or not. I would make SURE that the door hit him where the good lawd split him. :-| Putting my body and health at risk..... ultimate epic fail and ultimate hell no. Author: paulette-BAJAN-gal
Comment:
There are millions of people living with STDs today and it doesn’t make them any less human.And if your spouse has an STD and you get it…what next?? Are you going to divorce the person or deal with the future together??
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Figured I’d answer this, rhetorical question or not. I would make SURE that the door hit him where the good lawd split him. :-| Putting my body and health at risk….. ultimate epic fail and ultimate hell no.

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