Comments on: Why Do Black Women Think Every Man is Gay?

By: latermater

latermater — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 02:57:01 +0000

CUM on people!!!!!! guys on the DL are more addicted to the feeling of their prostate being scratched and are too stupid to let their ladies know about it. Because most of their Ladies are grossed out by it. But what pisses me off is if you find one lady that can make the feeling happen and you still do the DL WELL THEN YOU FUCKING GAY AND COME OUT ALREADY! THEN YOU LIKE COCK AND POWER! And these are the MOST insecure people around.

By: Beyond Illusions

Beyond Illusions — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 23:31:11 +0000

It’s true. All the City Parks have an area where men of all shapes ,sizes, ages, creeds & colors go to bust a nutt. It’s a dick thang….not a gay or straight thang. Men have been fucking each other for as long as their have been men. And no these practices are NOT limited to black men on the dl. But you will most certainly find the most unclockable , masculine least suspect dude out in the park fucking some ass or having his dick sucked. And vice versa. The term could be changed from DL to ‘doin what men do”. Not all men though!

By: Nicky

Nicky — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 20:38:29 +0000

Dating a man who is gay is like going on a job interview when you don’t have the required skills to get the job.

It ends up being a waste of time and leaves you feeling inadequate.

Most women, even white women I know, are skeptical about homosexual tendencies in men because we don’t have much time to waste (especially in our 30s) and hate feeling like we can’t meet the set standards.

In short, it’s no fair if we don’t have the equipment to compete.

By: CanReleate

CanReleate — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 16:44:12 +0000

I still love my sistas even though they are brainwashed by the media just like the brothers. Once again, we’ve been willie lynched.

By: CanReleate

CanReleate — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 16:37:50 +0000

I can relate to being suspected of being gay just because I’m quite and reserved and don’t exert a lot of arrogant testosterone (I guess that’s not a real man’s trait) That’s Bullshit.

I think most of the females that make these accusations are just making up an excuse to justify why they aren’t married or why their relationships don’t work. They need to look at themselves and wonder why they have these expectations of what a “real man” is (which they base off of images like 50 cent and DMX) and why any man that doesn’t fit that image is considered suspect. Sometimes it irks me, but its ok. I see that it’s a defense mechanism to cope with your lonely lifestyle (even if you are in a relationship).

By: bogart4017

bogart4017 — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 19:08:46 +0000

How is it women are always the first to know if you are cheating but are so damn surprised if you turn up on the “DL” list?
And to separate us (straight) from the girls (gay) what are we suppose to do—sport dirty fingernails and walk around in coveralls spitting tobacco and grabbing our fronts? Please.

By: New Money

New Money — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 20:04:07 +0000

yeah, there’s a lotta DL dudes running around… CLEARLY.
also, there are a lot of men who are straight, but due to lack of male influence in the household in the crucial formative years, may unconsciously pick up subtle tendencies we attribute to femininity.. hand gestures, etc. BUT..
i do know that both men and women in our culture have a tendency to both inflict, and fall victim to, overblown, beefed up, bordering on unrealistic ideas of male and female roles. So what happens is, sometimes when a woman is too comfortable in her less- than- ready- for- marriage sexuality, she is construed as dude- like, or as having ‘too much testosterone’. likewise, men who aren’t uber- macho 24/ 7 are looked upon as suspect.

.. having said all that,

Chance and Real are fucking gay.

By: Ameretta

Ameretta — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 22:02:35 +0000

Here’s my experience:

I attended school with someone, that had female tendacies. He dated women and always denied being gay. Four year later, he is gay!

Experience #2:

I worked with someone that had female tendacies. Something about him was just a little off! But he dated the most beautiful women!! he even told me about his sexual escapedes with some of these women! So we just thought we was weird in his own way! Come to find out @ years later he is out of the closet!!! Got pictures of his boyfriend on facebook and all!!!

Experience #3:

I knew a certain male dancer for years!!! He absoulutely professed his love of women for years on end!!He liked them big, small, fat, tall, round, short, skinny, dark, light, whatever !! If you were a woman he loved you!!!!! He is a Masculine man..a very manly man! Muscles to die for, skin as clear as the most highly quality diamond, smile that can make your legs weak and bottom lip quiver with lustful thoughts!!! Guess what?!?!?!? Two years ago he confessed to me that he is BISEXUAL!!! *What part of the game is this?!??!**

So I say this, it does not matter if your gaydar is on or off us woman will never know until the man is 100% in opening up to us!!

For all you Housewives of Atlanta fans….you probably thought NeNe’s stylist is 100% gay!!!! Guess what! He’s engaged………………
to a woman!!!!

Again *What part of the game is this?*

By: LadyPac

LadyPac — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 22:00:21 +0000

IMO, saying that men who screw around with men just keep it on the DL because they’re worried about being labeled and “having to choose between two worlds” is about as bad as saying “the man wants and does cheat with other women because he knows that if he confessed, she’d leave him.” Either way, it’s nothing but excuses for cheating. And the worst thing about cheating isn’t necessarily lying; it’s being disrespectful to his S.O.

Other than that, I believe (or at least, HOPE) that this whole DL issue is blown out of proportion. I know that I never dated a man who I suspected was even bi-curious, and none of my girls had that problem either.

By: Roderick

Roderick — Sat, 18 Apr 2009 19:03:21 +0000

“”Frequents gay bars because they “have the best buffalo wings,””. That’s a good one.

Before I even started reading this blog, I already was in agreement that it stems from ladies writing books and being on interviews that they’ve been with certain rappers and favorite black celebs (ie; the never ending debate of his sexual preference, Will Smith ((and Jada’s for that matter)) were playing on both sides of the fence.

The Metrosexual or übersexual phase added to that thinking. Though its not hip to label a man that anymore (Hi my name is Rod, and I am still, a metro). Whether we like it or not men’s fashion has blurred the line. Plus there are just about the same amount of grooming products, treatments, gels, and applicators for men as there are for women! Go to any Rite Aide or Duane Reade and see for yourself.

Which it is to say, it isn’t at all a bad thing. Guys are learning to take care of themselves more, put a bit more effort in their attire. Break the color barrier of just rocking navy, black, white, and if you’re a risk taker, brown. And its here I think that women’s Gaydar are on the fritz or needs an upgrade, because they are following an old form of detection which straight men have crossed long ago.

By: Ms P

Ms P — Sat, 18 Apr 2009 18:54:22 +0000

For the record I don’t think most women think men with manners (gentlemen) are gay. I know plenty of gay men who don’t hold doors open,etc. Unfortunately, I also know plenty of black heterosexual men who also won’t open a car door, hold a door open, etc. Please know Gentlemen are WELCOME & so appreciated. I love a man w/manners!! So please don’t think sistas think you are DL if you have manners or even if you are neat. However, IMO, long hair/permed hair is an effeminate feature. It doesn’t mean that you are gay. However, it is feminine which is why you don’t see many men wearing their hair like that. Hell, you don’t even see many black gay men wearing their hair like that. I simply do not like long hair on a man & I think it is feminine. And I have long hair myself so I am not jealous.

By: Deshair Foskey

Deshair Foskey — Sat, 18 Apr 2009 16:45:40 +0000

Being a man that loves fashion, coordinating my colors and wearing clothing that fits properly, I’m sure that some women would think that I’m gay. The fact that I hold open doors for women, talk with a proper tone, never get caught sneaking peaks at a lady’s backside, I’m sure that some women would think that I’m gay. Being that I have offered my bed to a woman and slept on my couch, or shared my bed without making a slick move, or even spooning a woman up and not sneak touches or grind-ups, I’m sure that some women would think that I’m gay. My question is, “Why is it that a gentleman is now seen as being homosexual?”